What is the psychology between brothers and men who share wives/girlfriends?

I think it’s BS. My wife and I had friends once who we found out were into wife swapping, we are no longer friends. I’m no prude, but no one is doing my woman, unless she were to leave me. His wife came slinking into the living room of our house once very scantily dressed, to say the least, when I was sitting there watching TV shirtless. She started rubbing my chest and acting coy. I told her politely to back off, I’m not going there. If being loyal and true blue makes me a jerk, too bad so sad. In my view, that’s a part of what is wrong with our crap society. To answer directly, no, I don’t understand it at all. If you’re into that its your business, but it ain’t for me.

Not normal. It’s a load of shit.

I know men, brothers, who would date ex-girlfriends of their brothers, or try to sleep with current girlfriends, even wives. They did it not only to their brothers, but cousins and friends too. They thought if women as disposable and something to fuck if they could get away with it. Meaning, if the girl went for it. Kind of like Trump saying girls let him touch their pussies.

It’s garbage. These men are a mess in more ways than one. They are being competitive with each other, feeding their egos, and using women.

I always tell women, push them off of you. Don’t ever be afraid to get out of the situation.

I’ve never heard of this before. I know some firemen and I also know their wives. As far as I know, there’s nothing like this going on.

@NomoreY_A

lol No I’m not into that, In fact I’m single and not married lol, it’s just a question.

You’d have to ask the people in question. What you describe is not something I’ve ever seen or heard of, and I have had the acquaintance and second-hand discussion of a fairly large number of polyamorous people.

You guys I heard it on Joe Rogan’s podcast, that’s all. I’m not saying I’m into this in any way shape or form, lol. It’s just a question, I like asking weird questions.

@AloraCrimson Figured as much, I was speaking rhetorically. No offense intended.

Thank you for everyone’s insight.

I wanna read more on men’s egos and the competition thing because it sounds interesting. (But that probably has nothing to do with swaping wives lol).

@NomoreY_A

Awesome :)

@AloraCrimson Here is a paper on fraternal polyandry among Tibetans. It may offer some insight into the practice among certain groups of Westerners. It may not, but it is an interesting read and, in my opinion, probably indicative of marriage patterns that were were prevalent when we were more of a hunter/gatherer population.
I did not find it but I recall reading of a similar attitude toward such practices among the San and other hunter/gatherer populations of Africa.

@rojo

Thank you so much for sharing that, I’m gonna read it. So interesting. I love learning new things about other cultures/practices.

If it is for a practical and love related reason, I am completely ok by this way of the thinking.
But, if this is solely because of the wife-swap and sex, then forget it.

Really? I spoke to my husband about this because he is very knowledgeable about these subjects because, well, frankly He frequents many sites that are considered sexual including a subject he recently brought to my attention. However in all the subjects he has informed me of that we fantasize about. I never heard of such practices! Obviously there is wife swapping but I have never heard that the reason is so fellow friends can trust one another better to possibly be the care taker of a wife if something tragic occurs. I am trying to adjust to my husbands latest request and that he wants me to cuckold him! I intend to read up on this because I admit this is not the first time I have heard about this lifestyle.

I find it amazing that there are so many who either has not heard of or doesn’t believe it exists! The newest form of sexual desire are for men to want their wives to cuckold them! When my husband brought the subject up I totally accepted this as fantasy. We would play out some fantasies in bed however, He has brought the subject up quite a bit. I have spent hours researching this new phenomena! the amount of married folks is substantial! There are sites that are just for fact finding. I still have resisted however, the way my husband gets so excited! It is impossible to describe how quickly he becomes erect ad then creates these very vivid images of me being with a total stranger. It gets far more involved than what I have depicted. It is very hot and I am considering trying this to see if he i really serious!