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Care to share some of your first date deal breakers?

Asked by Dutchess_III (47126points) April 17th, 2017

I thought of this question after looking through this click bait site.
I had to laugh at the one gal who smelled like pancakes! And the gal who used the word “sassy” several times to describe herself, AND she liked horses! Oh, the horrors!

A couple of my first date deal breakers: Dude asked me out, I said OK. He had a really, REALLY nice Mustang convertible. His ride was nice, but there weren’t any fireworks for me about him. He cinched it when he glanced over at me with a leer and said, “Man you make a nice seat cover for my car!” Bai!

Another guy, first date. We went to Subway or some place to get a sandwich to eat at the park. He was behind me in line. I could see him reflected in the mirror in front of me. I saw him take a loooong look at me, up and down and stared at my butt for 20 minutes, then nodded his head like, “She’ll do!” Excuse me?? And he pretty much drooled for the rest of the date. The final straw was at the park he smiled and he had food stuck in his teeth…and we hadn’t even started eating yet. Bai!

Another guy took me to a nice restaurant, then proceeded to tell me a story about standing under a limb his friend was cutting off. He was supposed to catch the limb. He missed and the limb pretty much gave him a concussion. He completely blamed his friend. Bai!

Another guy showed up wasted on some sort of downers. I didn’t know what was wrong, I just knew he was off. We were supposed to go to Wichita, but then he told me had taken a double or triple dose of some kind of pill he had a prescription of, for for depression (that alone was a deal breaker) because he was so nervous about our date. I managed to convince him to stay in town, and escaped as soon as I could.

Another guy thought he’d impress me with the fact that he drank Michelob, and was willing to “discipline” my 9 year old son in a dark, macho, manly way. “I’ll show you who’s boss!” kind of thing. BAI BAI BAI and BAI!!
Heard a few years later he committed suicide in the parking lot of a hotel. He was with some women and they were out in the parking lot, arguing, and he put a gun to his head and said, “This is how much I love you,” and boom. My God.

Rick almost didn’t survive our first date, for that matter.

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27 Answers

Sneki95's avatar

None of the reasons in that link were ridiculous. That’s all I’ll say.

Dutchess_III's avatar

OK. Not what I asked, and I expressed no opinion on the link (except that a couple were funny,) but OK.

Seek's avatar

I went on a date in high school that I was completely unaware was a date. Apparently, “a bunch of us are going to the basketball game and my church’s youth night, wanna come?” constitutes a date. Whoops.

Another kid I “went out with” briefly in high school took me to his family’s Christmas party as a first “date,” and busted out an “I love you” on the phone line the next night. I noped right out of that situation.

ragingloli's avatar

well, for instance that mustang would have been an instant deal breaker

Dutchess_III's avatar

@Seek Now I’m curious. How did you find out it was a date? He put the moves on you?

The mustang was the only thing he had going for him, @ragingloli! It was beautiful

Espiritus_Corvus's avatar

One was so mean to the waiter, I eventually just paid the check, threw her cab fare on the table and walked out of the restaurant without saying anything. I hate it when we’re out at sea and I find out she’s a high-maintenance idiot afraid of every shadow she sees on the water, “It’s too hot, I’m hungry, When will we get back to the dock.” Gah. Those usually think they’ve hooked into money because of the size of the boat. Can’t stand men or women like that. Or drunks. For some reason, a lot of people think mixing deep salt water with vast amounts of alcohol is really cool. I’ve been very tempted to throw a few of these overboard and report them lost at sea. They have no idea how close they’ve come. At least pot heads are mellow. Drunks are complete assholes.

Let’s see… LOL. I think when she starts messing with her nose, then pulls out a really long, gelatinous booger and eats it like a strand of spaghetti… that would probably do it for me.

Seek's avatar

Nah, one of our mutual friends sidelined me at the youth thing and clued me in. I was a bit confused, mostly, because I was not at all interested.

Pied_Pfeffer's avatar

First date deal-breakers:
* If they spend the whole time talking about their ex, be it positively or negatively. It’s a sign that they still need time to work through their past.
* If they say, “I’m not prejudiced, but…”. It is highly likely that they are.

