Is this depression?

I am not a doctor or therapist, so my opinion is not worth much.

It sound like situational depression to me. It would be helpful for you to talk to a doctor for a referral to a psychotherapist to evaluate you and make recommendations on either talk therapy or medication, or both.

Good luck, and hang in there!

It certainly could be but it may be emotional exhaustion. How long has it gone on? At the risk of sounding like a Cymbalta ad, I would say that if it has gone on for more than a month, talk to your doctor or a therapist. That doesn’t mean you need meds; my therapist thought my depressed feelings were pretty normal and understandable post-divorce but you might want to talk to someone.

And don’t be hard on yourself, you have sustained a shock to the system.

I am not sure how old you are but I’ve friends who are retired and they tell me they get “stuck” on the couch and/or on the computer. I know for myself, I spend a lot of time on the computer – more time than I would like to, but it tends to be something I return to in between doing stuff around the house, when I’m off. I’ll give myself a set time to shut it down and I stick to it.

Do you spend a lot of time on the computer? Try giving yourself a set time to shut it down and then see if that helps with your productivity.

Loss of motivation is a component to depression yes, as is sleeping too much. I am pretty sure your circumstances are situational. I too have had some struggles with this after losing it all in the recession a few years ago. I find that allowing yourself to fully go into it helps it pass more quickly.

What we resist persists.
I am strongly opposed to using anti-depressant meds unless one has brain chemistry issues. Situational depression is just that, situational and when your situation changes, so will your mood and energy levels. Getting excited about doing mundane household tasks doesn’t motivate most people and you are experiencing a lot of stress at this time.

I would just say to make sure you are eating and resting well and do what you feel like in the moment. Maybe take some extra supplements, go for a walk, do some light exercise and don’t judge yourself.
Your responses are normal to a difficult and life changing situation and it may take awhile to find your equilibrium again. Personally, I don’t think therapy the answer here.

A therapist can’t find you a new job, and all the meds in the world won’t change the situation, it is the situation that needs to change and that may take time. You are grieving a major loss and there is no formula for that.
Maybe just set some small daily goals and after you achieve them allow yourself to just be.
Remember we are programmed to be doing all the time instead of just being, and allowing ourselves to just be is a very uncomfortable thing for many.

Best wishes from she who has been there, a lot, this past 3 years since my world shifted after years of stability and predictability.

What exactly are you feeling? There must be something that you are feeling that is preventing you from doing things that you think should be done.

Maybe not depression, but breaking a 16 year routine must be disruptive. I suspect that since there’s nothing to compel you to hop out of bed at reveille, the routine begins now as your partner’s return approaches. As the bird said, a month to find your footing isn’t so bad. Apparently, there’s no urgency, particularly if your partner isn’t concerned about it. Are you sleeping late because you’re up late? Just out of curiosity, are you much more productive in the evenings since the loss of the gig? Do you now stay up a lot later than your partner? Have you taken on a much greater load of the housekeeping chores?

I like the saying ” Don’t should on yourself.” Our society places far too many, erroneous “shoulds” on people. There are no “shoulds.” Yes, you’ll feel better if your environment is more orderly and clean and if you rest and eat well but these “shouldn’t” be shoulds. haha

It seems like it could be temporary depression. First, don’t beat yourself up for what you are not doing. Second, whatever time you get up, get some exercise, preferably outdoors like a walk or hike, but any form of exercise will help. Set smaller goals for the day. Instead of clean the house, start with a dresser or a closet.

I hope you get to feeling better.

Get into a daily routine, including exercise.
Team up with someone (like AA; you help one another).
Find something you can volunteer for and be involved with in the community like a no kill dog and car shelter. Or offer to volunteer and help the animal control in your town.
Get a hobby that is outdoors, I use to metal detect all over New England when I was laid-off.

It certainly sounds like it could be, and I would not be surprised if you are struggling with depression. You have had a major life upheaval.