What would you call this( Details inside..)?
This happened with a friend cum colleague of mine. He was in love with someone who was apparently in love too. However they couldn’t be together due to some reason. She got engaged with someone else. He kept trying after that for some time (was a foolish move I would say) in the hope that something will happen as he knew she also loved him. Finally the day came when she put him in front of her fiancée in the bad light saying he has been following her without her will and there was nothing between them and showcased it like harassing. I know it wasn’t great move by him to try after engagement but know that he’s a guy who wouldn’t have crossed the limits without her consent. What would you call her behaviour and reasoning behind it? What was the need for putting him under bad light? She could just said no and he would have obliged then why such extreme measures was taken proving him to be a psycho indirectly?
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Here is the problem: these two sentences are conjecture, but not objective statements of fact.
”...as he knew she also loved him.
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”...he’s a guy who wouldn’t have crossed the limits without her consent.
These are the kinds of things that stalker crazy people tell themselves to justify violating boundaries. She was engaged! but he kept on bugging her.
She did the only thing she knew to do to stop his behavior.
I imagine she may have denied it somewhat to herself and may have at first avoided talking about it to her fiance and so that may have created a situation when, when it came (or was about to come) to his notice that she may have been afraid it would cause a big problem for her. So perhaps in an attempt to avoid the full truth and to protect her future of her marriage, she may have cast it in a way that ended up looking like this from the perspective of you, the first guy’s friend. What her actual situation and actions were like, I can hardly know as a fourth-hand reader of one summarizing post from your point of view through that guy’s point of view as he described it to you.
I have trouble understanding this post the way it is written.
^^To put it simply a friend of mine was labeled as stalker by her ex in front of her fiancée even though they were in love with each other which didn’t workout well. I wanted to know what could have been the motive behind it?
@imrainmaker That is classic, textbook stalking. She has moved on (engaged!), he thinks he can still “win” her heart and keeps after her.
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