Why do so many married guys look miserable?

The guys I see who are married don’t look miserable. Gals don’t either. You must like in a miserable area or something.

I think you’re hanging around with the wrong married people. Some married people are unhappy, some are not.

As to the second part of your question, I was happy in my first marriage until I was not. That marriage ended. People change. Lives change.

I don’t think I could be any happier than I am with my second husband. He’s my best friend and we have lots of fun together.

Statistics show married men are the happiest group of people. That was the case 15 years ago when there was a study done regarding gender and marital status.

I would not want to be single again. Being married has been overall good for me. There were some rough spots but working through those brings you closer to your spouse. What I have observed is that the unhappy guys have married ladies who try to tear them down and change them. If they succeed they don’t respect them, if they can’t change them they are not happy and are unpleasant to be around. Guys can make a womans life hell too the road goes both ways. People are just so much better off if they put off pairing until they are established adults and mature enough to have real relationships.

I question your premise.

Must just miserable guys you know that got married.

Why are you checking out married guys ?. LOL

Alot are miserable because alot of people expectations of married life are very different to the reality. Marriage is hard work. Alot of people get married for the wrong reasons.

Also marriage can be stressful you know, especially if you have kids. You no longer live for yourself but have to worry about your kids and their future. Especially in today’s competitive and dangerous world , it can stress you out.

That being said… my husband doesn’t look miserable haha.

But they always say .. if you find yourself worrying alot “Welcome to parenthood”

Maybe they just have alot of concerns. They are not necessarily miserable.

Because many people get married too young, before they even really know themselves, or too quickly, before they really know the other person. Also people tend to build up unrealistic expectations of marriage or believe that one person will make them happy.

As far as the OQ is concerned, studies have shown (if you are cool on statistics) married men live longer than single men. However, there is enough unhappy men who are married which I believe as said, they were miserable to start and tried to use a marriage to fill a void, or they married ball-busting women who emasculated them and not acted in any way like a helpmate but tried to run things as the boss.

Because they bought into the idea of marriage before realizing that they weren’t actually in love with, or were entirely ready to, marry their spouse. My dad had serious doubts about his marriage as he was leaving the church!

On the contrary do you also think that all unmarried people are super happy / have no issues in life?

I don’t think you can always judge people by their appearances. Most people are not walking around smiling all the time whether they’re married or not.

Too much generalization in the question. However yes for a while I was miserable in a marriage and my depression was very visible in many photographs of me at the time.

His Mother-in-Law moved in with them.