Problem in getting pregnant?

The appropriate way is for him to be aware of what you are asking, and then have him produce sperm at a clinic, which would then be inseminated in you by a doctor.

It is not a matter of you having sex with the young man.

And, it may be best all around if you get anonymous sperm from a sperm bank. That way there are no future repercussions.

Overseen by a doctor, you may get pregnant after only a couple of inseminations.

Keep in mind this is a very expensive procedure.

We have tried doctors but they have outdated procedures and are not capable of doing anything. And its difficult to find good doctors and they are very expensive more than we can afford. We will have to take loans for it then and plus we don’t want anyone to know that this child is a result of other source. But now if his relative can keep it for himself this can be good. But I feel very disturbed by this idea . My husband has to ask him about the matter yet.

Having sex with him is free, although may be weird for you in the future when you see each other at family gatherings (can anybody say “awkward?). It may take a bunch of episodes in order for you to get pregnant. If you go that route, get something drawn up by a lawyer and signed by all parties involved, stating that you are not ever going to seek financial assistance from him and that he is never going to seek custody or visitation from the resulting offspring.

Would I go that route? No. I’d either try to do the legit way (as described by @zenvelo above) or adopt a baby, which is also expensive but we have to play the hand that is dealt us.

I hope there won’t be a big problem that it would take the matter to court. But yes awkward it is. There is way to get away because the relative is here for a month or so and will go back to his city so I won’t be seeing him again for a long time.

@Shirley29: You can have sex 30 times in that month and still not get pregnant.

No adoption because we want our child and doctors aren’t capable.

@jca I haven’t been with him yet.

@Shirley29: I understand that. Are you saying that because I pointed out that you can have sex many times in that month that he’s here and still not get pregnant?

@Shirley29 That route sounds like it would lead to too many problems. He’s not mature enough to know what his feelings may be down the road. Can you talk to Planned Parenthood about reduced fees for insemination from a sperm bank?

If you can’t afford a doctor’s assistance (artificial insemination is not really expensive) then you can’t afford a child.

Just because a Doctor can’t resolve your husband’s infertility, doesn’t mean they can’t help. And if you want this kept private, using the relative is the worst way to keep it private.

Do you have a regular cycle? Do you feel when you ovulate? Most women ovulate 14 days BEFORE their period. Do not start counting from day one of your period to 14, unless you happen to have a 28 day cycle. Do you feel when you ovulate?

You can use a syringe of sorts, not a needle, I just mean a way to deliver the semen from a cup to your vagina. You don’t have to have sex. You can use a fertility test thingy if you can’t figure out your cycle and your most fertile time.

I would have him get checked by a doctor for disease and make sure he has plenty of healthy sperm swimming around before I did it. You might also consider drawing up a paper everyone signs regarding the agreed upon situation, you could go as far as using a lawyer or not, that’s up to you.

If you have the money, you could try IVF with ICSI with your husband if he has a few good sperm, but it’s expensive, it’s invasive for you, it’s drugs that can have side effects, and the success rate is fairly low. I just thought I would mention though in case you are unaware.

@chyna artificial insemination isn’t very expensive.

@jca I don’t understand want you have said.

Have tried artificial inseminationa lot of time and we are tired of it. Doctors say they have to treat my husband but thats expensive and no guarantee.

I had sex one to two times a month and got pregnant five times. You just need to time it right.

You tried AI with your husband?

Needle and syringe? Is it safe?

@Shirley29: You said “I haven’t been with him yet.” I said “I understand that.” I was asking why you told me you haven’t been with him yet.

And insemination is a bit expensive too.

@jca then what did you mean?

@Shirley29: What did I mean by what?

No needle! I just mean a way to suck up the semen and put it in you. Like a dropper or turkey baster.

@jca dp you mean I can’t get pregnant from his sperm? Or because of age difference or because he won’t be so strong and his sperm will not be mature enough?

Have you been doing insemination with drugs? You can do it with the doctor without drugs. Or, just try yourself.

14 year old boys can make babies. Forget this mature enough thing. If you want to know if he has plenty of sperm get him tested.

