Do you have to have the last word?
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In my younger days I always had to have the last word—at work and at home. Looking back, I’m not very proud of that.
When I was younger I was more like that. I think because I came from a fighting family and they functioned that way. My family also has some very smart, very educated (both self and formal) people in it, so they tend to believe that they know what they are talking about. They have been wrong more than once. Either because science changed or they just didn’t have their information straight. Once I realized this, I realized it’s way easier to be wrong than one might think. Lots of grey area. I also learned that both people in the fight can be right.
I don’t care about being right or winning, but I do care about learning and correct information. I see that if I look up information some people perceive this as me needing to be right or having the last word. With those people I tend to just let them “win.” I stopped caring if they live their life with wrong information. That’s the thing, it’s often tied in with not caring for me. It obviously depends what the topic is. For some things a difference of opinion has nothing to do with not caring, it’s just a difference of opinion.
I mean, it’s rude not to reply when you’re spoken to, isn’t it?
If I’m right, absolutely.
I finally learned as an adult that knowing my own truth was enough. I didn’t have to convince others.
The irony is that the people most likely to be bothered by this are other last-worders.
@ibstubro I’d respond, but I’m sleeping. Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz.
Depends on the importance of the discussion to me. If I’m not sure of myself or I don’t have an interest in the outcome of the discussion, no. If I believe the subject is important and I have a strong opinion, then yes I will push the issue.
I think your participation in a discussion automatically means you have “an interest in the outcome”, @FireMadeFlesh?
Only in a group discussion when people need to find a solution, but even then I don’t even notice that. Anyone with a good idea can go.
It depends. Usually now, in real life, I’ll stop and let the person think what they want. On the internet, I’ll usually stop, too.
My attitude toward opinions is I have mine, you have yours, and that’s ok. No need to argue about them. If it’s something factual, I’ll try to provide proof and usually won’t even argue unless I have proof first.
I think as I get older, I’m more like “whateverrrrrr.”
Yes, but when do you determine you have the best idea, @Mimishu1995?
Are you saying you’re jaded, @jca?
I’m sure you can expound on that simple answer, @cookieman!
This was one of the final questions asked on Wis.dm. :(
Of course. They won’t understand how wrong they are if they get the last word.
Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak out and remove all doubt? @Dutchess_III? ~
Very well, @cookieman.
@ibstubro: Older and wiser. Life is too short to engage in pointless arguments.
No, I just need to go far enough to make sure the wrong last word said doesn’t cause a good person or situation to end up wrong.
We already have some Yes answers… I wonder if this thread will ever end, or if the mods are going to have to shut down. ;-)
I hope this link works for having the last word.
We’ve been married almost 30 years, and I’ve learned a lot about diplomacy when having disagreements with my wife. Even when we’re discussing something she feels strongly about, I always have the last word, even if it is something like, “You’re absolutely correct!”
I do hoo-doo. Do you?
I just had to check. We’re in “Social”.
I neither have to, want to or need to, but…
So go do, that voodoo, that you do, sohhhhhhhhhh wellllllllllllllllll
@cookieman I said I don’t even notice. I just say an idea, then if everyone sees fit they agree.
Is that my last word here? Certainly, because it’s the latest post. ~
But what exactly is the last word?
The last word is the last word. The last word you see. Now go away and give me my last word title! ~
In a strictly temporal context, the last written word is the word at the end of this sentence, and it will be the last word until the next one is written.
I don’t know what the big deal is?
And the last word is still “is”.
Are you sure it is? Oh, my word!
Well, I vow not to rest until I know that the last word is a good word.
You mean the last word is “good?”
I’m gonna exhume a dead thread and get in a buncha last words. ;-p
A wonderful bird is the pelican;
His beak can hold more than his belican.
He can hold in his beak
Enough food for a week,
Though I’m damned if I know how the helican!
Dixon Lanier Merritt
@ibstubro To varying degrees. The importance of the discussion in my judgement is directly proportional to the effort I will put into having the last word.
Last word
dance sideways
crave Kensington Market to lift warm spring
life is blue
you is drifting smoothly
dance if I fall
somebody tall
never you.
link
Please take me home with you.
@ibstubro So that means I get the last word?
At least until there’s a JBM!
I just don’t understand the compulsion.
It’s just so foreign (no offense @Mimishu1995) to me.
I’ve never heard that song before, @BellaB
and never shall again
☠
ahhh Bay City Rollers weakness
I can’t even look at the Bay City Rollers directly on.
Isn’t it rude to not reply to a post? It’s not having to have the last word, it’s ingrained politeness!
<mulls posting another clip from the tartan connection ... or maybe KC and the sunshine band>
Don’t want to be impolite so here I am.
that wasn’t enough to put you off?
<Getting out of an exploding ruin>
Don’t have to, but it’s more fun to
Thought I had a chance with the site wobbles
that is something to ponder
Obviously, we have given it a lot of thought.
perhaps if you had some quiet time you’d come up with a clearer answer
But we still haven’t reached a conclusion.
Conclusion: this thread must go on.
If I had to have the last word it would have to be Slangwhanger!
Now, now. No pettifoggers, please.
This is going to be the new Cool Word thread.
I can see you when you do that
tinted windows would be a good idea
3, 6, 9.
The goose drank wine.
The monkey spit tabacca on da street car line.
Line broke.
Monkey got choke.
And they all went to heaven in a little row boat.
Three little angels, all dressed in white,
Tried to get to heaven on the tail of a kite.
The kite tail broke and down they all fell,
Instead of goin’ to heaven, they all went to…
(repeat for “two” and “one”, then next verse)
Three little devils, all dressed in red,
Tried to get to heaven on a red red thread.
The red thread broke and down they all fell,
Instead of goin’ to heaven, they all went to…
(repeat again for “two” and “one”, then, at the end of devil verse 3, sing…)
…Instead of goin’ to heaven, they all went to bed!
To his friend, Ned said, rather blue,
“My wife Edith just told me we’re through,
For she says I’m too fat.”
And his friend told him that,
“You can’t have your cake and Edith, too.”
Remember when Edith got menopause and she yelled, “Damn it!” at Archie and ran out of the room??!!
Norman Lear is 90-something, and still at it.
You’d think he’d done enough damage.
Yeah, but his daughters Goneril, Regan, and Cordelia are still pimpin the hood.
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