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rem1981's avatar

Would you rather talk to women or look at their bodies?

Asked by rem1981 (396points) September 25th, 2016

I still have quite a few friends who feel like they have to talk to women whenever they’re out in public. I do not. I would rather just look at them and leave them alone. Looking at photos of dogs on her phone or listening to what it was like growing up in Kansas City doesn’t interest me.

At some point doesn’t everyone lose interest in chatting up women?

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janbb's avatar

Oh yeah, I lost interest in chatting up women years ago. Now, I just talk to people.

ARE_you_kidding_me's avatar

Why does it have to be one or the other? It’s nice when you can do both, respectfully of course.

zenvelo's avatar

I would rather get to know them than be a creep.

CWOTUS's avatar

Of course, the follow-up question to this one is: Do you walk to work or carry a lunch? You’re asking for a binary response to a non-binary (in fact, not-even-related) question.

But since you asked … I prefer to talk to pretty women, while I watch them undress to climb into bed with me.

elbanditoroso's avatar

Depends on the woman (or as @janbb noted, the man).. you know in the first 5 minutes if the person has a thought in their head and can carry on a conversation.

There’s no law against looking.

Seek's avatar

I despise small talk, especially uninvited small talk from people with ulterior motives.

As much as you dislike hearing about what it was like growing up in Kansas City, I cannot abide awkward attempts at conversation from uninteresting people who are somehow under the impression that I care at all what they think about me or what I look like.

ARE_you_kidding_me's avatar

^^Me too. I simply can’t do it and I know I’m being rude. I just don’t fucking care.

ucme's avatar

I’d rather just fuck em…;-}

rem1981's avatar

I would much rather talk to my friends and look at the women at this point in my life. I’m fine with closing the chapter on giving women attention.

janbb's avatar

@rem1981 I love the way you dismiss half the human race.

Call_Me_Jay's avatar

@Seek you are too young to be a grump.

Seek's avatar

Oh, look, another insult directed at me because I don’t fawn over random male attention.

kritiper's avatar

It depends on how far away they are. Up close, I would rather talk to them. Maybe talk will lead me to seeing their bodies later!!

Hypocrisy_Central's avatar

Maybe they are chatting up those gals to be able to do more than look?

Pachy's avatar

Where do you and your pals live… the Playboy Mansion ??!!

Setanta's avatar

Would you rather talk to women or look at their bodies?

Yes.

stanleybmanly's avatar

I suppose the women referred to in this question are strangers in which you have no interest whatsoever. It’s a curious question coming from a man, because it is usually women who complain about the inane self centered chatter from men hitting on them. Of course, if you have no interest in women, why bother talking to them. In fact what’s the point of looking at them? It isn’t a matter of having to choose between talking and staring. Why bore yourself with either?

stanleybmanly's avatar

It must be an awful thing to be cursed with a libido and yet possess no desire to “mingle” beyond pruient satisfactions. I suppose life is a lot simpler for those who restrict themselves to hookers. I just find it difficult to understand those capable of avoiding the mesmerizing allure of a woman.

cazzie's avatar

Seek. We should just smile more.~~ ☆gag☆ —I need my girl crew to kick some ass.-

rem1981's avatar

Not wanting to talk to random women for the sake of talking to women is on par with a kid not wanting to play with his toys anymore. You move on.

Call_Me_Jay's avatar

@Seek

You wrote, “I despise small talk…I cannot abide awkward attempts at conversation from uninteresting people”.

I took that as all circumstances, all the time.

No insult about fawning males was intended, the idea never entered my mind.

CWOTUS's avatar

I guess I just don’t understand the question – at all. I like talking to folks, sometimes to pass the time, sometimes to obtain or deliver information that may be important to me or the other party, sometimes to make pleasant or humorous observations, and sometimes – most rarely – to attempt to open or further a dialog with an end in mind: to get to know someone, male or female, with the possibility of creating or furthering the relationship. That doesn’t mean that I want to have sexual relations with men – at all (not that there’s anything wrong with that) – and not that I want to bed every woman I have ever spoken to. (And there probably is something wrong with that, but it’s not my judgment; just not my style.)

I also don’t have particular limits on who I will start a conversation with – kids and pre-teens, even infants on occasion, girls and women, boys and men of all ages and economic circumstances and cultures. I like making connections in that way. Small talk? Until you stand at a podium or sit at a judge’s bench, it’s all small talk as far as I’m concerned. And I don’t mind it at all, though I also don’t respond to it all.

I will admit that I would like to make some physical – and emotional – connections with particular women at particular times, irrespective of propriety sometimes (but always with a clear eye on legality and morality), but that doesn’t mean that any woman who responds to a conversational gambit of mine is risking her virtue. It’s usually not on the table. (Well, if her virtue is “on the table”, it’s an entirely different conversation, anyway.) In any case, I can read non-verbal cues, and if my interest isn’t reciprocated then I move on. No harm on either side.

So if it’s an either / or thing, then I’m fucked (or not, if the question is intended that way). I’m back to a basic confusion about the intended aim of the whole question. Not talk to women? Why ever not? “Look at their bodies”? Really? That’s not all that they’re for, to be looked at. But yes, I do like to look. And touch. And be touched and spoken to, in turn.

Seek's avatar

@Call_Me_Jay – You’re deliberately taking my statement out of context, putting two sentence fragments together to create a false post of your own design.

Perhaps a class on reading comprehension is in order?

rem1981's avatar

How can you not understand the question? It’s simple, you can either have boring small talk or check out the women in the room. Which one do you want to do?

zenvelo's avatar

@rem1981 I think you have disqualified yourself from both alternatives.

Call_Me_Jay's avatar

@Seek

You’re taking offense where none was made or intended or implied. I’m not fighting you.

Seek's avatar

You literally called me a grump, implying I wasn’t the correct age to be one.

How is that not intended to cause offense?

cazzie's avatar

And why didn’t you call the OP a grump, @Call_Me_Jay ? His position seems equally as unsocial with that oh-so-creepy touch of voyeurism.

Hypocrisy_Central's avatar

 ooowww…..are the shanks starting to come out…. again? 

cazzie's avatar

Double Standards Girl sees a double standard and is pointing right at it, with her finger, not a shank, but you can imagine all the wound full hurt you want, I suppose.

ucme's avatar

All ya givin me is talk talk…talk, talk, talk talk…all ya givin me is talk talk

Call_Me_Jay's avatar

@cazzie To me the original question was weird and not worth addressing.

@Seek I said it under the impression you have the assurance and self-awareness not be be bothered by some light-hearted ribbing. No mean spiritedness was involved. That was it. Fini. Done.

cazzie's avatar

But, @Call_Me_Jay you did address it. You answered it. You wrote, ‘Yes’.

Call_Me_Jay's avatar

I made a flippant remark, pointedly not engaging.

Seek's avatar

And then you back it up with further insults. Adorable.

Call_Me_Jay's avatar

I didn’t make any insults. I was speaking plainly and honestly.

LornaLove's avatar

Your question infers that women are either worth talking to or that they are just objects.

Ask yourself: why do you prefer looking at women without engaging them?

These days I don’t like looking at or talking to people much. I think it says a lot about where I am at currently.

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