@jleslie I don’t think its possible.

Taking this one step at a time:

- Yes, a 19 year old is capable of impregnating you (all other things being equal). Whether he is a virgin or not is immaterial. Lots and lots and lots of 19 year olds father children.

- If you are at all worried about retaliation or blackmail then don’t do it.

- Getting pregnant is both very easy and very hard, depending on how you look at it and what the circumstances are. And simply getting pregnant is only the beginning. Miscarriages are far more common than you know, because most people who have them don’t talk about it.

@Shirley29: I’m saying because of your cycle, it’s hit or miss. That’s why some people get pregnant by just having sex a few times and some go years (so presumably many times of having sex) and don’t get pregnant.

What’s not possible?

@jca that is not the issue reports say my husband is not capable.

If you mean the syringe here’s a link. You can google more or ask your doctor too. I’m talking about if you use your husband’s relative’s sperm.

AI at home

Syringe is not possible.

Why? Why not possible?

What I have learnt from all those spending time with doctors that the methods are secondary but sperm quality is more important. For artificial method sperm quality should be exceptionally good which is pretty rare but but natural method sperm quality can be good enough and it can work.

@jleslie I don’t know? But I will try it.

Get the guy tested! What is it? $100 and you know if his numbers are good.

I hope he agrees

If I take him to clinic it would get paper work and I don’t want that too now because he might get panicked by that and secret won’t be secret if he disagrees then.

He is going to come home after two days and we will talk about it then. Till then please give your best shot.

@Shirley29 I think you may be misunderstanding some of what people are saying on this thread. We all realize that your husband is not a possible “donor.” Some of us are suggesting that you find another sperm donor to try to inseminate yourself either with or without medical aid. I personally think a 19 year old virgin would not be a great candidate for the father of your baby – I think it would lay a lot of baggage on him that he is not ready to deal with. Maybe there is an older male relative, if you won’t go to a sperm bank which would probably be the least hassle – who can donate sperm, not have sex with you, for insemination.

@Shirley29: I think you are not understanding me. I’m saying even if you did have sex with the 19 year old every day for the whole month he is visiting, you may not get pregnant even out of all of those encounters. It doesn’t sound like your intention, even if you did have sex with him, was to have it frequently. I’m saying just because you have sex with hime once or a few times doesn’t guarantee pregnancy.

It’s only important to have sex or insemination around the time if ovulation. The rest of the month is a waste of time.

Guys honestly my husband is kinky. He is tired of visiting to doctors and even if we find a donor relative or any friends he wants me to get physical. I respect his fantasy and I want to do it for him but I can’t accept that fromy side I can’t imagine myself in that position. And we can’t trust other people plus we won’t be seeing him after a month or so. And this guy is a good person good with keeping secret but he is very very shy. This is what makes me uncomfortable because he is very shy and thats why I don’t think of it. I still don’t think its a god idea because what if after all this nothing happens.

I’m out.

It sounds like you’re saying your husband would enjoy the thought of you having sex with another man, @Shirley29. Is that what you mean?

How did we go from “help me have a baby” to “my husband’s cuckold fantasy is for me to get knocked up by his awkward teenage cousin?”

Yes but I don’t really want it especially with him I just want a child. Even my husband wants a child we both want a child but now after all this he is interested in the other thing. This thought about this from past 2 months and now this guy (relative) shows up exactly after this fantasy. I honestly don’t have interest.

Then say no?

I am also scared whether he won’t like me or he doesn’t want to do it with me and we say him. That would be so terrible.

Straight question: do you want to have unprotected sex with and get pregnant by a kid you barely know?

I can’t. This is the only thing that my husband has asked from me.

You can say no.

You absolutely can say no.

Even from alternative ways also I will get pregnant from an unknown person.

@seek which kid did you mention?

There is no other option we have tried all methods now this is like my last chance.

Lets make it simply . Tried all doctors . My husband cannot be father. Donors are rare here with magically strong semen. If a known person is found my husband want me physical.

Do you want to fuck someone while your husband jerks off in the corner and watches?

Have fun and good luck with it!

