Does anyone have a manager who treats them like property?

Maybe he wasn’t really paying a bit of attention to you, where you were standing and what you were doing, and was just talking to the guy.

@chyna
When I moved, he looked behind him to where I was, then moved away.

I can think of dozens of explanations for this other than your manager deliberately trying to hide you. It’s possible but highly unlikely.

Was he hiding the guy from you or you from the guy?

@stanleybmanly

The guy from me. I was cleaning something and the guy was looking at me.

Were you showing cleavage?

@chyna

No. Not allowed.
We were full black uniforms.

And am not that bold to show body parts that would distract anyone.

Hmm…it’s hard to get a read on this situation from your question. From my perspective, it seems that you are overthinking this one interaction and torturing yourself by trying to see it as some kind of intentional slight or microaggression.

It’s entirely possible that your boss is a macho jerk who has no idea how overbearing he can come across or doesn’t really care. Like I said, hard to say from the way the situation is described but possible.

Regardless, it sounds like you do not get along and this is not a good working relationship for either of you. I would highly consider looking for other opportunities to avoid this situation and any associated anxiety. Sometimes people just don’t jive.

I still say (and have said a few times) a visit to a counselling is in order. Or perhaps your boss thinks you’re a nosey, eavesdropper and he didn’t want you listening in or watching his interaction with this man.

Weird day yesterday. It was mainly my boss and I working the front end. He kept treating me like I was a princess or a delicate flower. Going more than beyond assisting me with my job. And even allowing me to sit and eat “cake and ice cream” while he does my work, that I had been doing. And when I insist on doing it myself, he tells me “don’t worry, I got you”. And keeps on apologizing to me and begging me not to be mad at him. And even telling a few coworkers how when he tries to fist bump me, I left him hanging. One coworker told him I was a germaphobe and probably didnt want to touch him. His voice got high when he demanded to know if it was true. I never fist bump him because it looks inappropriate. And am a serious person that doesnt play around the workplace. He says he knows I am not use to anyone helping me, and thats why I am giving him a hard time when he helps me. He just creeps up behind me and stares at me. He’s a very nice boss and cares. But it getting weird with us. Yesterday was morw obvious because he didnt hide much.

Change jobs.

I think people are being a little unfairly dismissive in this question. None of us were there or know the situation first-hand. Telling a poster to “see a psychiatrist” is not just unkind, it’s abelist toward people who have legitimate psych problems.

As far as the OP goes, if she’s uncomfortable with her boss or they don’t see eye-to-eye, she should spruce up her resume and start looking for other opportunities. It happens to the best of us…

@LeavesNoTrace You may not know that this a consistent perception of the OP in many work situations. She always asks about men who are staring at her which is why we are questioning her perceptions.

@LeavesNoTrace, I suggest you look at the OPs question history.

@janbb @Earthbound_Misfit I’ve taken a quick browse and I see what you mean about the questions. Perhaps she is a little paranoid/self-centered and needs to work on that.

However, it really irks me when people say things like “see a psychiatrist” in a petty or dismissive tone to someone who is struggling with issues. There’s nothing shameful about seeing a therapist and it doesn’t necessarily mean a person is pathological.

My advice stands. She should find a new job and work on her maturity a bit.

@LeavesNoTrace I didn’t tell her to see a psychiatrist to be mean or dismissive. I have read all of her other questions. Everybody has given her lots of good answers, including suggesting that she seek mental health treatment. I believe that she needs it. Immaturity is not her problem.