Can I apologize?

Before everyone jumps in shouting about how this is totally your fault or totally unfair, can you tell us what about the question broke the rules? There’s a whole question dedicated to mourning Gail, so there must be more to the story.

Either way, though, I accept your apology. I’m sure your intentions were pure.

@JeSuisRickSpringfield My question asking people to share heartfelt memories of @Gailcalled apparently broke Fluther cardinal rules. I was taken out back and given 100 lashes. My bad.

No apology necessary. I imagine the concern is that it could open the gates for more of that type of question. @gailcalled was very popular and most people I’m sure welcomed the opportunity to revisit her words. Her family continue to provide updates on Milo and are aware and supportive of her place here in Fluther. I guess the mods have to be conscious of what might happen if someone posted a similar question for another member who had died (or was sick or something else) and whose family were not aware or more importantly in agreement with this memorializing idea. And would we want another question posted each year? Should we post one for other much loved members, and what if we don’t? What are we saying about them? I imagine the mods are just trying to think about the ‘big picture’.

@Cruiser Which rules did they say you broke?

I assume the rule broken was we aren’t supposed to publicly share private messages. That did cross my mind when I read the question but I answered anyway.

I wouldn’t want my messages shared. (no, I didn’t flag)

@jonsblond Okay, that makes sense. @Cruiser is acting like just asking the question was against the rules, but that can’t be it because there’s already a similar question that hasn’t been moderated.

My fault. I asked another Jelly to flag my answer because I didn’t realize the PM from @gailcalled I posted was a jab at a specific Jelly (I thought it was her just being generally cranky). Once I was alerted to this, I felt bad, as I wouldn’t want to make another Jelly feel bad. I can’t flag it myself as I’m always on mobile, where that feature doesn’t exist.

Anyway, when a Mod contacted me about it, they reminded me that public postings of a PM are prohibited. I said, “Oh, but that’s the whole thread.” — and then they took it down. :^(

I am wicked sorry @Cruiser. It was a nice idea for a thread.

Not your fault @cookieman I could have removed the PM and then paraphrased the PM in my OP but then I felt I would been putting words in Gail’s mouth so I chose to abandoned the question rather than play games with the mods.

I believe we’re prohibited from attacking, condemning, or otherwise baiting a fellow Jelly by name. But, where’s the rule about posting something kind?

Meh…no apology needed IMO. Okay, you bent the rules a bit but your intentions were golden, sooo, while that doesn’t change the rules it also does not merit an apology. Fluther on my friend.

And just to channel Gail (or my third grade teacher) a bit…

“Can I apologize?”

I don’t know, can you?

@Love_my_doggie I don’t think there’s a rule about posting something kind. Like @jonsblond said, the rule is that we aren’t supposed to share private messages.

@Cruiser, I have inadvertently broken the rules a few times myself. I bet most of us have. No apologies necessary.

What bugs me is that post was alive for a week. Why they suddenly got religion and modded it after all that time is what is confusing to me. The standards” Ben set were to mod swiftly, consistently and with an even hand. Been anything butt lately.

@Cruiser, I think each of our mods has a work and family life. My sense is that they aren’t all here every day or at least for very long. Some of the mods are still fairly new too and since we don’t have a permanent manager now to give guidance and training, the newer mods may not have considered the breach of rules in relation to personal messages. I think we have to give them a bit of a break here.

I’m sure if people are unhappy with the moderation standards, the volunteer mod team would be happy for people to offer to assist. More hands make light work.

@Cruiser From what @cookieman said, it sounds like they modded it as soon as someone told them about it. You can’t really get any swifter than that, can you?

To add to what @Earthbound said the mods are busy with emails from users and flags. They barely have time to look at all the questions that are asked.

We are lucky to have the volunteers we have now. This site is barely holding on and it could be a mess without their help.. Cut them some slack.

No harm, no foul. Or, as we used to say in soccer. No blood, no foul.

Seems like a running theme: modding emotional questions several days after they’ve passed without comment.

Not that I would, but if someone wanted to bust chops at this point they could have flagged this question for the word “apologize” being spelled wrong.

I miss her everytime I log onto this site.

@Cruiser Apollogy Apology accepted!