Why do people stare at me and my boyfriend?

We had a couple like that in college ; she was 6 foot 7 inches and had he was 6 foot 11 inches.

But no fighting.

We would need more information. Are you a biracial couple in an area that frowns on that? Are you both extremely good looking? What can you tell us that would help us with this question?

Do you have facial tattoos or bizarre piercings in your eyelids or chin or something?
Are you fully clothed on these occasions?
Does your boyfriend wear t shirts or carry signs with inflammatory statements in neighborhoods that it might provoke a fight?
Just curious.

Im black and vietnamese and hes black and japanese. He’s 6 ft while I’m 5 ft he’s modest in the way he dress because he don’t like to get stared at if he wear tank top. For me, most the time I wear crop top but that’s it nothing too extreme.

Then I guess it’s just bad luck

I have been told I look like Jhene Aiko and he’s more of Jimmy Hendrix because he’s a buff guy with an afro.

Well then maybe they think Hendrix is back from the dead.

Haha maybe, I try not to care when people stare, but my boyfriend gets really uncomfortable and we always have to end up leaving because of how hard people stare at us

Or that Jhene Aiko is in town for a concert

Must just be an attractive couple…

Sounds like you’re a very striking couple.

Ha! Just got it. “Blaisaingirl.”...

I also would have accepted “Blackanese.”...

The op mentions her boyfriend doesn’t wear tank tops because he doesn’t want to get stared at. Could that mean lots,or controversial tattoos? Gang related maybe?...

No, he just muscular and like to cover up his muscle. Some people say he looks like a model but it makes him uncomfortable

Well. There you go. Y’all are just easy on the eyes…

Perhaps you’re imagining it?

From your descriptions of the two of you, you both sound lovely. I bet you are a little bit more exotic than your average American has seen before, and people tend to stare at people who seem/look exotic.

Hopefully, you won’t feel intimidated by that, just try to enjoy the fact that you are lovely.

Without further details and with all due respect I have to wonder if perhaps you are a bit paranoid—or at least overly sensitive.

When I married, my husband was tall, I was a foot shorter than him. I looked very young. I was twenty, but I could pass for fifteen. Sometimes people would stare at us, and look at him like it was disgusting. We didn’t understand why until one day he showed one of the guys he worked with my picture. The guy asked him what he was doing with a high school kid.
Maybe if you look younger than you are, the same thing is happing to you.

Well i look 15 or 16 but im 23 and my bf look like hes 18 but he is 25. Usually I don’t see that people are looking at us because I don’t pay attention, but my bf is very observant and would slightly point them out to let me know what’s going on with people. I usually notice when guy look at me because they don“t look away and make comments at me, for him people stare at look away and then look at him again so it weird him out

Well, we know why guys stare at girls and make comments. As for your boyfriend, well, maybe they think he’s staring at them.

@Dutchess_III You have such an against male bias. I’m sorry your life experiences have made you that way.

It is what it is. I’m not angry, just wary. But not so much any more.
She sounds like a very attractive girl, and most guys are going to look. Primitive ones will make comments. Really primitive ones would try to start a fight with the male she is with. She said, ”Guys would stare at him too and some would try to fight him out of nowhere.” I never understood that. Do they really think we’d dump our boyfriend and go with the asshole who started the fight just because he won? Like we’re cattle or something?

So glad I din’t live where you do! Guys have never started a physical fight over me and I was attractive in my day.

Ga. It usually happened if my date, or boyfriend, went to the bathroom and some guy saw me sitting alone and assumed I was there by myself and sit right next to me. Well, then my boyfriend would come back and the interloper would try to get all macho, like, “I saw her first! She’s mine.” Idiots.

As has been said, there must be something about you (the OP and her partner) that appeals or seems different to people.

In response to the idea that it’s some sort of male behaviour, the OP said it’s men and women, so that discounts that idea really. And like @janbb, I really don’t know what sort of men you’ve been mixing with @Dutchess_III. I certainly haven’t lacked male attention, but I can’t say I’ve had them physically fighting over me. Perhaps it’s the crowd you’ve moved with @Dutchess_III? You do seem to have experienced an inordinate amount of negative male attention. I don’t think all or even most men are so superficial and lacking in class.

This was long ago @Earthbound_Misfit, when I was in college and up until I got married. After that I wasn’t going out on the town any more.
I don’t think all, or even most, men are superficial and lacking in class either. None of the men I dated for any long term were like that. But, just like people who scream, they sure stand out from the quiet crowd, even if it’s just a brief, few seconds-long encounter.