Possibly NSFW: Do you think it's appropriate to talk about dating and relationships with a therapist?

Well, a therapist is like a doctor. There isn’t much that they haven’t heard before. I think it’s perfectly fine.

Absolutely. There’s not really anything that’s off-limits to discuss with your therapist. You should feel comfortable in talking about what you feel like talking about to them.

Just wondering if you worry about bringing up topic with just this therapist or is there possibility you could find one you would be comfortable talking to.

I’m not sure if this would even work or how you would search for a bisexual therapist. Surely there must be lots of them. They probably don’t advertise the fact.

That’s what therapy is for. You’re shooting yourself in the foot if you are not completely honest with your therapist. How can you expect them to be able to help you if you are holding such a core pat of yourself back.

If your therapist doesn’t feel qualified for this specific area they should refer you to some one who is.
I wish you luck @rockfan.

The great thing about therapy is it’s your time to talk about whatever you want. If you are apprehensive about discussing a topic, tell the therapist that. Tell them you want to discuss something but you are nervous and she or he will talk to you about your feeling of apprehension. Maybe it will take a few sessions until you are ready to discuss it.

Totally appropriate. That’s what she’s there for. As @jca says, you can discuss your feelings of reluctance to talk too and that will bring up stuff.

Absolutely appropriate and if you aren’t 100% honest with your therapist your wasting everyones time and money.

I’m going to add my voice to all the others in this thread that it’s a good idea to talk to your therapist about sex. I’m going to add a bit more.

I have been in therapy for 30 years, and it is one of the pillars of my recovery from mental illness. I tell my therapist everything. I realize it’s easy for me to tell him everything, because I’ve been doing therapy for so long, but that’s the key. I know that for me to get the most out of my relationship with my therapist, I have to be radically open.

The very natural fear we have about openness has to do with judgement. We are afraid the other person won’t like us if we tell them some particular truth about ourselves. Here’s what’s important in the relationship we have with a therapist: they aren’t going to judge us. Whether she likes you or not doesn’t matter in the long run. Her job is not to like you.

Her job is to lead you to a place where you like yourself.

That’s the bottom line. You’re reluctant to talk about sex with your therapist, because there is a small part of you that feels like you may be doing something wrong. You are worried you’re being a bad boy, and mommy or daddy is going to find out and punish you.

The beauty is that they’re not. When we get to a certain age, we can release the fear we have of our parents. It’s good for both ourselves and our parents.

When you talk to your therapist, it’s perfectly fine to begin by telling her how awkward you feel.

What you have described to us is exactly what you must talk about with your therapist.

Another vote for it’s totally fine and right for you to speak to your therapist. You have to be able to trust your therapist. So talk to her about how you are feeling. Your fear of opening up, and I’m sure she can try to help you work through this.

I’d suggest that it might(?) make you feel better to politely ask first before bringing up a topic or going into detail, but I’m confident that practically all therapists are trained for all sorts of intimate topics and fully understand that they provide a safe space to discuss practically anything, including sexual topics and details.

You are hiring them to listen to whatever you want to work on.