@ThePigman, do you want me to respond? I’m not sure, but I’ll give it a try…
I am also sorry again (to anyone reading this) for the length, though I doubt I’m known here for being concise… Still, there was a lot to unpack for me to feel that I had given a fair response. I started each new section with bolded word(s) so if anyone wants to, they can skip to that part.
I should probably start by saying that I think @DominicY got to the crux of the issue, and what I focused on is perhaps more peripheral.
And as I tried to make evident in my earlier post, I don’t think bashing (as opposed to critique or negative statements) is productive to conversation, no matter who delivers the zinger. I also won’t try and say that I haven’t slipped up in moments when I’ve been frustrated at Trump’s conduct or at the political atmosphere as a whole.
As for basing insults on stereotypes… The best I can figure is that were talking past each other. So, here’s an example to try and illustrate the dynamics I see at play here. I’ll use Brad Pitt as an example too, because why not?
Thought experiment: Imagine I was to say: “Brad Pitt is such a man. It’s pathetic. He can’t keep it in his pants. Two affairs! He’s such a man.”
And now imagine I was saying that to a group of women in private, and when the transcript later comes out I say “Oh come on, it’s just parlor talk. It’s nothing. We all talk like that when the door’s closed.”
Or imagine that I was saying that while standing on a stage, and I had an audience of people laughing (or shouting) and clapping along. And if anyone tries to point out the obviously problematic assumptions ungirding the statements, the way such statements might be alienating men and thrumming up anti-man sentiment in the crowd, I scoff and say “these PC police, trying to tell us what to say—we’re sick of it!” and then the crowd cheers some more.
Or imagine that I was tweeting it out in a slew of targeted tweets that were getting liked and retweeted by Twitter users.
Can you see how those situations start to seem problematic? Can you see how those situations start to seem exclusionary? And can you see how those situations attribute Brad Pitt’s infidelities to an entire group, namely men, the connection held together because of stereotypes or assumptions that people are carrying—or at least recognize enough to get the gist?
Of course saying “Brad Pitt is handsome” doesn’t mean “men are handsome.” No one is disputing that. However, implying or suggesting that Brad Pitt is handsome because he’s a certain kind of man does introduce assumptions about men in a more general sense.
Pussy-grabbing: If you read what I had written more carefully, you would have seen that I kept Trump’s pussy-grabbing claims focused on “beautiful women.” As I phrased it above, he has no interest in the ugly ones.
Here are his exact words: “You know, I’m automatically attracted to beautiful—I just start kissing them. It’s like a magnet. Just kiss. I don’t even wait. And when you’re a star, they let you do it. You can do anything… Grab ‘em by the pussy. You can do anything.” (Source)
Yes, in the beginning of the recording, Trump is talking about a single woman, a woman who ”[he] moved on like a bitch. But [he] couldn’t get there.” Notice, however, that in the quote above, he has clearly moved from a single women to a pattern of behavior.
And let’s not forget that Trump is also a man who has bragged about being able to walk into the changing rooms of his beauty pageants while the contestants are in various states of undress—simply because he owns the pageant. Let’s not forget that there have also been many women who finally felt like they could come forward with stories of how Trump treated them.
So even if Trump’s words were focused on a single woman: “I just started kissing her. It was like a magnet. I didn’t even wait. And because I’m a star, she let me do it. I could do anything… Grab her by the pussy. I could do anything”? … Even if he phrased it like that, it seems like a weak argument to suggest that we don’t still see a pattern of behavior on Trump’s part simply because he “wasn’t talking about all women.”
(This is already longer than I meant it to be, so I’ll try to be brief….)
Kovaleski: the reporter, the “handicapped guy,” has a condition that prevents him from being able to extend his right hand. When Trump tried to discredit Kovaleski’s statement, he decided to do so by flailing bent-up arms, putting on a voice, and acting out a moment of fictitious stumbling confusion. Trump led up to that by saying “poor guy, you’ve got to see this guy.” It is hard for me to see how he isn’t making reference to Kovaleski’s disability…
But even if we believe Trump’s claims that is was simply an accident, Trump could have at least apologized for the optics once he understood the full context… because, come on, it looks pretty bad. Instead, Trump claimed that Kovaleski was “using his disability to grandstand,” and that the New York Times is “a paper that is rapidly going down the tubes.”
(Source for quotes)
As for the scope of the insult… By mocking the disability, he’s trying to use the disability as a reason to discredit Kovaleski, so you can’t really claim it isn’t about the disability itself.
… Are you saying that since Kovaleski has arthrogryposis, that if Trump was mocking anything, he’s only mocking the people with that specific condition?
Or are you saying that since Trump was making gestures, he’s only mocking people with physical disabilities that limit the control they have of their arms or limbs?
But what about the long, unfortunate history of societies treating people with all sorts of disability as sub-human, as dumb, as not worthy of the same consideration and respect as others? Doesn’t that change the context of Trump’s physical and verbal mockery of an intelligent, articulate reporter who happens to have a disability?
The Khans: I don’t really know where to begin here, since you start out calling the father “evil”… and then you try to claim that a stereotype of Muslim women is true by claiming, like many people who try to defend stereotypes, that it’s “not one based on nothing.” I could point out that many cultures have a long history of oppressing women, and it doesn’t mean that’s the case anymore. I could point out that “Muslim” is a category encompassing a wide range of people and their diverse beliefs. I could point out that stereotypes virtually never hold up to scrutiny—anecdotes extrapolated to represent a group of people that, statistically, they don’t… or misconceptions made by people who don’t understand the group of people well enough to make those sorts of statements… etc. Instead, I think I’ll let Muslim women speak for themselves, as they did here. And I think I’ll let Ghazala speak for herself, as she did here
Also, can you explain to me what you mean when you suggest that Hillary caused Humayun Khan’s death? He died in Iraq in 2004.
Russia: Yes, I am suspicious about the connections between the Trump administration and Russia. We know right now, because the CIA and FBI confirmed it, that both agencies are investigating Russia’s misinformation campaign during the last presidential election, a campaign targeted at Hillary Clinton. Trump was the beneficiary of that effort, though whether incidentally or intentionally has yet to be determined—but we know that the FBI is investigating possible connections between the Trump administration and Russia. While no definitive ties between the Trump administration and Russia have been publicized, there have been numerous leaks that are at least concerning. Of course, I recognize that neither the FBI nor CIA is able to comment on the veracity of the various leaks, and Comey himself hinted that at least some of the information floating around is erroneous. Still, there are also confirmed connections, monetary or otherwise, between various Trump administration and various Russian oligarchs. There’s enough in the ether for me to feel that my suspiciousness is warranted. And, if you’ll grant me, I do believe I said that I was “waiting” for the FBI and/or CIA to come forward with solid evidence one way or another. I said it in flowery language, perhaps (“shoe to drop”), but I don’t see how that’s being unreasonable.
I have never heard of the paramilitary-whatever, and I would appreciate it if you wouldn’t make assumptions about my beliefs or opinions, particularly in an attempt to stick onto me what I can only assume is a wild theory in order to make me seem less credible. I haven’t done that to you. (If you feel I inadvertently have, please point it out and I will retract it.)
PC Culture: Perhaps I shouldn’t have used such a hotly debated phrase as that one, since I know from others on this site that there are many different interpretations and experiences surrounding the phrase. At the least, I would hope that you and I can agree that a culture of “respecting people and respecting diversity” is the antithesis of national or global factions.