Please don’t be disrespectful. I can’t have fun with it. I am scared and worried about it and I am not prepared to do it.

Then. Don’t. Do. It.

Say no.

Tell your husband, “In no uncertain circumstances do I want to conceive a child by being coerced to have sex with someone I do not choose to have sex with.”

@Shirley29 I don’t know where you get the idea that him being young, and a virgin, would affect his sperm.

I also don’t understand what incompetent doctors have to do with adoption.

Also, does your husband expect you to have sex with the kid to get pregnant? You yourself called it a “fantasy” on your husband’s part.

Yes he wants me to do it. I am desperate to get a child. But I am not yet prepared to be with someone else and especially not a young person. When I think of him I remember him being a child and this disgusts me. I hope he is grown enough now.

But I am preparing myself to be with .

Oh @Shirley29. You’re letting him control you. Has he always controlled you? How long have you guys been together?

If he’s at least 13, yes he’s “grown enough.”

He is not controling me. I want to do it for him no matter what. But its just that I am not prepared yet. He hasn’t asked anything from me. He is a good man. We have been for 7 years.

He is demanding that you do something that sickens you, but he doesn’t care, and you’re prepared to do it. How is that not controlling you?

I have not told him that I feel disgusting about it. The conversation started a day back . So have not said what I feel. And I don’t want to say it. Its the only thing he has asked from me my whole life .

Do you think I should tell him that I don’t like it?

Of course you should! Why wouldn’t you?

What do you mean it’s the only thing he asked of you in your life? How long have you been together?

7 years.

Well yes. You should tell him.

I will tell him tomorrow.

Smelling a troll.

What is it @chyna ?

@chyna I did not know whether to laugh or cry when I read this

I feel sorry for the baby already.

@Seek Apparently and thankfully trolls can’t breed easily.

Well there are new plans now.

Are you comfortable with the new plans?

I am kind of comfortable. When I said my husband that he is too young he replied ‘younger he is the better it gets and the child gets healthier’ so I just am ok with it should hope for best. He is going to arrive today.

I have accepted what’s going to be. even If I am disgusted I am ready for it. And I think it positively because I am going to get a child at the end of the time.

“Get a child?” Not guaranteed.

I’m smelling troll too.

Why no guarantee?

There’s no guarantee that you will get pregnant in a month. There’s no guarantee that you will get pregnant ever. There’s no guarantee that a pregnancy will result in a baby.

Please don’t say this you are discouraging me

Please donnot tell this you are discouraging me

What is smelling a troll?

@Shirley29 I don’t know you and have no right to judge you….but for just a moment if you came across a thread where I said that due to an unbefore disclosed genetic condition my son found out he does not produce sperm and he and his wife thought it best I be the sperm donor and invitro for some undisclosed reason was not an option and they gave the concept of me being the donor more than a drunken passing thought….that is what we peg as smelling a troll. It gets worse when I don’t disclose I have a vasectomy and agree to the rendezvous. Nirvana wrote a song called Smells like Troll Spirit to immortalize this dynamic.

If you want to knock boots with your husbands 19 yr old relative….just get a six pack of tall boys and go do it. Spare us the Dr Phil story line.

When the story gets weirder and weirder and doesn’t quit, it starts looking (or sounding) suspicious…...

I mean, I’ve got nothing against consenting adults taking part in a cuckold fantasy. I just don’t like being taken for a ride.

I am ready for this now. I am in now.

@jca as long as I get pregnant I will do it. Even I don’t like it.

He is going to arrive today evening . You guys have any ideas?

Ideas for what?

Tricking that guy to get me pregnant. Please some random ideas.

Yeah you are definitely a troll.

I agree @chyna

Can anyone tell me what is troll.?

Someone who posts something unreal but very farfetched to get people going. I don’t knowif you are one but I do know it would be totally dishonest to not tell this guy what you and your husband are planning. Then if he wants to participate it is up to him. If you don’t let him know, it is a scumbag scheme.

