What are the signs that you know it's too late to patch up in a relationship?

“I can’t meet up right now. I’ll call you as soon as I get free time”.

“You Don’t Love Me Anymore”
by weird al yankovich

We’ve been together for so very long
But now things are changing, oh I wonder what’s wrong?
Seems you don’t want me around
The passion is gone and the flame’s died down

I guess I lost a little bit of self-esteem
That time that you made it with the whole hockey team
You used to think I was nice
Now you tell all your friends that I’m the Antichrist

Oh, why did you disconnect the brakes in my car?
That kind of thing is hard to ignore
Got a funny feeling you don’t love me anymore

I knew that we were having problems when
You put those piranhas in my bathtub again
You’re still the light of my life
Oh darling, I’m beggin’, won’t you put down that knife?

You know, I even think it’s kinda cute the way
You poison my coffee just a little each day
I still remember the way that you laughed
When you pushed me down that elevator shaft

Oh, if you don’t mind me asking, what’s this poisonous cobra
Doing in my underwear drawer?
Sometime I get to thinking you don’t love me any more

You slammed my face down on the barbecue grill
Now my scars are all healing, but my heart never will
You set my house on fire
You pulled out my chest hairs with an old pair of pliers

Oh, you think that I’m ugly and you say that I’m cheap
You shaved off my eyebrows while I was asleep
You drilled a hole in my head
Then you dumped me in a drainage ditch and left me for dead

Oh, you know this really isn’t like you at all
You never acted this way before
Honey, something tells me you don’t love me any more, oh no no
Got a funny feeling you don’t love me anymore

When all efforts to save the relationship fail.

I had only been dumped once maybe because most toxic people in ny life are clingy emotional vampire that I need to get rid first, so I can’t really speak for when people intentionally want to dump me. But I don’t think refusing to meet is one of the signs, unless it accompanies other signs.

Here’s my signs when I decide that the relationship isn’t worth keeping: I stop caring about mundane things, unable to remember things about the person’s life, can only hold very shallow conversation and only reply to question with very short sentences, and stop being the first one to start a hangout.

When you lose interest, and feel you’d rather do something else than be with that person, it’s not a good sign.

Indifference

When you just don’t care.

When the idea of working on the relationship makes you feel sick and like you just can’t do it anymore.

When knowing you’re going to see the person fills you with dread.

When everything they say or do irritates you.

Trust is the framework. If that’s gone, there’s nothing left to build on….

I’m not sure if you mean that you’ve tried to patch up a relationship that wasn’t working because the other person seemed like they weren’t into you any more, or the other way around.

If the other person is too needy, or anxious, or demanding, or is abusive, or seems like they don’t like you anymore, or don’t give a damn about anything you have to say or think, if they are always too busy to be with you (or give lame excuses for why they are too busy) or if they seem secretive (which might suggest they are already having an affair, or thinking of breaking it off with you). If the other person is suddenly interested in doing stuff away from you, or with their “friends” or “coworkers” instead of you, which would possibly indicate that they are already involved with someone else, or they find you boring. If they constantly belittle you, or make fun of you, or get (unnecessarily) angry with you for seemingly no good reason. Or if they suddenly start “forgetting” to do things with you, or for you, that they promised they would do. if they make you seem like you are a bother or a chore to be with. Or if they treat you badly, then constantly try to apologize and promise not to hurt you again, but they do hurt you again (either your feelings, or physically).

Pretty much any or all of these things.

“Talk to my lawyer; not me ! ! ”

When somebody else looks better to you than your partner does (or you can imagine it).

When you find yourself looking forward to having it over with.

When you start to say (or hear) things like “You deserve somebody who’s better for you than I am.”

When things you used to overlook now bug the hell out of you, and there seem to be more of them all the time. And you can’t imagine still putting up with them 40 years from now.

When you stop believing anything they say, or you know you’re lying.

When you picture where you want to be, or the life you want to lead, and they’re not essential to it. They’re not even there.

When he lies dead before you.

When one of the people is lying all the time then that’s a really bad sign. This can come in the form of passive aggressive behavior and not outright lying.

When one of you stops caring.

The opposite of love isn’t hate, it’s indifference.

When communication fails, it’s over.