Anyone married to a partner that makes you feel like you can never do anything quite right?

I am married and my husband makes me feel
like I can never please him..can never do anything
quite right. Even his siblings do not see how I have
stayed married to him for this long. I finally stopped
blaming myself and realized it was HIS problem not
mine..insecure maybe…OC for sure. For the longest
time I tried to win his love and saw that it was fruitless.
Our sons have moved off because they got tired of
being put down….now I am getting tired of it. Why are
people like this and is anyone else been in this boat?