Not wanting to jump into conclusion whether we are dealing with a troll or a truly desperate individual with an intelligence of a 8-year-old, but it sounds more and more like what she actually wants is someone to say “yeah honey, you have made a perfectly right decision to seduce a 19-year-old relative to fulfill your husband’s fantasy. You are also very smart to choose not to let him know about your true intention and fool him into thinking you love him. Go ahead and hope you have a beautiful baby! I’m cheering you on!” even if only one person would actually say that.

With that in mind, you all know what to do. I have no more explanation.

Huh?

But guys do you think people with such a huge age gap doing the stuff is morally bad? But I am still stuck between doing it or denying.

Things that are morally bad about this situation:

1. Doing it even though you don’t want to.

2. Not telling your husband you don’t want to.

3. Not telling the kid your motive is to get you pregnant

4. Not asking the kid beforehand whether he would like to/be willing to assist you in getting pregnant

Things literally no one gives a fuck about:
1. The age difference.

The reason everyone thinks you’re a troll – that is, someone telling lies in order to entertain themselves – is because it’s really difficult to believe any adult could be this clueless.

@Seek About 4, she doesn’t really do it without asking him, according to her next question. She wants the kid to agree to have sex with her, and she is asking us how to persuade him. I’m going to change your 4 into “Have sex with the kid out of love and for a selfish reason, regardless of what would happen to the kid after that”.

@Shirley29 OK, in case you are really among the 3% of the population who are clueless about life, I’ll tell this straight in your face: you don’t come here for any honest advice, you just want us to hold your hand and say it’s totally ok for you to do whatever you are planning to do. Everyone has been telling you honestly why your decision is bad and what to do instead, but you didn’t seem to listen anyway. So all I can tell you is: unless you really want to listen and take time to let our words sink into your brain, do it. Do whatever you want. Go and have sex with the kid and let your husband watch and sastify himself. I’m not going to stop you. Good luck having your dream child.

Assume you go through with it, this one time deal is enough to get you knocked up.

Have you played the what ifs?

What if…

… Your husband becomes jealous of the baby, knowing it’s not his?

… The baby is sick, disabled, whatever. Is your husband going to care for him and love him like his own?

… You get into a fight with hubby, or you feel guilty, and one of you tells the relative the baby is his. Relative wants to be involved in the baby’s life. Have visits and custody and be a father. Now what?

Babies aren’t babies forever, and people suck at keeping secrets. It will get out eventually. What’s your plan for that?

This is highly immoral behaviour. It isn’t fair to your husbands relative and certainly not to any child that may result in the encounter or encounters. You either tell the 19 year old openly and get his cooperation or you don’t do it. Life is not some sort of sickly melodramatic soap opera. If you think you can raise a child with that sort of behaviour, you shouldn’t have one.

So, is the kid going to know who its father is IF you get pregnant? Or are you setting the child up for a major life-lie from the get go? How is the child going to feel when he finds out the truth? And he will.

And I think your husband is a controlling, manipulative pervert and I wouldn’t want him as the “father” of my child, not even in name.

Also, FYI, my ex and I were fertile, but it took us 3 years to get me pregnant with our first baby. I am under the impression you think you can have sex with the child one time and viola! Do you even know where you are in your cycle? Do you have any idea what the normal time for ovulation is? Do you know what ovulation even is?

I’m thinking this question is no longer worthy of responses….....

And people wonder why I can’t stand most people.

Most people aren’t as dumb as this one!

@jca it has no longer been worthy of response since she spilled about the husband’s fantasy. She wanted confirmation so much that she had to reveal something so shocking just to make sure she got a “yes” from any of us.

She didn’t get one from me. The whole thing is revolting. And I’m sure it’s totally fictitious. But I have nothing better to do right now.

BUT! She really should bring home an unsuspecting 19 year old female relative of hers. The pregnancy problem might be on her part so her husband needs to have sex with a young girl of his own. And then his relative and hers should have sex.

Oh, I see I missed Pt. 1 in the ongoing saga entitled “How to trap a man into fatherhood.”

Stupid. and I’m not sure if the poster is pretending to write English as a second language or actually does, but either way… this is stupid. (trying to say… Oh.. I’m currently on a date with him…. ) oh… and what website do we have to pay to tune into for more? And if that isn’t the case, you should be ashamed of yourself for doing this.