Dutchess_III's avatar

I hated it when men would start with “I’m the kind of person that….” and name some quality that didn’t actually apply to them at ALL once I got to know them. Same thing with woman. I guess I hate it when anyone says, “I’m the kind of person….” because they aren’t.

Mariah's avatar

Finding out a guy was a broney on a first date was a bit much for me. There were other reasons why there wasn’t a second date, but that was one of them.

Dutchess_III's avatar

O. M. G. @Mariah! I have never heard of such a thing!

zenvelo's avatar

@Mariah wins this one!

I was actively dating on line for a few years, and there were a few real deal breakers: realizing the pictures used were more than five years or fifty pounds ago. And lying about their age on their profile.

When i was in my mid fifties, I had put the top of my desired range as 60. One woman said she was 55, but talked about growing up in Berkeley in the 40s and 50s, I figured she was closer to 72 or so at the time.

Dutchess_III's avatar

My sister set me up on a date with an “engineer from Boeing. He’s an engineer, Val!” To her that = money. That’s all that counts, t oher.
She neglected to tell me he was about our father’s age. When I snarled at her afterward, she said, “But he’s an engineer!
The guy was such a boor. He talked on and on during our date, at a swanky steak house, about different trips he’s taken, a safari in Africa, a visit to China. He was obviously trying to impress me, and asked me not one single question about myself.
Well, the date wound down, at long last, and he drove me home. He pulled up to the curb and parked. I got out, and realized he was getting out too. I politely waited as he came around the car. I reached out to shake his hand, and he pulled me in for the “goodnight kiss” he obviously felt he was entitled to.
I was so repulsed by the thought of kissing that geriatric boor that I desperately said the first thing that came to mind, which was “Did you know that after 5 years you get to reclaim virgin status?!”
He pulled back, utterly confused, poor guy! And I escaped.
Gee. I never heard from him again.

2davidc8's avatar

If they smoke or have a strong BO.
GQ, by the way.

Aster's avatar

I’ve told this one before: a guy friend fixed me up with his friend who was very depressed about a recent breakup. We four were to go to a football game. I got into his car, he didn’t say anything. We got our seats and for hours he never spoke one word. When we left he didn’t speak.
Hey; I was nineteen. Nothing wrong with me! What a waste of an evening. Now, if I had this happen today I would say, “you know what I like about you? You’re such a fascinating conversationalist. Bye!”

RedDeerGuy1's avatar

Being teased.

NomoreY_A's avatar

I asked a lady to dinner once, and was late because I stopped to chow down elsewhere on the way. I got there and she told me, “I’ve been waiting here for 2 hours and I’m hungry!” I said, “Well I’m not, I just had a good meal”. She replies that she’ll have dinner with me again. I told her, well ok then, call it breakfast.

Dutchess_III's avatar

Now why in the hell did you do that, @NomoreY_A? My now husband stood me up on a date once, and I didn’t talk to him again for 4 years, no matter how often he called or emailed me. Then I married him.

Seek's avatar

His username is No more Yahoo answers…

I’m guessing troll.

NomoreY_A's avatar

@Seek: Troll? Well, I never…I’ll have you know I am a comedy legend in my own mind!

NomoreY_A's avatar

@Dutchess_III Logical, in an illogical kind of way. Is there something wrong with that, or is it me?

zenvelo's avatar

@NomoreY_A It’s you. You are a first date deal breaker.

NomoreY_A's avatar

@zenvelo Well, she ran away with my best friend anyway. And I sure miss him.

Dutchess_III's avatar

There was something wrong with her. too, for continuing her friendship with you. You can’t tolerate being treated by a man like that.

NomoreY_A's avatar

@Dutchess_III That’s what you call a gag, Duchess. l like women, I respect women, in real life I’d never treat a woman that way. I just have a dry sense of humor. Some people catch on, some people think I’m serious and call me a jerk. But I don’t care what they all me, just call me on payday. (As I stated above, I’m a comedy legend in my own mind).

Dutchess_III's avatar

What’s your number and when is payday?

NomoreY_A's avatar

I don’t give out my number on line, bet you ask that of all the trolls. Actually, I used to be a troll but they foreclosed on my bridge.

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