Can you join Fluther in saying a fond farewell to the Jelly we knew as Ibstubro?

He lived not far from me and was going to visit this past spring but it wasn’t a good day for us. He was such a sweet man. This is so sad. :(

Can you message me the information you found please?

I just learned about this on Facebook. He was part of the Askville group.

It’s a sad shock. Such a great Jelly and a nice person. I will miss his presence.

Awww…I wondered where he had gone these past months. He had a great sense of humor and I always teased him about his ceaseless bargain hunting. RIP Ibstubro. :-(

I wondered at his absence. He had interesting experiences to add to the collective. Always sad when we lose a Jelly!

That is really, really sad news. I too wondered where he went and why. Dammit. I really liked him. He really liked Mideast food, too. I sent him a shitload of info, pages and pages and pages, on how to make goat cheese once. I must have overwhelmed him. LOL. He never asked me another question ever again. LOL. I really liked him. Damn.

He’s one of the jellies I really think would be a fun person to hang out with in real life. I will miss his presence here and on Facebook.

@jca Could you send me the link to the obit as well. I wondered why he had stopped commenting on my Facebook posts. I am so sad to hear that he is gone. Rest well, Steve!

Oh, I am sorry to hear this! I liked him a lot, I will miss him.

Wow !! This is a shock I didn’t think he was that old, sorry to hear this I always respected his opinion.
And yes he was from Askville as was I.

How very sad. I’m so sorry to read this news this morning. I had noticed his absence from FB a little while ago, but I sadly didn’t follow up. I wish I had. He was a sweet person with a good heart. He was much too young to leave us.

Very sorry to hear this, we exchanged numerous PM’s. I really liked the guy. I thought he was in his 50’s anyone know what happened?

I don’t think so @ARE_you_kidding_me. I hope we find more out.

He was 56 years old. I’m not sure what happened but I do know he told me he was arrested a few months ago. Something about he bought a building and he was trying to evict the tenant that lived there. He overstepped his bounds, legally, and he got arrested. He bought the building so he could live in part of it and rent out part of it – a small builidng with some space he could live in.

From what he said he didn’t drink and he didn’t smoke.

@marinelife: I’m going to send you the link and I also put it on the FB Tide Pool page.

This is what his friend pm’d me: “he took his own life on June 20–21. He suffered from alcoholism and bouts with depression. I do not know what brought him to this point. I understood that he was excited to be working on his new building.”

Ibstubro did say on here that he didn’t drink and one time he mentioned drinking. I pointed out on the post that he said he didn’t drink and it seemed inconsistent and he reacted angrily on the thread.

Oh wow – how sad. He always seemed pretty upbeat here.

There were times he was cranky here, too.

A few months ago he gave me advice on dealing with an alcoholic loved one. :(

Just when I thought I didn’t have to witness more death…

This is horrible, knowing that he took his life. He could have been saved if someone had known and reached out. I miss his clever questions and answers. I just thought he took a break when he became inactive on Fluther. If only I had known…

How did it all happen? Could you pm me your finding @jca?

Difficult news to digest. RIP @ibstubro

He quit participating on Fluther when he joined Facebook. That was several months ago. He was very active, friendly and cheerful on Facebook.

So sorry to hear. He was a very nice Jelly.

@jca Could you send me the link to the Fluther Tide Pool FB group?

Always sad to lose one of our jellypals. He will be missed.

I found this photo album at the Smith Funeral Home page of Hannibal, Missouri:

http://www.smithfuneralhomeandchapel.com/obituaries/Stuart-Brown-2/#!/PhotosVideos/Album-387034

Scroll down a bit.

Damn!!!
I was going to call him a few weeks ago, and I let it slide.
He was sweet, and I liked him.
We discovered we were both attending the same college campus at the same time for a short while. I kept wondering if I had ever bumped into him back then.
He took periods of leaving Askville and also Fluther sometimes, so at first I thought it was one of those rest periods. I thought about calling, but let it slide.
It was Stu who brought me over from Askville.

Awww. So sad. RIP, @Ibstubro.

@Espiritus_Corvus I thought someone said he was Steve Bowen on FB. That posting was for a Stuart Brown. Which is he?

I was shocked when I first heard this yesterday. Very sad, and completely unexpected for me. I had no idea he was anywhere near feeling desperate in any way. You just never know what people are really going through.

Another one of our collective is gone; a piece of our whole. It’s disconcerting.

@jonsblond I found him to be a very different personality on Facebook. Maybe that’s connected to what was happening to him the last few months. He was more obnoxious and sarcastic on Facebook. I don’t say this to speak ill of the dead, only to say some of his comments really shocked me from how I knew him on fluther. Not that he was mean directed at me, just sometimes really odd comments; I actually deleted a few. I rarely delete.

I was really shocked when I heard about ibstubro’s death. He was a good pal here and I really enjoyed swapping tales of bargain hunting. I’m really upset that things got so bad for him that he took his life. That’s just awful and hard to comprehend. But we never know how much of what people say and do in public, especially on an anonymous medium like the internet, is hiding pain and torment. So sad.

@janbb: The obit was for his correct name.

That is so sad to hear. I liked him here in the lagoon. A good Jelly for sure.

@jca Thanks. Someone else pm’d me that info too.

Such tragic and puzzling news. Fluther is all I knew of him, but he certainly was a pillar here and so prolific in output that to my mind he was essential to defining our site. It’s bewildering, considering his contributions here, that he should come to such an awful conclusion; but whatever his personal torments, he was certainly our fixture and unique beyond description. I suppose there’s some solace in the realization that he will never be replaced. May he rest in peace.

