I’m not judging. At all. I’m not even equivocating on that with a “but…” or “except…”
I’m not in their shoes in any way. In the first place I seldom visit bars; that’s not a moral thing, it’s just not part of my socializing or entertainment choices as a general rule. In the second place my kids are now in their 30s, and their middle teen years were relatively uneventful. So I can barely imagine the causes that would put a child in a psych ward in the first place. (I’m not ignorant; I know that kids at that age can be at relatively high risk of suicide, that high school bullying is a real problem sometimes, and that even seemingly well-adjusted teenagers often act out at that age, and even those from the most apparently stable families.) In any case, there is no information provided as to the “why” of the commitment. For all we know, the parents may have been involved in some mutual and heroic struggle with whatever demons the child faces and are now rightly celebrating that they have finally attained outside help.
I don’t know – none of us knows – the parents’ living situations. They may no longer be married, for example, or may be married to other spouses, which could make a meeting of the two of them in one of their homes awkward – especially if the current spouse was not in attendance. Sometimes, I suppose, the best “public space” to be found in common between people is… a bar.
There’s also no information provided as to whether the child is in, say, a locked ward at the psych unit and held incommunicado from all but medical personnel – which, I think, is not uncommon following a suicide attempt. There is no information provided as to the terms – or term – of the commitment, either.
As to “taking selfies”, it seems like everyone with a cell phone does that. I feel exceptional sometimes in light of the fact that I almost never take them. I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve taken “a selfie” in the two years that I’ve owned a smartphone, and sometimes I feel odd to not be taking selfies when everyone around me is. Again, for all I know the selfies may be taken with a more or less neutral background (no drinks, liquor ads or strippers in view, for example) and saved for later or sent to the child at the time. I just don’t know. “Taking selfies” is hardly grounds for censure.
I would need a whole lot more information on all aspects of the issue just to be “in place to make a judgment” ... and even then I probably would refrain unless the parents acted in a particularly obvious and crass manner, openly and publicly mocked their own child, described how they were defrauding the system or in some other way performed an egregious act or display of bad behavior.
In keeping with an earlier admonition to “read the OP charitably” I’m also attempting to respond in that manner. But on its face this question does not seem to have been presented very charitably. So here I am playing Devil’s advocate again.
Meeting in a bar and taking selfies… doesn’t seem to warrant a very severe judgment. What else have ya’ got on ‘em?