Planning A Vacation Months Ahead?

Your details are a bit confusing. From my understanding, you have asked him to go for your vacation but haven’t told him that it is going to be a date, am I correct?

If so, 3 months are quite some time to know each other. Just keep the dating plan for yourself and enjoy a casual vacation with him. Don’t tell him anything about the date and consider the vacation a meeting between two friends, that’s all.

Yeh I only asked him that if we would plan a meeting in Orlando. I didnt mention it would be a date because I dont want to go too fast.

Basic Dating Rule #1 – planning a “vacation”/get together at a resort is a lot more than a date. It carries an implication of sharing a room/bed, and being physically intimate.

Are you ready for that?

Why aren’t you meeting him face to face now? Planning a weekend together before you even know if you want to stay with him for a whole meal is a bit presumptuous if you ask me.

I’m confused.

You met on a dating site, but you have not yet dated him. Now you are planning a vacation with him?????

Whoa, put on the brakes. I think you should get to know him first for awhile, then meet him in person and get to know him for a good long while before you go on vacation with him.

A vacation, in my opinion, suggests way, way, way more than just a simple date. It suggests an intimacy that you don’t have yet, in any way shape or form. Yikes!

We live kinda thousand of miles apart. So weekends meeting is impossible for me to do. Also, I plan this meeting as a chance to know more about him, not really date him. I’m not going that far yet.

Wow, this is so far out of the range of my experience that I do not think that even the wisdom that comes with age will help.

I will go with @zenvelo. You are asking him to go on an extended vacation that implies physical intimacy. At least that is how I would interpret it if I were him.

I know from my own experience how inticing it can be to meet someone from a distance on line, and how it can be special and raise interest in getting to know them.

But there is a common term called *geographically undesirable.” It means they are too far away to have a relationship grow organically. While it is not impossible for a relationship to start this way, your planning a vacation as a way to initiate it is a minefield with disastrous pitfalls all over the place.

Perhaps it might be better to discuss with him how the two of you should progress. That way you can each express concerns and boundaries before you ever get to Orlando with a man arriving thinking he is going to sleep with you for the weekend.

Yes, too much too fast. How far apart do you live from him? Have you done a background check?

Cali and Flo. That’s how far we are apart. I did all the background checks. We have been exchanging lots of text and kinda know each other well enough.

@vuanhachoi It sounds like you don’t know this person at all. You should be more cautious of your safety.

Beware of Cat Fishing Scams on Online Dating Sites.

I have 2 friends who got cat fished, even after doing background checks, and Skyping with these men, who turned out to be someone other than who they were passing themselves off to be.

Who suggested the “vacation” him or you? Be very careful. First meetings are fraught with many downsides (many potential upsides too). Flying across the States to meet for the first time is a bit dicey in my books. Make him come to you :)