Have you had your major tipping point in life yet?

What do you mean by “your life’s major tipping point” @HC?

^ What do you mean by “your life’s major tipping point” @HC?
At the risk of leading or influencing, an event that once happened set something radical or major in motion, be it good or bad, that you could not reverse, it might be losing a limb in Iraq, getting a sizable inheritance from a relative you hardly knew, having twins, getting a full ride scholarship that allowed one to pursue and achieve their dream, getting shot during a robbery and it left you partly paralyzed, etc.


I tipped our butler £100 after flawless service at dinner the other evening, for him, that was major

I think having your first child is a life changing event. You cannot go back to being who you were. I felt a great sense of loss for that life that was now over. Obviously, I love my children but my life changed so fundamentally when I had the first one. I really wasn’t expecting it, even though it’s all anyone says!

Several

A few major events, not necessarily traumatic, is what I’ve experienced so far. I’m sure there will be more. I think this is what life is made of. I’ve had some traumatic ones, like living in a building that burned in a fire and having to relocate afterwards. Some good came from that. I really feel that every cloud has a silver lining and I’ve had some events that were not happy times but that I look at as positives in my life, for various reasons.

It feels like I have, but I’m increasingly learning that life isn’t a story book with one major conflict that gets resolved and everything is happily ever after. I’ve had my major problems but this doesn’t preclude me from having more major problems down the line.

Yesterday was actually the 5 year anniversary of my last surgery. It seems hard to believe. Life has been moving so fast ever since then. Life is so good.

I had one about six years ago. I guess it had positive and negative effects and they’re still going.

I’ve had several, both good and not-so-good, and I fully expect to have more.

@mrentropy Hi there! Good to see you!

Yup. About nine years ago I cut off my mother and left the church.

It’s been a massive improvement on both counts and my life is indescribably better because of it.

I failed out of university. It helped me to get over myself. I got unstuck up , but it took me 15 years to finish. Now I try to get positive attention instead of negative attention.

@Stinley I think having your first child is a life changing event. You cannot go back to being who you were. I felt a great sense of loss for that life that was now over.
I am not clear, was it a tipping point leading to a plus, or one leading to a negative?

Several. Some moments have defined me. Sometimes I’ve defined the moment.

@Hypocrisy_Central Neither. Both. I don’t know! I think ambivalent is what I felt. Negative, I suppose, in that my old life was over so completely and absolutely, but positive at the same time in that I had this new life to look forward to. I wouldn’t have changed and gone back even if I could, but the fact was I couldn’t, and this had a massive impact on me. It’s really hard to explain. I went from thinking nothing much (relatively) about other people in my life, to being completely obsessed with one little baby’s life. My whole life changed shape at that point. Permanently.

I had another time in my life at 13 when my parents split up. That was a terrible time as you can imagine. I did mourn then for the lost life that I could have had but which was now gone. It was similar to how I felt about becoming a parent, but without the happiness :-)

Oh, it was the best of times, it was the worst of times…

I’m not sure what a tipping point of life is—something that has changed the course of my life into a vector that is now out of my control and toward an end that is inevitabe? No, never. And I wouldn’t allow that to happen. I am and always will be the captain of my ship.

Like everyone else, I’ve had quite a few major life changing events, however. First comes to mind are the two brothers who were killed within 30 days of each other when I was twenty. The deaths of my parents. My second marriage to a wonderful woman—and our divorce and separation 20 years later. My time as a merchant marine on the Baltic and later as a nurse in the States. The rewards that came with assisting in Haiti after the earthquake. The latest is when I went out sailing one night in December, 2012 out of Key West and never returned to homeport—an adventure that continues to this day. These are all the good and bad things that have changed me and caused me to grow in the most unexpected ways.

It’s a life. A life without change and the events that make it change would not be a very interesting one to me. Your experiences and how you handle them define you. I am thankful for all my experiences.

Shit happens to us, However, we are but what dreams are made of and our happiness is dependent on how many of those dreams we can make come true.

Yes, the ship has been tipped right over and is going to crash onto the rocks. I am not sure I can get it back on the surface again. I’ve abandoned ship and swum on.

I’m on my second circumnavigation through choppy seas in the last 14 or so years, after a lengthy period of being docked in a very pleasant harbor.
I was washed overboard and pummeled by the brackish undertow of the great recessional storm and after 3.5 years of being buffeted about in the roughest seas I’ve ever known I’ve dropped anchor in a new port and the natives are friendly.
Some days I am almost content, others I still feel like walking the plank and throwing myself into the jaws of a great white. Sharka Diem.