How do I stop resenting my friend's relationship?

If this is her first relationship, It’s normal for her to feel that they will be together forever and all that. It’s also normal for her to want to talk to someone about all the pregnancy scares because this is her first time experiencing that and she might be talking to you because she is unsure how to deal with it and she might be asking for some advice. As for the talk about the sex life and the challenges, if this is her first relationship, all of that is new and exciting to her. I would sit down and talk to her about, if she takes you as being bitter, then oh well. She’ll get over it if she gets mad. And she will definitely look back on this either later on in the relationship or after, and she will be embarrassed for acting so infatuated.

If he’s willing to cheat on his ex, he’s probably going to cheat on your roommate too. Just give it time and it will solve itself. You’re doing the right things. Just focus on your life and you’re sure to run into a nice guy who will treat you well. You did the right thing by not interfering with that other relationship.

I was gonna respond with some silly pat answer until I read all the way to the bottom of your post. My advice after having done so? Find a new friend. This one’s toxic as hell. She’s either playing you or wants you in on some kind of twisted threesome. Either way it’s sick.

Move on and develop other relationships. This one will sap you of whatever self respect you have left. Do not react to them. Say nothing to him/her. Just move on!

She wouldn’t have to be so, in your face about it, if she felt secure.

She knows the same way she lured him, someone else can do the same to her. So it seems she is trying to prove to you that he won’t and isn’t cheating on her.

Another possibility is that she is putting her seal on him. That is what we use to call it when boyfriends or girlfriends act desperately in front of their friends to try to fend them off from trying to get their mate. It’s possible your friend is jealous of you and he may have mentioned or sent hints that he is attracted to you.

Move on. This is going to blow up in her face and she won’t blame him. She will blame you.
Most women who cheat with a guy become jealous of any pretty female who could do the same thing to them. She doesn’t trust others because she judges all women to do the same as she would, and she already knows her boyfriend is easy when bored.

If you tried hard to steer her away from this guy, it could be she is mostly just feeling justified, and wants you to see how happy she is with him.
It will end. She will be miserable, and you will have the option of either consoling her, or “I told you so” ing her to infinity and beyond.

She’d be too much drama for me. I’d steer clear of her. Who needs friends that cause you grief?

What kind of a friend is she really? She made the choices she did and got her man – that’s kind of in the past – but the fact that she is rubbing him in your face, as it were, must be very unpleasant. You don’t need to have a big confrontation scene, just look for some new friends who are more single and gradually move away from her.

To answer the question, regardless of whether you agree with her behaviour with this boy, she doesn’t seem to be behaving like a good friend to you. That’s really all you should concern yourself with. How is she treating you? If the way she treats you makes you feel unhappy, then you can either talk to her and try to resolve the situation or you can find new friends and leave her to work things out with this boy. She sounds very immature. She may or may not learn to behave better in the future.

I had a friend who used to use me as her sounding board every time she had a problem with one of her boyfriends. I always seemed to be the ‘shoulder’ she leaned on. When the situation was reversed and I turned to her when I was devastated after breaking up with a much-loved boyfriend she said ‘oh call me when you’re feeling better’. I didn’t call her. We didn’t talk for many years. Years later, our paths crossed, I won’t go into the whole story but she did something that showed me she hadn’t grown up at all. She was now in her 40s and still put the needs of a new boyfriend above decent treatment of her close friends. I haven’t spoken to her since.

So you need to decide if this person is treating you as you want to be treated and if not, move on. Find friends who do treat you well. As to the boyfriend thing, that’s between him and her. It’s not your business.

@ASCUMM01 She doesn’t sound like a friend to me. Ask yourself why she does this? She does it because she can, if you continue to be a listening post. I wouldn’t call her a friend. You can do way better.