Suicide?
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July 26th, 2017
Alright, hey everyone. I have a friend. they’re gender neutral and their parents are not accepting of them. They’re going to be 16 in a few weeks and then will mark the fourth year that Chris came out to their family. What I’m afraid of is that I saw a note referring to their death, that consisted of a suicide plan. Chris doesn’t know that I saw it, what they do know though, is that I am aware that they suffer from depression and that they visited the psychologist for it. I also know that they write a lot to let out their emotions because they’re not the best at expressing themselves verbally.
Now, we’re close, when I say close I mean nothing they can freaking tell me will ever make me abandon them or vise versa. Today Chris told me that they need some time for themself, and that they need to recharge and that it included not having any communication with anyone and being completely off social media.
The note and plan is still in the same place, the only that changed between the day I read the note and now is the fact that I have no communication with the person who wrote it.
I’m not sure what’s going on, if they lied in order to execute the plan they developed, if they’re telling the truth and this may actually help them even though their family is around them everyday and it’s not at all a positive influence or something completely unrelated.
Your help, love, support and replies are so dearly appreciated. Continue spreading it, and I hope the same is showed to you. Peace hugs everyone
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Thank you for sharing this information with us.
We must take every time we hear that someone is thinking of suicide seriously. Your friend is in a very vulnerable place right now. I’m glad you are a friend to Chris.
If possible, please, tell an adult you trust this information. Is there a counselor at your school you can tell? Sometimes school counselors are easier to talk to than adults in our families.
You can send Chris an email, if you think that’s not breaking their wishes to be left alone.
In the email, you could include some suicide prevention help:
https://www.metanoia.org/suicide/
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800–273-TALK (8255)
Crisis Text line: text “GO” to 741741
Trans Lifeline: 877–565-8860
The Trevor Project provides a crisis and suicide prevention hotline for LGBTQ youth at 866–488-7386.
Again, thank you. I wish you and Chris all the best.
I just realized I’m assuming you’re in the US.
If you need suicide prevention help in other countries, look here
@Tan is in New Zealand @Hawaii_Jake. @Tan, I’m sure you can find similar numbers for NZ.
Is Chris close to his/her family? Can you alert the family to your concerns? They can perhaps seek some specific guidance from Chris’s therapist. If you are truly concerned, and I would be if I saw such a document, you should try to get Chris some help. Chris might be angry with you, but I’d rather someone was angry with me than dead. Let us know how you go, and how Chris is.
There’s a way to chat online to someone about suicide. Go to this website. On my PC, there is a little square that says “chat” in the upper right corner. It may appear in a different place on a mobile device.
Good luck.
@Tan Welcome to Fluther. Sorry you and your friend are going through this. If you or Chris are in NZ, as @Earthbound_Misfit indicated, this site would probably be the most appropriate. They have some numbers that are staffed 24/7. Within Auckland: 09 5222 999 Outside Auckland: 0800 543 354
I would agree with all the suggestions above.
Many years before digital social media I worked with a program that included suicide prevention as one of the services offered. The biggest lesson I learned is also the first statement on that site.
Most people who attempt suicide don’t want to die – they just want their pain to end or can’t see another way out of their situation. Support from people who care about them, and connection with their own sense of culture, identity and purpose, can help them to find a way through.
Here is another site I found when I googled suicide prevention in New Zealand.
As @Earthbound_Misfit stated above, I’d rather have someone angry at me for intervening in a suicide situation than be angry at myself later if they were dead.
I applaud you for being a concerned friend, and hope the situation resolves positively. Please keep us updated
Apologies to @Tan, we have someone else here with a very similar name. She’s in NZ. Regardless, wherever you are, find appropriate numbers for your country.
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