Do you socialize as a couple with other couples?
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August 19th, 2016
If you’re married or in a long-term relationship, do you and your SO make plans with other couples as a foursome (or more)? Would you say you’re really all friends with one another?
Or do you have your separate friends and do your socializing individually?
Do you relate your answer to how long you and your SO have been together and how old you were when you got together, or is it just a matter of personality and preference—say, introvert vs. extrovert? Is it about having or not having common interests?
To be clear, I’m not using “socializing” here as a euphemism for anything. I’m just talking about friendly gatherings for dinner, games, conversation, travel, whatever. X-rated whatever isn’t under discussion here.
Tags as I wrote them: couples, social behavior, friendships, partners, personality, relationships.
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We mostly keep it separate. Most of his friends are idiots, even before they start drinking. I have a very low tolerance for drunken idiots in large groups, unless I, personally, am in control of the situation.
I do very little “socializing” myself, at all. To be honest I’m not very good at socializing. I don’t have much practice.
We hang out with my son and his wife, and with my daughter and her husband. As far as friends our own age, we go visit Rick’s best friend and his wife often. Trouble is, the wife is an asshole. I threatened Rick with divorce if he ever left me alone with her for more than 5 minutes again.
Too bad because I really like his friend.
We socialize with other couples. My girlfriend used to live in this region, and is close to her friends from college and her twenties. We have visited her friends in Chicago and in Colorado, socialized with friends here in California, an also in New York.
We are going to Boston next month, and will be staying with a couple she has known since college.
To the extent we have socialized with my friends, it has generally been with a couple or couples.
We had a combination of his, hers and ours. It worked out for the most part.
We mostly socialise with everyone as a couple. It is more interesting that way. We have been together for three years.
Sure. We have five couples we have been hanging out with for almost thirty years. It all started with the women. Three of them were my wife’s friends before we started dating. Two of them were mine. In college, we merged them together and then, over the years, they all got spouses. Now there’s twelve of us total, plus our children (10) — so twenty two total when we all get together, which is about two to three times per year.
We are also friends with three other separate couples who don’t know each other or the larger group above. We see them each about once or twice a year.
We have friends we socialise with as a couple. They are often people one of us knew in the past. We also have people we interact with individually. We tend to be pretty insular though. We tend to socialize as a couple more than in group situations.
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