If you were (or are) a parent, how would you try to teach your child not to get involved with people who want to have sex with them for money or financial assistance, rather than love, without alienating them?

My question is based on This Heartbreaking Question

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Well, assuming your goal is to convince your child that love is a requirement for sex, then I would orchestrate a mis-attunement event for the purpose of creating attunement between you and your child.

So, in a totally impromptu setting, start complaining and showing shock over a story that you’re reading in the moment. Not a story you already read. Not a story you heard about.
It must be a story that they just happen to catch you reading in the very moment. Your shock needs to be acted to the level that they remember it afterwards. Cry, just for the impact it will add.

Use phrases like “Oh my god I can’t believe this person did this to another person”. “He REALLY took advantage of her”. Be emotional in your presentation. Be angry. Mention how kids can be so easily manipulated. Say things like _“I hear that kids who suffer this kind of abuse can carry the emotional scars for the rest of their lives”... “God I wish there was a way to stop this sort of thing”!!!

It’s important your child sees how upset you get when hearing about this happening to a complete stranger.

Then encourage them to speak upon the matter by asking them if they know anyone at school who has endured this. Ask if the school ever talks about these horrors.

Your child is smart, and they will want to attune to your emotional level. You haven’t attacked them. You’re not preaching to them. You’re sharing your shock and horror about what happened to someone else. About a subject they may not know about.

It’s a basic psychological manipulation tactic often used by your friendly neighborhood cult leader. Pretty standard stuff. One of the many arts of fascination and mesmerism.

I would let them have an income legit so that they didn’t have to turn to others for cash.

Make them wear chastity belt until they’re fifty.

I get your point in asking the question, but I think it’s utterly naive.

What do you think traditional marriage is?

Before the feminist movement, marriage was a clear exchange of money for sex and companionship. The male was the worker and provider (the money side) and the woman was the homemaker and sexual release mechanism and child raiser. In many older traditional marriages, love was a distant third or fourth priority.

What about arranged marriages? Even today, it’s less about love and more about how one family (clan, tribe) and another could combine for economic benefit. The bride in an arranged marriage is the result of a financial transaction, not a love transaction. Where do you think that dowries came into play?

And today’s trophy wives (usually a second marriage) are the same dynamic at work. They sell themselves as long-term eye candy and as a willing sex partner, in exchange for money and the ability to be seen on the arm of an influential man. Can you say “Melania Trump”?

So, @Kardamom you are swimming against the tide of history and how life actually is today. People are constantly selling themselves for money and comfort, and sex is the medium of exchange.

There are no guarantees, but we have always emphasized with our daughter what is of value.

Your mind, your ability to communicate, your personality, your integrity — these are of the highest value and if you cultivate them, you can make a living from them.

Meanwhile, your body is yours alone and should only be shared with someone you love and trust.

At fourteen, she seems to agree.

Of course, she could hit eighteen and just say, “The hell with it! I just want to fuck for money.” — but I certainly hope not.

My Mom told me when I was about 16 that she had made two rules for herself when she was young regarding sex. She said she would never do anything with anyone who didn’t like her as a person and she would never do anything she was uncomfortable doing.

My Mom was very advanced for her time and those two rules – when I’ve remembered to follow them – have served me in good stead.

Perhaps by example?

Never thought much about that, but it worked out ok. My daughter has been married to the same guy for 20 years, and 3 kids later they still have a good relationship. All the advice I ever gave my son, was what I got from my own pappy – if you dip your wick, use an umbrella.

You could never teach your children everything about everything. Raise them to be intelligent, to think for themselves, and make wise decisions. Then cross your fingers.

I am with @LornaLove.

Well, you can’t really. I remember being young. I couldn’t believe that guys would blatantly lie to me, tell me just about anything, make me think they were madly in love with me when they weren’t, just so they could have sex.
My parents, especially my dad, tried to warn me, but I really had to find out for myself.

As an aside, anyone who is old enough to be able to provide substantial monetary assistance is old enough to know better.
I was thinking between the ages of 13 and 18.