What advice can you give for a young single lady in her 20's who wants to get married eventually?

Don’t force it, on yourself or anyone. If it’s going to happen, it will. Forcing it only creates tension that leads to unhappiness.

@kritiper So basically, keep doing what I’m doing now lol

Take your time and choose wisely and carefully.

Don’t date unkind guys but do date. It will serve you well to have experience of how you function in various relationships before you settle down with one guy.

Take Communications 101 in college. I’m serious! Knowing the basics about communications and how people miscommunicate will give you patients when you have communications troubles in your marriage.

Make a list of the top 5 things you want in a spouse (anything from sports they like, things in common, likes to read, college educated, funny, it doesn’t matter, they are yours) aside from the given: honesty, integrity, responsible, supportive, and caring about others. Those 5 I named are given, any red flags run in the opposite direction.

You have to be those given 5 also.

Discuss your goals and your SO’s goals, checking in periodically. If your SO is keeping you from your goals it will get more and more pronounced and difficult over time.

Negotiations for who does what are always evolving. Before I got married we agreed that no one should be doing many more hours of work. Work included job work and household work. When I worked full time we split household chores. When I work part time I do the majority. Be willing to get a maid if you wind up fighting over cleaning.

Be happy to see your spouse when they walk in the door.

Before you get married and have kids discuss religion regarding raising your children, education, including paying for private schools and college, and punishments. If you believe in spanking and your spouse doesn’t that is a huge issue. If you want to foot the bill for their college education and your spouse wants the kids to pay for themselves, that’s an issue too.

Responsible, mentioned above, includes how you and your spouse handle money. Make sure you two are in line on how you want to handle finances.

@FlutherBug Just so you don’t get your hopes up that it will happen. Because it may not. (The key point I was trying to get across to you in my previous post.)

Don’t have a child until you have a spouse. In other words, it’s OK to sleep with someone, but use protection. Always.

First make sure you get a good education even if it is your wish to be a homemaker. Being well read is not the same as being well educated. Ideally you want both. While you are getting that education stroll over to the engineering dept if you are not majoring in that already and get to know some of the students. Date a bunch of them and pick yourself out one. Most want the same thing you do and it’ll be like shooting fish in a barrel for you. I could go on a long winded explanation about why I am saying this but it’s more than the fact that they’ll be able to pull their weight when raising a family. Once you think you have found “the one” give it time because odds are he is not. When you finally do though cohabitate for a while. After a couple of years then you’ll know it. Get settled in your career(s ) and get a nice little starter home with room to grow. Then it’s time for kids. People do this out of that order all the time but this order keeps you on the right track. This is the time proven generic formula for having a family and it not be out of necessity or hardship. Again, try to do it in this sequence.
1. Education
2. Career start
3. Marriage
4. Home
5. Kids

Simple right? Whenever you think about doing this out of order try to find examples where people did not do it this way and see how well it is working for them.

Thank you everyone for your advice, I really appreciate it. Everyone gave great advice thank you.