What are these type of people called?
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March 21st, 2017
Lets say I have a Green T shirt on. This individual will place a orange circle patch on it. They will then say that T shirt is a better T shirt because of the orange circle patch I put on it.
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I am really confused about how many people are involved and who did and said what:
Sentence One: You wear Green T-shirt
Sentence Two: (Another?) individual places an orange circle patch on your Green T-shirt.
Sentence Three: This other person says your shirt is better because of the orange circle YOU put on it, even though the (OTHER?) person put it on it?
If you mean that this other person changes something about your stuff and then says that’s better (without saying you did it), then I would say that is someone who has severe boundary issues. For whatever reason (probably mental health issues), they feel the need to dominate other people (perhaps because they fear being dominated themselves, and can’t think outdside that imaginary “contest”) and so they violate other people’s space and property and even clothing, modify it without permission, and then say it is an improvement.
Of course, it can vary widely depending on circumstances and relationship. This is very common behavior for mothers to do to their children, and when children are young and/or welcome the behavior, it may not be a problem. Or in the military, when domination and boundary destruction by superiors is part of the training and discipline/command strategy. Outside a situation where improvement and comment by others is actually freely welcomed (such as with many parent-child relations and some friends, and possibly some professional situations), this is probably some sort of attempt to dominate – it’s about how the receiving person feels about it and whether they are allowed to refuse the “help”.
You are describing a topper (as defined in urban dictionary):
a person, who after hearing a story, responds with one of their own which is intended to belittle or “top” the previous one. usually, topper’s stories are complete and utter fabrications of their limited imaginations. extreme toppers actually believe their own impossible lies, and fantasize about their mothers.
A one upper? Per urban dictionary it’s a person who responds to someone else’s experience or problem by immediately telling a similar story about themselves with a much more fantastic or terrible outcome.
Designers. Those people are called “designers”.
If t was a green badge then I would say a guy cerebrating saint Patrick’s day.
@zenvelo Are you describing “one up-man-ship”?
@si3tech Not “one-up manship”, that is close but not the same.
You can tell a topper about the mountain you climbed over the weekend, and they will tell you of their hike in the Himalayas If you ran a marathon, they just did a 50 miler.
The problem I see with calling it “one-up-manship”, is that the person is coming up to someone and adding a freaking orange patch to the other person’s green shirt and saying it’s better that way. That’s messing with someone’s clothes and saying it made it better, which unless you agree or (sometimes even) if it’s your mom, is ridiculously pushy and bizarre.
One-upping someone’s shirt would be to wear a similar but somewhat better shirt yourself.
LOL. I think you ran into a fisherman.
I’m going to need more, and specific information to the OP’s situation to answer this question. At face value, I can’t picture someone walking up to someone else and sticking or sewing a patch onto someone’s shirt while they are wearing it, especially without asking permission.
Am I missing something?
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