^^Ugh. I completely understand you’re bothered that the parent is out of the loop. Believe me, I have understood all along.
Just like I don’t want some Christian woman preaching to my Jewish kids just because they are under her care. I get it I get it I get it. I always understood your objection.
I asked you a question about you, to know your answer. That’s it. There is no mystery about it.
I asked you about abortion out of curiosity to see how consistent you are on this sort of thing. Not as a gotcha question, but just curiosity. You never answered that question of mine.
For me, using a tampon should be an option that is not a big deal (again I would take into consideration the age and maturity of the girl) so it just simply isn’t a big deal. if you think it should be a big deal then fine that’s what you think. I don’t call up the mom every time I need to decide what food to feed their kid, or whether she is ok if we go swimming, or to show. Although, I generally do let the parents know the basic itinerary and things we might do.
The girl who just stayed here, I specifically got parental permission for zip lining, Karting, but not for tubing (the slow tubing where you just ride a slow current down a river on an individual large inner tube) and I certainly wouldn’t have for suggesting tampons to the girl. That’s just how I think about it. It really depends on the kid. This girl flew across the Atlantic to spend time in America. The parents don’t know all activities that will happen, but they trust the student exchange organization that their children will be safe and happy. That’s sort of an extreme case, not all kids or parents can do it. If my niece was staying with me, I would have told her about tampons if it came up. I would offer her one of mine if she had her period and wanted to go swimming. I would offer any woman the same thing if she were staying with me.
If it were the reverse and my daughter couldn’t have fun with the other kids because her guardian wouldn’t let her use tampons I would be pissed. I would hope my daughter would figure a way around it. What’s the lady going to do? Inspect my daughter’s personal things and vagina? Remember, I’m not forcing or forbidding anything! I’m giving the girl the choice. Your example is not analogous. I’m talking about leaving it up to the girl. By 14 I think a girl can easily decide for herself, probably as young as 12 depending on the girl. Younger than that I think that is very young, probably too young, to make a decision about tampons on the spot. Most very young girls are fairly unfamiliar with their own bodies. Being familiar and responsible is part of the deal.
Why the hell aren’t tampons taught in 5th grade health class when we learn about menstruation? Maybe it is now.