Okay, I'm a little ashamed of this but I'll ask. I'm really attracted to white women and I really wanna spend the rest of my life with one, is this a messed up thing?

You like what you like, you can’t help it.

I like biracial women, so…

No, it’s not racist. It’s just a preference.

Do you get to meet white women in person ever? You’re not racist. Most of us have particular things we find attractive. Whether you’re delusional really depends on whether or not you are ever likely to be in a position to date a white woman. How old are? Are you likely to be able to travel for work?

It’s a fairly common and not a racist thing, but it’s also not a very developed way to relate to finding a lover. It is not delusional per se, but if you are questioning what is going on with you, that’s a good kind of thing to give regular attention until you understand yourself better. It is pretty superficial and de-humanizing to relate to women as if they are very different sorts of creatures based on their ethnicity. Finding certain types of appearance and behavior attractive is normal, as far as it goes, but there is a lot more to love relationships than that. Since women and lovers are full humans, it is worth understanding and relating to them as people at a more personal and individual level. Also, the process of falling in love with someone is an experience shared by two people in the present, together, and is very different from one person imagining a future relationship, and I found that thinking like that can be very distracting and can interfere with actually developing relationships with people.

Long-distance courtship is pretty challenging, especially cross-culturally. It would be much easier to meet someone where you are, and/or travel, than to try to use the Internet and expect someone to want to come to Nigeria to date you.

No, I don’t think so. I prefer Caucasian girls because I’m Caucasian, but I find girls of all skin colors beautiful and attractive.

@Zaku I understand you, but when you are attracted to someone you want to take things further. Like how some women only like tall or muscular guys and if you aren’t that they don’t even look at you. All women are beautiful and I know that. It’s just what I’m attracted to, and I’m a grown man who shouldn’t be going from one sex scene to the other. Those days are gone.

Like, you can’t salivate over peanut butter if you don’t like peanut butter. It doesn’t mean it’s not good.

@Earthbound_Misfit I’m off age, trust me. People my age are legitimately married and with kids (at least two). I see them (white women) sometimes around here, but not that often. I kind of believe the internet can make it work, but it has to be a white woman who is crazy about other cultures and loves black men. And I have to build that trust, which I’m always ready to do since most don’t trust Africans. And I hate that because I approach them with a pure heart; you can test people you know. If I knew someone in italy or brazil was sweet, genuine, and honest and she proved that to me, of course I’d go get that after testing her.

But really, I want some feminine Caucasian humor around me when I’m like 80 years old (someone who has been with me all my life), seriously. That would make my heart melt. Help me out if you can everyone. I’d say prayers for you every week.

I would agree with others here, in that you would probably have to travel. If not move to a place where there are more white women. You clearly speak English. Maybe you could move to England. My understanding is that people of color are well integrated into the culture there. So it wouldn’t be as awkward as in say South Africa… Meeting someone online, who is actually a girl, and hoping that will lead to her moving to Nigeria seems unlikely.

I like red heads. I am attracted to other hair colors, and races, but I am hoping that I can settle down with a red head girl. So, I can sort of understand where you’re coming from.

Dependingon your finances, I suppose a mail order type bride from Russia or somewhere could be an option. I think potential mates can get a relationship started over the Internet. But that would be extreme. And I would worry about it being a scam….

Try to find some hobbies, or common interests of white women. Then you have something to talk about, other than how white she is.

One of my best friends is married to a white woman, and he’s black. In my area, I see mixed couples all the time. It isn’t unachievable. Your geographic location is ,to me, your biggest obstacle.

Good luck.

Peace and love.

Not racist or immature at all to prefer a certain race. It’s a personal preference.

I like women in hats…...but also no hats.

So that means…....(well…...I don’t know what it means…...)

You might have to move.
However, if you meet a caucasion woman, don’t treat her like she is less or more than any woman who might date you. If she thinks of herself as too good for you, then she will always treat you like you are less. If she thinks herself not good enough for you, you would end up tired of her rather quickly.
In the U.S., there is a dating show on tv which allows a contestant to pick from a set of dates. On this show it is common for black/white couples to be set up. It turns out quite interesting at times who will be chosen.
Some people in my country still struggle with race and couple preference, but the issue has come a long way, and many happy couples live with their families without facing issue.
So, good luck following what life path makes you happy. Be yourself

@MrGrimm888 I would really love to be one of those potential people who start a relationship over the net, but to be truthful, I wouldn’t want to travel all the way down to another country just to start looking. What if I end up unlucky? I’m a good looking light-brown skinned african man though, sorry for bragging, but what if they don’t find me attractive? That’s the reason why I’d love to start something over the internet first, so I’d know my faith. As for being scammed, it would hurt me so bad to be scammed, so I definitely wouldn’t want to do it someone else, good karma remember. Here’s this, I don’t want to gain anything but love from a woman I end-up having feelings for, so I’d show her my family members over a video chat first, the entire immediate family. Heck, I’d even show her my house and environment, car, and what it looks like outside when I drive out the house everyday so she can feel relaxed and safe. I’ll alao try to find some more hobbies like you have transparently stated, but for now, I’m open to whatever: yoga, workout sessions, reading, dog walking, skiing, cycling, horse-riding, photography, swimming, running, and cooking. I’d even play squash with her too. Everything here I can do asides horseriding, skiing but thanks for the heads-up, I’ll still learn more.

@Patty_Melt You have a point or two here, so thank you also although I’m not willing to play love-me-more, or respect-me games with my woman, it ruins everything for me. I’m down to just let myself go, and be loved. If she wants to win always then I’ll give that to her, but I’ll keep your points in mind, they are extremely helpful.

You both have provided awesome answers. Thank you for doing so.

Thank you @Sneki2 and @AshlynM