Would you say this guy is rude or nice?

He was nice to drive you home, but rude to make you wait on him while dressed in heavy snowboarding gear.

I would not suggest telling him how you feel about it though. What’s done is done, nothing to do except let it go.

Well he could have told you he needed to take a detour via the mall to eat and buy a present. Then you’d have had an opportunity to say thanks and decline his offer.

Sounds like a thick as a brick clueless dude. Just be glad you got home in one piece and I would review why you consider a doink like him as a “friend”.

I agree with @AnonymousAccount8.

He’s a combination of rude and nice, which would make him either rice or nude. ;-)

@Brian1946 most likely just well-meaning but kind of thoughtless.

He drove an hour out to pick you up or was he at the ski hill in any case?

If he drove out there to pick you up, anything else is nice.

Probably just a little clueless

Sounds like a nice guy to me! i always take something to change into when I go skiing; you should too.

There was nothing – at all – “rude” about his actions as you describe them. His trip planning obviously was not comfortable for you, but he was doing the favor, so it’s not rude for him to do what he has to do on his trip. He might have informed you ahead of time that he had some errands to run that would take some time, so that you could have reconsidered – and perhaps made other plans – if that was going to be more inconvenience than you wanted to put up with in exchange for the great convenience of “a ride that you hadn’t had before”. So, you had insufficient information to plan whether this was really a favor you wanted to accept or not, and that could have been handled better. (As well as you, perhaps, dressing in layers, so that it would have been no trouble at all to change your wardrobe during the trip to be more comfortable. But just as I would not call you “stupid” for not having planned your wardrobe differently, I would not call him “rude” for doing the things that he needed to do.)

I’m actually a bit shocked at those who suggest that he is even “thoughtless”, “clueless”, or in the least “inconsiderate”. He was doing you a favor, wasn’t he? After that, it’s really just a case of “how great or small a favor was it?”, not “was it a favor or was it not?”

His obliviousness to OP’s discomfort throughout his errands-running is an indication of his thoughtlessness as far as I’m concerned.

thanks everybody for your thoughtful replies, it seems like opinions are divided half and half! more opinions always welcome!

Was he already at the resort or did he go there to get you?

Lets put it this way. I wouldn’t refuse a lift from this guy in future but I would remember to bring a change of clothes.

I think he was being nice but was a bit inconsiderate in his efforts. I’ve had this happen. Some one offers me a ride thinking they will save me time but then they stop and I wait in the car. Meanwhile , the bus would have been faster because they stop and talk to someone they know.

All of the above are valid points of view. Experiences like this are valuable in that the next time someone offers, it may come to mind that you may want to ask and/or prepare for the what it will actually involve. It can also be valuable to think of such things in terms of who is responsible in what way for what happens. Relying on one’s own expectations of what is reasonable and how things will be done is a near-certain way to get upset at others. There is no one absolute impartial correct assessment in cases where there is no discussion of details. Learning to effectively discuss expectations and take responsibility for outcomes is extremely useful and often reduces upsets greatly.

When I hear stories like this, it reminds me why I always had my own car since I was 18. I never wanted to have to rely on anyone to get me anywhere.