Did you know that women file for divorce 2/3rds of the time? Is that surprising?

Not surprising. The men I know are more apt to just have an affair to get their needs met than to leave the marriage.

Well in my limited experience, more of the women I know/knew seem(ed) to attach more significance than I did to official legal marriage state. Didn’t necessarily correspond to who files, but I can imagine that in general them caring more might lead to them filing more, but each divorce tends to be complicated, so who knows? I’m sure there are sociologists with more educated guesses.

Men are cowards. They will stay and try to control the crap relationship, or what’s left of it. It’s always been up to women to say , ‘enough is enough’ and ‘fuck this shit’ and get out for their own sake and the sake of the kids. This does not surprise me at all.

Women filing for divorce more doesn’t necessarily mean that they initiated the break-up. The man might just as easily have walked out. In many states, you have to live separately for a set amount of time before one can file. In most cases, at least in the past, the woman stood the most to gain financially by having a divorce settlement so it is logical that they would file for divorce.

@zenvelo interesting that you’re assuming women aren’t having their sexual needs met, and that’s why they file. Actually, that’s the main reason men file, but not women. There is a link in the details. Women file for deeper reasons than mere sex.

In fact, after women were “granted” the ability to care for themselves, were able to get comparable jobs, that’s when the divorce rates went up. They weren’t forced to stay in horrible, abusive, controlling relationships any more.

Also, what I found out is that until the man actually claims to be living away from the family, he doesn’t owe child support. I had to beg my ex to register that he was living away from us, but that was months after the fact. In the mean time, he didn’t have to pay any child support because ‘officially’ he didn’t live apart from us, when in actual fact, he hadn’t been financially supporting the household for months.

@cazzie “Bed” or beg”?

That sucks @cazzie. I was in the same boat. No child support. Then he moved 2000 miles away and there was no way for me to fight it. I couldn’t afford it.

@Dutchess_III That isn’t what I said. I just said men are not going to take the time and effort to file if they are getting their needs met. In other words, men are lazy.

I misunderstood “The men I know are more apt to just have an affair to get their needs met than to leave the marriage. I assumed you were referring for sex, and suggesting women would file for divorce over that rather than have an affair.

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I would be surprised, especially in the country where I live. Where I live, marriage is expected and enforced by religion to be once in a lifetime contract, which means, you need to stay and be loyal with your spouse no matter what the challenges are for the rest of your life. And since most people are highly religious here, I would be surprised that the rate divorce is high, regardless of who initiate the divorce.

That “stay no matter what” attitude works only for the men.
Most people here are not religious.