Don't guys want relationships and to start a family one day?

Some do, some don’t. Just like women.

I don’t. But I am cool if I wank in the morning and then I can go the entire day without thinking of sex.

I don’t really like kids or relationships. I enjoy that I can eat garlic bread in my undies and there is no one around to judge me.

A lot of my friends from high school paired off and made babies. We go out drinking on the occasion they have a boys night out. I would say it is about a 50/50 mix of being happy with the wife and kids. The other half wish they had taken my route.

I did notice my more affluent friends claimed happiness with the wife and kids. But from that subset about 75% cheat on their wives. So yeah. I’m going to go eat some garlic bread. That is not a euphemism.

The eternal question that will never die. There is more than a little truth to the stereotype of men resisting being “tied down” and the necessity for women to tie them down. But I believe the current economic facts along with the relative emancipation of women have severely strained the model and shifted those dynamics. When I was younger, it was men more or less exclusively progammed to that “someday” line of thought. But from what I can see, there seem to be just as many women reluctant to “settle down” as there are of their male counterparts. I can remember that old saw “if you give away the milk, he won’t buy the cow.” I remember a particularly dynamic young woman telling her mother “I don’t mind giving away the milk, because the cow’s not for sale. Besides, no one around here can afford the cow”

Not all guys do. Not all girls do.

Factor in to that the person may also react to what their family expects of them and what their friends are doing at the time.

Not everybody’s ultimate goal.

Not all of us do, while I want a great relationship with my wife neither of us want to complicate it with children, while we don’t hate kids we just don’t want any of our own.
There is a down side from not having kids, like lots of free time, no debt, and tons of things you can do on the spur of the moment.
The posters above are saying quite well, with NOT all men seek what you are asking and again not all women are either,hope you can understand that.

I never did. somehow I ended up with a wife anyway, but our relationship is not very typical. We both require large amounts of time alone. We both understand and respect this, and we give each other the space we need. Children, however, is still (and always will be) out of the question.

No, you cannot take an individual of either sex and lump them under one umbrella of tradition.
My adult daughter does not want kids and neither does her live in BF of the last 3 years. They want to pursue their careers and travel and not be tied down. They are also not concerned with marriage, maybe someday, but neither kids or marriage are priorities for them though they enjoy a very compatible relationship.

Side note: If a guy tells you he does not want kids or to be married do not think you are going to change his mind and it would be a mistake to try.

SUPER EXCELLENT ADVICE^^^^^^^^^ @Coloma !!

Primarily, men want sex. They want a relationship that provides sex easily and without complications. Having a family doesn’t enter into it. Once he falls in love, or thinks he is in love with a girl, she reels the sucker in.

I think it all comes to meeting the right person, until that happens… this is both for guys and girls alike.

Many do and of course, some don’t. Some want to have the freedom to date and have casual sex when they are young and prefer to put off that aspect of life until they are older. Much many women as well.

But if you find yourself “putting out” (i.e. having sex you really didn’t want to and feeling that something has been “taken” from you in the process)—it may be time to reassess your actions, your expectations, and your some of the unhealthy concepts you’ve picked up about relationships along the way. We’re all susceptible to such messages.

My advice? Stop having casual sex and you’ll be pleasantly surprised how much better and more in control you feel. The hookup culture (which many falsely believe to be feminist) does more to hurt than help women and does not empower us.

If you’re horny, get a vibrator. Get out of the mindset that all male attention is “good” attention, and focus your energy on enjoying the company of like-minded people. It takes time, but if you want love, you need to treat yourself with respect and understand that it may come at an unexpected time.

Source: someone who has been there, done that, got the T-shirt.

@kritiper Many men do want marriage and a family and are not in any way entrapped into it. In fact, men can also entrap women.

I second @Sneki2. Some do and some don’t.

Also, some women are fine with casual hookups.

To each his own.

I also 2nd @LeavesNoTrace and…this is HUGE, do-not-EVER think that an “accidental” pregnancy, is going to get the guy to want to marry you. As a mature women, I can tell you, those situations, NEVER work out well. Half or more of all marriages fail as it is let alone starting with a shotgun wedding. Wedding bells of doom 99% of the time.

Thank goodness I said “Primarily.” So glad, too, that I didn’t mention ”“accidental” pregnancy.”

@kritiper LOL Well…somebody had to. You know how common “accidental” pregnancies are.
Whoops, he just slipped it right in. real quote from an old member Uh huh…well slip it right back out. haha

I would like to raise tall smart children. Im still looking for a tall smart woman who is single.

How much someone wants marriage and/or children varies from person to person. I think the key is to be honest about it up front. If a guy says he doesn’t want either and the girl stays with him in the hope of changing his mind, that says more about the woman than the man and it isn’t a healthy relationship.

‘Putting out for a guy’, sounds very much like you are doing a guy some dirty favor that you are not too happy about?

A woman and I’ll use the term ‘woman’ since girls I feel sounds underage, should never do anything she does not feel right about, nor should a guy of course. Many males are not happy about having sex without commitment, some prefer to be cared about before they get into the sack with a woman.

Some men want families more than some females. I’ve left men for that very reason.

I think the bottom line is to find this all out before you become close and intimate because you could feel used or stuck as you put it.

@LornaLove Well said, yeah, I thought the term “putting out” went out in the 70’s. Like “shacking up.” haha

Me too. My understanding was that “Putting out” was supposed to be secret guy code for “She’ll have sex with you, so go for it!” It’s not how women referred to themselves.
So many secret guy codes we weren’t supposed to understand!

People are just all wired SO differently. I’ll confess something here that I’ll probably regret. I have never understood the fascination with porn. To me it’s equivalent to movies or pictures of food being displayed in front of you. I mean what satisfaction is there in that? That’s the other thing. I fear that I’ve acquired this quirk for associating good sex with wonderful food. I mean WTF is that about?

I want kids. I just want to be able to afford them without sacrificing to much for one or more. Imagine little tall smart reddeerguy1’s all over the place. If I win the lotto big or get a good job/career then I might have them sooner.