Why are some people always looking for negative things to say about other people's physical features ?

Because their moms were the only ones that ever loved them and they know it.

Because they’re fucking assholes

Haters wanna hate…

Superficial.

Insecure.

Snobs.

Obnoxious.

Habit.

A family thing.

Mean.

All sorts of reasons.

I think it’s an age thing, chinchin, a maturity thing. People stop doing that after awhile and start looking at personal qualities. What kind of person are they? Are they honest? Trustworthy? Dependable? Interesting? Those sorts of things. The important things. And the word “ugly” takes on a totally different meaning.

^^I meant to say age. Although, I have family members who never grew out of it. Plenty of older adults who are still very vain and very critical of others who harp on putting other people down.

^^ Yeah, it’s better described as a maturity thing. As one matures, they find out that whether or not somebody has a big broken nose or is morbidly obese, doesn’t really have much of a negative impact on one’s personal life. But people who are dishonest, sociopathic, dangerous or just those who are affectionately selfish, certainly can. That’s why personal qualities become much more important than mere physical ones. And after you’ve lived for awhile, you run across some pretty great fat people with big, broken noses.

Just the fact that you’re noticing this among your cohorts and recognize it as a negative thing, shows that you are maturing faster than they are, chinchin. We often outgrow friends in life. That is sometimes sad, but like graduation day, it is also a very good thing.

^^Family members (by marriage). I can’t think of any of my friends who are like this. That’s why I partly blame it also on it being a family thing.

I can’t say I’ve never commented on how someone looks, I have, but it doesn’t affect how I value them as a person and I don’t assume things about them. Plus, as I’ve mentioned before, I grew up in a family of artists on my maternal side, and more than anything they commented on beauty, not on negatives. My dad hates and resents people who judge other based on looks or how they are dressed, so that basically tells you my upbringing regarding such matters. Still, as a younger person I did notice and value more superficial things, but nothing like some people.

It comes with the territory. Think of the surroundings and environment these words are presented. Are the people young and juvenile speaking them? Are the people older, biased, bigoted, racist speaking these words? In either case I would argue it incumbent upon you to make a choice on how to absorb these moments and respond in a way your heart is urging you. The world is sorely lacking in people willing to stand up for how the perceive what is right. Nobody deserves to be called ugly…

“I have an important message to deliver to all the cute people all over the world. If you’re out there and you’re cute, maybe you’re beautiful. I just want to tell you somethin’ — there’s more of us UGLY MOTHERFUCKERS than you are, hey-y, so watch out” Frank Zappa

LOL. Zappa. “There’s more stupid in the universe than there is Hydrogen!” If he would have lived long enough, he would have become one helluva grumpy old man.

LOL I would love to know what he would say about contemporary politics and I wonder what music he would have composed had he lived. He would be about 74 years old.

I think there are more beautiful people than ugly. It’s all about your perspective I guess.

There is no such thing as ugly, just lazy. There is no thing that basic hygiene (and makeup, if necessery) can’t solve.

Also, it’s all about attitude. You can be Quasimodo himself, but if you know how to wear it, it can only be badass, not ugly.

There are people who are very good looking, beautful even, but with such horrible and weak attitudes and character, that you have a feel you are looking a dead fish instead of a pretty wo/man.

Toxic shame plus unrealistic beauty standards plus projection leads to nasty comments about other people’s appearance.

That is, our culture tends to train us to be insecure and fear abandonment and think something may be wrong or inadequate about ourselves, and we notice the unfair ridiculous vicious condemnation of others for not meeting often unreasonable or near-impossible standards, Faced with this nightmare society and the possibility of becoming the next target of horrible ridicule, the psyche often defends itself by buying into it and participating in the sacrifice of others in the form of “OMG Kylie is so fat and ugly!” etc.

@flutherother I imagine Zappa’s view on modern politics might be something like this, but with all the additional years of escalating absurdity we’ve seen since then: “During an interview, a reporter for the U.S. army asked Frank Zappa about who does he think will defend the country without the army, this was his answer:

From what? The biggest threat to America today is its own federal government. Will the army protect anybody from the FBI? The IRS? The CIA? The Republican party? The Democratic party? The biggest dangers we face today don’t even need to sneak past our billion-dollar defense system…they issue the contracts for them.”

None of us here on Fluther seem to mind making fun of Trump’s hair.

Transferrence—a way to belie their own poor self image.

As others have said, low self esteem. I hate seeing other peope belittled and dont freaking include me if you are going to do it. One night when I was working at the hospital a group of us were trying to restrain a drunk woman who had been brought in, and she was yelling that everyone was ugly. Then looked and points at me and says, except him hes nice looking. Didn’t score any points with me, I almost told her to jam it up her ass. Dont insult my coworkers and then brown nose me, no banana.