Why do people care about lurve?

Lurve! Lurve is all there is!

Also

God is lurve.

Lurve means never having to say you’re sorry.

Lurve me tender…

Lurve! Lurve! Lurve for the poor.

I could’ve lurved you better, didn’t mean to be unkind,
You know that was the last thing on my mind.

And for a serious answer, to some of us it doesn’t matter at all; to others of us, it is an affirmation of some worth in what we offer. It’s all good either way.

Lurve is a status symbol.

Well, that’s weird. Fluther is getting desolate and people are still aiming for lurve? I bet it’s a newcomer’s thing. If people want to get competitive to earn score and settle a status then they’ll eventually realize that other sites such as Yahooanswer provide a better environment for such objective.

All you need is lurve…

I don’t care, personally but it’s fun to get a GA and then the lurve just happens.

It gives them (us?) a sense of importance and makes them (us?) feel accepted and respected.

It’s a subtle way to say “My words are being acknowledged, people agree with me.”

Like a virtual nod. Boosts your ego.

Which is why it shouldn’t be a thing.

I’m not a fan (long story), but I showed up at my last mansion party to acknowledge my friends. I discovered a few friends I didn’t know I had.

I don’t usually pay attention to it as far as the score goes but in a debate, when I see a great answer, it tells me that others agree with what I’m saying.

When I give out lurve, I don’t give it as a popularity thing. I try not to pay attention to the “who,” more to the “what.”

Lurve is the answer. And you know that for sure.

Its like a : ) or thanks. It gives me insight into how I am doing.

Because it’s a many splendored thing.

Well there’s a rose in a fisted glove,
And the eagle flies with the dove
Well if you can’t be
With the one you lurve, honey
Lurve the one you’re with

And because it’s an open door. According to Anna anyway.

Do you mean lurvae?

good times

If it didn’t matter to people, the founders of Fluther would not have designed a positive re enforcement system.
But people like rewards.
Everybody says they don’t care about the medals, but when they get one they wear it next time they dress.
Same thing.

Not me. Really. I know doctors who proudly display their diplomas on the wall. Mine collect dust in a drawer somewhere. I honestly don’t know where they are.

^ Same here. No idea where my diplomas are. I’ve never framed them and put them on the wall. Same with other awards I’ve been given over the years.

you both cared enough to tell us you don’t care :)

We were both responding to @josie‘s point about medals (and such). Not everyone does display such things.

I’d also add that my father never displayed or wore his military medals. I didn’t know he had any until I found them in the back of the wardrobe.

However, I don’t think medals/diplomas are the same as lurve. I agree with others who have said while the overall number doesn’t matter, it does recognise a contribution to the site and can signify that others agree with a point being made. That is helpful in gauging the community’s view on a particular discussion.

@jonsblond Point to Janet! No, I was just responding to @josie‘s comment about the medals.

I am agnostic about the point thing. I guess I understand why people care about it but I just personally a bit mystified about why. But I’m almost irrationally uncomfortable with attention. For years I’ve kept my birthday secret on Facebook because I didn’t want all the “happy birthdays”. Somehow I must have changed the preferences at some point and this year it popped up. I was pretty uncomfortable with the attention.

Well, for me, I’ve got my eyes on a rather large and often-expanded estate somewhere in the distance. I hear they have pancakes and parties and countless custom-made rooms. I’ve still got some ways to go, but the GPS promises I’m getting closer…

I care about lurve partly because I appreciate the recognition from others, partly because I like the fun traditions surrounding it, partly because I very much enjoy spreading the lurve around myself!

I usually don’t pay much attention to it, but the mansion parties can be fun.

@jonsblond Although this reminds me of something. My daughter, now 16, has been on a swim team since she was 8 or 9. For the young kids they give participation ribbons and heat winning ribbons, and this ribbon and that ribbon. One of her daughter’s friends made a hula skirt out of all the ribbons and it’s sort of a running joke.

In a city wide swim meet my daughter got 15th place in breast stroke and she actually got a ribbon that says, “15th place”. She says it’s her favorite ribbon because it’s so ridiculous.

She was also in a debate tournament once and got a trophy that is no bigger than a minature hamster. I have a picture where her hand, not large, dwarfs the trophy. It’s pretty funny.

I love the hula skirt idea.

Just one guy talking here but my guess is those people are needy stay at homies…

Happiness is…
Getting lurved by everybody.

It is a little kinky, being lurved by strangers, regularly.