Sorry for being rude. I am very sorry.

This is how you do it in a morally acceptable manner that requires only a little money.

1. Buy a cheap turkey baster. I’m not sure what you call them where you live.

2. Explain the situation to your relative and that you an your husband desperately want a child but that your husband’s sperm isn’t viable.

3. Let the young man know that it would mean everything to you and your husband if you could have a child and that his DNA would be the closest available match to what your husband and you could produce.

4. Get the timing right on your menstrual cycle.

5. Ask this man to ejaculate in a container.

6. Suck it up with the turkey baster and squirt it into your vagina.

7. Repeat 5 & 6 until pregnant.

Thanks I need to talk to him and get semen I will talk to him tonight about it. First I have to talk to my husband.

We don’t get turkey thing here can I use a plastic water pipe instead?

To quote @seek “For fuck’s sake.”

Bong might work too.

What is bong?

Oh! I know!! Turn your vacuum cleaner to reverse and just stick the hose end up there and have your little brother ejaculate on the floor!

Guys, I know this is a ridiculous question but I wonder how different the responses would be if it was a 29 year old male wanting to seduce an unsuspecting, 19 year old female for the sole reason of impregnating her. We be trying to contact the police, you know?

Also, I’m wondering which of the Jellies is most likely to have this kind of twisted fantasy…who is conspicuously not here?

Are you making fun of me?

@Dutchess_III 19 is above the age of consent so there would be no reason to contact the police. As to your other point…...

I know it is above the age of consent. But I still think the reactions would be wildly different.

So you think age difference is a bad thing its immoral?

The whole thing is disgusting and creepy.

That’s the thing… The situation itself is so common. People have been using sperm donors since at least ancient Rome.

It’s the sheer naiveté this person is expressing that baffles me.

No idea about her biological systems, no concept of a biological father’s rights, no inkling about how this could possibly be weird for everyone involved…

Like we’re talking a ten year old through writing her first erotic fanfiction.

Sure it’s common. But I don’t think it normally involves such creepy deception.

Assuming that everything she says is real, I can draw her profile like this: she lives in a male-dominated place where women are not expected to divorce, men have total control on the family, people live a savaged life of cavemen, and women are not allowed to know anything to the point of being utterly brainless and the only thing they do is have sex and give birth like a soulless breeding machine.

I wonder, then, how she knows about the internet…

No its not like that I live in India we are free people I have a free will I can divorce but I don’t want to I love him. And if I divorce I won’t be able to find a new husband and if I find no guarantee that he will be a good person. My husband is a good person this is the only thing he has asked from me. He is a good guy.

First, I was right when I say you keep changing your story until we can’t argue with you anymore. You changed your culture story in less than 12 hours.

Second, I was right again when I say you take things too literally. You really think he love you because he says he does? India isn’t some sort of a shithole where technology is unknown (actually its technology is even much more advanced than some parts of the world). Your husband can easily choose to do what people here have suggested countless times for a baby. If he truly loved you he would ask you to do such a disgusting thing that you don’t even enjoy.

Third, I was right yet again that you are utterly obedient to your husband without questions. You have been defending him since the first day, after we have pointed out how wrong he is. You didn’t dare to tell him you don’t like the sex. You chose to satisfy his desire even if it could harm you. You opt to the immoral thing of seducing and deceiving a young man just to satisfy him. Why do you go to such length just to protect someone who don’t even have you in mind?

And don’t say that I can say those words because I’m an American because I’m obviously not. Women from various parts of Asia are now having the right to divorce their husbands and find someone better. Beside, if you are free to divorce him like you say, then do it now. Your husband isn’t the only man in this world.

^^ She’s enjoying playing games and telling us for our voyeuristic pleasure. It’s time to stop feeding her and let her do whatever she wants.

Let it go @Mimishu1995

Agree with @janbb.

I am not playing. But its over thanks everyone. Why would I waste so much time if I had to play.

OK good. We can stop hearing about it now. Glad you’re happy @Shirley29.

Thank u @jca can we all forget what happened earlier and start a new start now?