If someone asks for your advice or input but does not heed it, does it hurt your feelings?

God, no. I have my own life.

Sure, it might hurt my feelings a bit. But that does not mean anyone is obligated to follow advice they don’t agree with.

Nah, it doesn’t bother me. What I do like is when they follow up regarding what they ended up doing. It’s more about their happiness in solving the problem and knowing the resolution.

No, not really. We are on Fluther after all. There are plenty of people that not only do not take our advice, they argue about it, even after they’ve asked for help.

In real life, you can usually tell when someone is not going to take the advice, mostly based on their past choices. Some people just like to complain about how bad their life is, but have no actual desire to make any changes. Knowing that, I don’t mind talking to people, even if I know they won’t take the advice.

In real life relationships probably expecially if it’s something I know a lot about and the person I’m in a relationship with just maxes out her credit cards anyway.
If it’s advice online it doesn’t bother me if they don’t agree with my advice.
I like that asking advice on fluther will hopefully produce many different opinions so I can take a little from each one and hopefully find a balanced solution.

No. But if they disregard it and end up in trouble because of it, I’m not particularly sympathetic.

No. It’s advice, not an order. I offer it and people can accept or reject it.

No. Any advice, even when it’s wanted and solicited, is nothing more than an opinion or suggestion. I hope nobody would ever “take” my advice but, instead, would weigh my words as needed and within the context.

No. Does it piss me off?? You betcha!!

Why does it piss you off @kritiper?

If someone is going to ask for my opinion, then they should take it into consideration. When they blow me off, it’s like they think I’m some kind of idiot that doesn’t have a viable opinion, so why ask me at all? It’s a waste of my time and thought processes!

I’m not arguing with you here @kritiper, just trying to understand your position. Your original response surprised me and I think this is such an interesting discussion. How do you know they ‘blew you off’? And why would you think they’re disrespecting you and your ideas?

If I have a problem, I might speak to a few different people to try to gather different perspectives. I want people to tell me what they think or how they might tackle a problem. Once I’ve gathered people’s ideas, I will evaluate the ideas presented and make a decision about what action to take (if any). If I don’t take someone’s advice, it doesn’t mean I don’t value their input or I think they’re an idiot. I doubt I’d ask someone I thought was an idiot for advice. It might just mean their response wasn’t right for me at that time or for my situation.

Do you always take people’s advice when it’s given? Do you feel you are obliged to follow their guidance?

If they don’t take my position, I appreciate them telling me why in a frank and intelligent manner. (after all, my advice is with much thought and not just handed out willy-nilly.) My responses are never random, so I want to know what they didn’t agree with and their rational for not taking my advice. (I hate saying “I told you so!”)

It doesn’t bother me at all. If I ask someone else for advice, I don’t always take it. I’m not obligated to take it. Only the person asking for advice knows extenuating circumstances. Maybe someting occurred between the time they asked and the present time, that changes things a bit.

I know some people do get upset when you ask for their advice and don’t take it, and I could never understand that stance.

Nope.

A lot of people have given me for advice that I thought over, very seriously, then rejected for what ever reason, especially if it wasn’t asked for. People like that tend to view things from their own perspective, “This is what I would do,” and not take your situation into account.