Do you think true love can survive a long distance relationship?

@Khajuria9 This is your 4th Q. about your relationship in 24 hours.
My answer to this question, is, in your circumstance, “no.” Very few LD relationships work in the long run to begin with and yours has many problems.
You are in a troubled relationship, you have serious communication problems, incompatibility issues and you are extremely long distance and haven’t seen each other in over a year. ( A year and a half? )

No, your LDR is not working. You want it to work, you wish it would work, you fantasize about it working, you’re hung up on the past when it was maybe working better, but it is not working now, for either of you and the odds are high that it will not. There is nothing left to say on this subject.

@Coloma Is right. You have asked many questions about this and it’s obvious it’s not working out. You need to cut your losses and move on.

Long distance relationships are hard. They take strong people, as you mentioned in your question. They also need to have a known end.

You have asked several questions about your specific long distance relationship. You and your boyfriend are fighting and won’t even talk about your future because of the issues in your relationship right now. Your relationship does not meet the description in your question.

Honestly, I think it is time for you to take some time for yourself. Take a break from your relationship. This will allow both of you to live your lives and if you realize you want to be with each other, you will have something to talk about. You are not in a healthy relationship right now. I know that hurts to hear, but you need to take some time to care for and love yourself rather than continuing to stress over this situation.

Short answer is yes….

Coloma, thanks for answering the 4th time when you already weren’t in a mood to answer. I appreciate this ! :)

Thanks SeaOfClounds for answering.

@Khajuria9 It can be hard to hear things we don’t want to, especially when we are in denial. It seems that your heart is hurting about your relationship and you want to fix it. However, as an outsider, it seems pretty apparent that there’s not much to fix. It would be wise of you to move on and focus on your own happiness.

For 38 years. I grieved over the loss of my first love —who moved away in our mid teens.

For the first year, we communicated occasionally and it was bitter-sweet. Communicatipon was not very easy across the miles in those days. But we did write, and had a few long distance phone calls which were very expensive. And I sent gifts and cards. I sincerely and honestly believed that once I could drive I would go visit and once graduated I would move up there.

It was obvious after the first year that the relationship was over. But I was in denial for several more years. Eventually I found her on the internet, and eventually on Facebook even, but no returns.

Nothing hurts like unrequited love,

I am IN a relationship now which is everything I fantasized about for years—the girl I have now is enough like the first. But you know what? although its everything I wanted and pined for for many years, life is very ordinary—reality still sucks—just that I am no longer weeping for what I thought would make my life complete

It still hurts. But it becomes you in a positive sort of way. It becomes an intregal part of who you are.

What hurts now? May I know please? Do you still feel bad because the dreams you had with her for your future were unfulfilled?

Absolutely. One last scream for the blue skies and green everlasting hills and longings that were never fulfilled.

But I also can get real, and realize that none of that probably would have been fulfilled if she had stayed, either. Life is very… ordinary… in reality.

Life for everyone is very ordinary and mundane; shopping, bills, seeing a movie or doing the washing but isn’t love something that makes it all extraordinary and fascinating.

This will probably sound odd but, check out the virtual world Second Life. You and your boyfriend can create avatars and have dates exploring the place.
My husband and I did that for awhile when we were in a LDR. It’s pretty cool.

True love? Isn’t that a test of True love? Now, regular love, well, that’s somethin’ different. That’s all I ever get. Regular love. It’s OK, too.

If love is true, it fits. Your schedules align and you make the mundane magical. A trip to a local museum with them is better than a Caribbean escape with most people. Travelling? Unforgettable. Hell, even breakfast is unforgettable with them. Waking up in the same bed every day will feel like a rare privilege reserved for the world’s elite. And they’ll feel the same about you.

That’s how it feels when it’s real. There will be times when that person’s snoring, hang-ups, quirks, and yes,..even their debt may drive you insane. But you can clasp their hand and all is well in the world. You can’t imagine life without them.

Comfort is a dirty word. But true love is a nice mix between a rollercoaster and a hammock IMO.

Love, shmove. What do I know, I’m fickle. Always have been. Maybe you should give the old “friends with benefits” thing a shot?

It is the bane of all bluewater sailors