How can I convince people that I no longer want to share things about myself that I once WANTED to talk about?
This question may come across as egotistical—but only to the degree that I want to be understood and known by people close to me.
Maybe some of it is from resentment, or from feeling rejected. But not so long ago I was wanting to share things about my personal life and “inner world” that other people might not understand—and do so with great vulnerability and trust. But now I don’t. Sorry that’s a closed book now. As if to say, from not being heard when I needed to, I’ve sort of lost the momentum—and want to keep my inner world a more private realm.
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Just say what you’ve just said. First, don’t bring up those topics you don’t want to discuss, and if others do, just say while in the past you felt comfortable discussing such topics, now you’d rather keep your own counsel. If they ask why, just say you just feel you want to keep your inner world to yourself these days. Leave it at that.
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As @Earthbound_Misfit says, don;t bring it up.
But if someone brings it up (which most likely will not happen), just say, “I’ve gotten past that, what’s up with you?”
Don’t reveal, just deflect the conversation.
I would use the the same techniques as @zenvelo. I’d answer very pleasantly with no details at all and change the subject. “Oh that ended ages ago. i’ve moved on to bungee jumpoing and rock climbing. What have you been doing?”
I would not say I have changed my mind an no longer want to discuss personal issues. That will only make them more curious. I’d just be positive and deflect.
Don’t mention those things. Don’t engage.
“I don’t want to talk about it” shouls work.
@Sneki95 It should work but odds are, it won’t. Their very next sentence will likely be “Why not?”
There is an old expression “Everyone loves a good train wreck.” Books have been written on the subject.We can’t look away. IMO the best way to avoid being asked about the issue is to live life well (Pretend if you must.) Give the impression the train is running smoothly. Talk about boring stuff only parents will enjoy.
“It’s all good. How’s it going with you?”
@LuckyGuy Makes sense. Repeating the question to the asker will give them a chance to talk about themselves, which most people adore doing.
Change the subject and deflect. Keep it light. If that person pushes have something “suddenly come up” and casually excuse yourself from the situation.
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