Well. That fucking sucks. Extra sad that he took his own life. I respect his decision, but I wish he didn’t.

I hope he journeys well…..

Oh my God, what???? No…...

I guess the memorial to him is the fact that for some time to come it will be impossible to visit here without thinking about him. The wife just asked what I’m frowning about. And I must admit that I’m torn between sorrow and being good and pissed at him.

He had recently left a severely abusive partner. His life has been extremely rough for at least a few months. I wish I’d realized how rough. We bitched over our respective aches and pains last year while I was in the hospital. This was after deciding to lay to rest our past Fluther feuds. He forgave me for shit I’d said and then proceeded to lend me a really kind ear. He was such a good guy. This news absolutely sucks.

I was reading his posts and saw he wrote that he had no medical insurance. That had to be tough – to have whatever his medical issues were without insurance.

@Mimishu1995 Please don’t beat yourself up or feel guilty. It is very unlikely that anyone online could persuade someone who is serious about committing suicide from doing it. It understandable to feel shocked and sad but don’t feel guilty.

Yes, 99% of the time there is nothing anyone can do. I agree with @MrGrimm888 While sad I respect his decision.

I am sorry to hear this.
On Facebook, there was some question about whether he had passed, or if it was his brother. I assume this has been verified. He was certainly a fun contributor.

Ah Jeez! I am just reading this. What a shame. He was one of Fluther’s other vegetarians, we used to swap recipes and product information. He and I both loved a good bargain at the dollar stores.

I had wondered what happened to him. I sort of remember him saying something about not liking Facebook. I don’t recall seeing him in “the secret group” but I’m not in there very often.

This is really sad news.

You know that vague feeling you get sometimes when you know something has changed but you just can’t put your finger on it. Yeah, it was like that. I hadn’t seen anything from him for a while but didn’t recognize what was missing.

If, I may, in the words of Joni Mitchell:

Don’t it always seem to go
That you don’t know what you’ve got
‘Till it’s gone

Rip ‘bro.

To better times.

RIP so sorry.to find out.

I’ve thought about him since his Fluther hiatus, and wondered where he was. I’ve missed seeing that fluffed-up bluebird around the lagoon. He always had something to add to the conversation… I’m so sad now. Rest in peace, stu.

Dude! You will be sorely missed. RIP!

I was looking at my Facebook timeline tonight and found this post of mine. Stu commented here

This was just a few days before he passed. :(

Thank you for letting us know.
This is so sad….
Years ago, he mentioned he collected cameras. At the time, I was cleaning up and wondering what to do with a pile of old cameras that I had sitting in the basement for decades. They ended up at his house!
He liked them and I got some open shelf space. Both of us thought we got the best part of the deal. :-)

RIP ibstubro. You will be missed.

Oh, I am sorry to hear this. I noticed a few months ago that he hadn’t been posting in a while. I miss his voice.

I don’t pretend to have known ibstubro all that well, but for the time I was active on Askville and briefly Fluther after the big shutdown he was one of the main people I talked to and he “took me under his wing” as sort of a wise grandfatherly figure. I don’t think I believe in things like this, but somehow I must have just ‘known’ something was wrong recently or otherwise I don’t know what would have compelled me to come back here after years of putting this website on the back burner and moving on with other things in my life. I don’t know if that sounds melodramatic, but oh well.
Coming across this news of ibstubro’s death was a major shock, especially to hear what happened and what he was going through. All things I never had any clue about. It’s such a shame and very sad. Rest in peace, ibstubro.

Sad news indeed. Rest in Peace.

I don’t know much about the Jelly named Jerv but I’m wondering what happened to him, too. He just fell off totally.

@jca me too. I haven’t seen him for years. I wonder what happened to him…

@jca @Mimishu1995

I think jerv’s last posts, might give you an idea of why he hasn’t posted in awhile.

Good research, @Brian1946. :)

Well..we all know what dissenting opinions can stir up amongst some of the natives here. Disagree, dare to speak your mind, get your head served up on a stick. LOL

@Coloma Some opinions are so callous and uncaring of the fate or troubles of others that they are not worth listening to and should not be expressed.

Any chance Jerv and Stu are the same man? Stu was convinced everyone on Fluther has multiple accounts.

No, they are different.

@marinelife Sometimes, perhaps, but there’s a big difference between telling it like it is and deliberate malice.

And now, back to the intent of this thread…

When he joined Facebook, he jumped in with gusto, and enjoyed so many discussions. I kinda miss his input there.

Me too. I really enjoyed his posts.
I honestly keep hoping we are wrong but I know in my heart that we are not.

We’re not wrong, @chyna. I know his name and he told me where to google his ongoing legal issues. When I googled his name and the newspaper where he said his legal issues would be told, his name came up in the obits. I confirmed it with his work partner that he died. I know the name of the company he worked for because he told me, and that’s how I found the work partner.

Yes. The old converted building will not be a happy business any more.

@jca I know that and said that.

I don’t know who revived this thread, but it’s good to be reminded of @ibstubro

I agree @stanleybmanly. I do miss him.

@stanleybmanly It was a troll. At least a troll did something good today…

I miss him here. I miss him there.
I miss my friend everywhere.

He held my hand a lot.
He brought me here from Askville. I wasn’t used to social media at all.
He helped me “get it.”

That’s very sweet @Patty_Melt. He had a huge heart.

Who brought him back this time?

Monarchs.