[NSFW?] Is sexual orientation necessarily 100% one way or 50-50 bisexual?
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February 16th, 2017
For example: can one be 20% attracted to women and 80% attracted to men?
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It’s not discrete. There is a scale called the Kinsey scale that shows this.
I think for some it’s discrete, but it isn’t for me.
As @Mariah said, it’s a scale. You could also think of it as a spectrum. It’s possible to be anywhere on the spectrum from exclusively heterosexual to exclusively homosexual.
Sexuality is such a subtle thing I don’t see how it could be discrete.
I view sexually orientation and sexual attraction very different “species”. Because I am 100% secure in my sexual orientation towards women only does not mean I am automatically sexually attracted to any woman. The percent there on an sexual attraction is “spectrum” as some have intoned here and the women I am 100% attracted to is actually quite small.
I gravitate to the place from whence I came 100%
Also, I learned something new, you lot spell discreet wrong too :D
Discrete == granular. Discreet == modest.
Discrete = one or the other
I think everyone has a spot somewhere on the scale/spectrum. If they’re comfortable with that spot / do something about it is something different.
I think people’s location on the scale can vary over their lifetimes.
Hey I knew that already…no really
@BellaB
“I think people’s location on the scale can vary over their lifetimes.”
I agree because I’m empirical proof of that.
Mind changed when I was a sexagenarian.
I’ve been told by a good source that sexuality is fluid. It can move along a continuum as per our needs. (If we are bisexual then more so). So, for e.g if I need some nurturing etc., I might be more attracted to females around a certain time. (Although I must say, that sounds gender specific so I am not sure if that really works, but the brain is just wired that way).
I’m bisexual, at times I am much more attracted to males then at other times more to females. I’m not talking about daily or weekly but decades can go by. I am very committed to who I am with too. So, at the moment I am not really attracted to anyone.
Being bisexual is not about being 50% attracted to men and 50% attracted to women. It’s also not about being 50% gay and 50% straight.
It just means that you are attracted to people irrespective of whether they are male or female. There’s a larger pool of potential partners to choose from. And no, you may not feel an equal attraction to each gender.
So, if you find that you are 20% attracted to women and 80% attracted to men (although I’m guessing you mean that your partner choices end up being 20% women and 80% men), you are still bisexual. There isn’t a different word for it.
I dunno, obviously there are many ways to swing but I am a solidly heterosexual female. I had one girl on girl fling once, didn’t do much for me and a threesome once as well, ditto. I certainly admire beautiful human forms of all genders but I want a real erect penis and I will definitely tell you where to put it. haha
@dappled_leaves
“So, if you find that you are 20% attracted to women and 80% attracted to men (although I’m guessing you mean that your partner choices end up being 20% women and 80% men)....”
That was just an example and it doesn’t apply to me.
In real life I think I’m heterosexual, but I have had fantasies involving beings with mixed anatomical features.
@Brian1946 “That was just an example and it doesn’t apply to me.”
Answer still stands, my dude. :)
Sexuality is fluid for some, but it isn’t fluid for others. In general I don’t like making an absolute statement. Clearly the idea that you’re either 100% homo/heterosexual or 50–50 bisexual is false, as there are plenty with a fluid sexuality. At the same time, however, there are some people who are 100% or 50–50 and we shouldn’t deny they exist by saying “sexuality is fluid”.
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