Which funerals are too important for you to miss?

Anyone in my immediate family.

I don’t know that I would be upset to miss anyone’s funeral. I feel obligated to attend some more so than others, but I would be happy to skip all funerals altogether. Neither of my paternal grandparents had a funeral, and though I was incredibly close with them, I wasn’t sad that I didn’t have to mourn them in public. In fact, I prefer not to have a funeral, myself.

I think you should also go to funeral of your enemies too. You should forget what happened in the past and come to pay the last visit without regretting in future because you won’t be seeing this person again forever.

Both my mother and father were cremated so no funeral, thank God. I find funerals deeply disturbing. Ghoulish.
I would have been really upset to have not been able to make their memorials. As I would for any of my immediate family members.

None. I don’t need funerals to let go of someone. When my mother died a few years ago there was, thankfully, no funeral (she didn’t want one). I still went down for a week or so to help out my father, but as far as my mother goes I had already let go by the time I stepped on the train to go down.

I can’t think of any funerals that are important.

I’ll go to an occasional celebration of life but only if one of the surviving friends/relations is very important to me and they really want people to go.

I don’t get much out of funerals. They just seem like skeezy advertisements for church membership.

My husband’s best friend died on Friday, and his funeral was Monday. Jason got up to speak, and on his way off the pulpit the preacher started saying things like, “if you want to see him again I can help you with that…” The whole service was about damn Jesus, not the 45 year old father of two who had suddenly died.

So sad, @Seek. I’m so sorry. That is so upsetting.

Rick’s family has a lot of funerals. The last one was in a church. I haven’t been a church in a long, long time. The preacher got up and started a sermon. I was really struck by how many times he said, “You must believe!”
I also found out the last page in their hymnal was page 666.

Maybe my vocabulary limits are showing. By funeral I mean any official memorial for a deceased person.

@Seek I think I may have mentioned this earlier but many years ago we attended a funeral for the daughter of a friend. The service was held in a church which she had joined a couple of years earlier. Her parents were not even of the same denomination.
It was all I could do not to walk out when I heard the preacher saying that he hoped that her parents would “find Jesus” and join the church so they could then be with their daughter when they passed. Not even implying they were not saved but coming right out and saying it!

My mom, my sister, or my nephew. All three are the most important people in my life right now.