How can I report a mod?

MODS Please move to Meta.

@Tropical_Willie Edit: stop harassing me

^This q belongs in Meta…

LOL. You report the mods to the mods. There are no higher gods.

There has to be someone higher than the moderators, they simply moderate the website…

Can someone give a helpful answer please? Otherwise why bother commenting?

@Roadtodebt The owners/developers of the site do not cater to members personal gripes, that is what the mods do. Like it or not, they are the higher authority.

Ive tried the “send feedback feature” thanks again to all of you for not being any sort of help and commenting for likes. Not amused.

May I ask, what you wish to report? Putting it in the open is about your only option…

@Roadtodebt we answered the question. The owners are hands off. All you can is report a mod to other mods.

Good idea @MrGrimm888! We can have a community trial!

Court is in session. The Jellies’ Court.

Since we only have about three mods, and they live in different time zones, it can take a while for them to respond to you @Roadtodebt. They will get back to you if you’ve made a complaint. In the meantime, as has been suggested, many of us have been here for a long time and so we may be able to throw some light on a problem you are having or why something might have been moderated. However, there is no higher authority you can contact to make a complaint. We’d certainly like to help if we can.

Dutchess presiding, of course.

Please place your right tentacle on the Bible. Do you swear to tell the truth, the whole truth, so help you Mod?...

Not the Bible! Jaws.

Urghhh

To my knowledge I do not recall seeing any sort of warning or notification that a question cannot be deleted, I asked a question that I want deleted because it’s become personal and with a lot of the responses that came with the question I no longer feel safe having it on the interwebs. I have asked a perfectly capable mod to so generously delete the question because of reasons said but have not had any response.

Order in the court please…

They’ll delete it. How long ago did you ask?
Also you can flag the question and request it that way.

I only see that you’ve asked 2 questions. Looks like they deleted it.

I’ve made plenty of waves in this pond. It’ll be ok…

@Roadtodebt It might take a couple days for a response. You are not the only little fishy in the great fluther sea that has contacted the mods today. Be patient. What you do is flag your own question ( to the right at the top of the Question page )and then below the categories for flagging check the ” something else” box and share your reasoning for wanting the Q. removed

Mods volunteer their time, respect that and be patient.

@Dutchess_III, they asked the question under another name.. I’m guessing it was about moving a child out of state. That person has since closed their account. I still don’t think the mods would remove it. There’s nothing on the question to identify who the original poster is and I’m sure there are other people who would be interested in such a question and the responses.

@Coloma
@Dutchess_III

I asked the question under a different user name, I requested to delete it under that user name because I saw no delete question feature, then proceeded to delete the username in hopes that the question would be deleted too.

The mods have said before, they get negative feedback from other jellies if they remove threads. They are kinda stuck between a rock, and a hard place. Not a good place for an invertebrate..

@Roadtodebt Yes, we know but I had already mentioned to you that members can delete their accounts but the question remains to benefit others looking for the same information. There are thousands of questions on the site from long gone members, Just the way it rolls here.

Well I’ll still be hopeful they have some compassion.

Wat and see…who knows.

[Mod Says] There isn’t really a way to go above the moderators. That said, we are certainly willing to revisit any decision we’ve made (regardless of whether that decision was made by an individual moderator or by the team as a whole).

To my knowledge—and I may not have all of the relevant information—there have been two attempts to contact us about this. In the chat room, you asked “how do I delete my question?” to which I responded “You can’t delete your own questions. If a question has no responses yet, a moderator can remove it for you.”

You have also made a request via the Contact Form. I won’t share that here because, unlike the chat room, the Contact Form is not public. But I will mention that there were no details in the original request beyond your desire to have the question deleted. I know that another moderator asked you for more information, but I don’t have access to whatever response you may have sent them.

As a general rule, we do not remove questions that has already received genuine responses just because the asker no longer wants it up. Doing so devalues the effort put in by everyone who took the time to answer. But the general rule admits of exceptions, so we would be happy to reconsider it if there are special circumstances that should be taken into account. Feel free to message me or to use the Contact Form again if you think there are good reasons to make an exception in this case.

^^(I can’t get over you being a mod!)
The Mod God has spoken.

Still waiting for a response from the mod I spoke to.

Who was the mod you spoke to?

@Roadtodebt I don’t know how long it will take for the mod you spoke to previously to see your message. In any case, thank you for sending us further details via the Contact Form. I have decided to remove the question for you.

^Ask, and you shall receive… In Mod we trust…

@SavoirFaire, may I say your moniker is perfectly reflected in your patient response. Thanks for being there!

They’ve so graciously deleted it, thank you all, and sorry for being dramatic.

That said, I didn’t recall any personal details in that question. I didn’t recall a state being mentioned or anything that would lead someone to believe it was someone specific asking. The whole issue about moving a child to another state is one that I’m sure has come up for thousands or maybe millions of families over many decades.

jca
Juror

@jca that said? You didn’t say anything this entire conversation, silent creeper? Doesn’t matter what you think, it’s gone.

@Roadtodebt: I just read this entire thread this morning. I didn’t creep on anything. I was at work yesterday when the thread was started and didn’t look at it until this morning, in case you need an explanation as to my Fluther habits.

Why are you so nasty? Other people have pm’d me and said they agreed with me, also.

Other people have pm’d you about this? wow, just wow. I’m not commenting on this question anymore, have fun. Thanks.

@jca . There was a state mentioned. But that was the only specific information. I can understand why she wanted it deleted. I didn’t think it was a big deal, but I’m not her…

I wouldn’t call her nasty. But… She has pretty thin skin for someone seeking advice on the Internet…

This is a close-knit community. There is no need to attack people who don’t respond as we would like them to. I hope the OP quickly learns to have a thicker skin. As to the question being deleted, I agree with @jca, it wasn’t necessary. And while I respect the mods have to make decisions, I think consistency is really important and in the past, the rule has been questions are not removed unless there is a significant reason.

Well, actually there is a higher authority than the mods… but only if you believe there is.

You can always pray to the god or gods (or devils) of your choice to seek vengeance, to visit with fire and brimstone or plagues of locusts or frogs or spam or whatever media your god/s prefer, or through whatever other channels of tribulation and retribution they visit upon their believers (or non-believers, if they work that way), or however else they handle miscreants and true believers, yada yada.

But that’s pretty much it on this site, I think. The chain of command goes from the mods to the gods, and there’s no more in-between.

And frankly, my experience with the gods is that they’re even lazier and more capricious than the mods, and far less effective communicators.

Also, their skill at HTML and basic editing just plain sucks. They’re* more likely to burn up your computer.

*The gods, that is. The mods are fairly benign.

Mostly.

@MrGrimm888: I feel her comment to me was nasty and uncalled for. She accused me of creeping, why, because I hadn’t yet commented on the thread? I think for the most part I’m very respectful of people on this site and I think what she said was not necessary.

^I gotcha. I meant no disrespect.
I guess I was trying also to remind others that this jelly was new. And we don’t know what details may have been more relevant to her than what we observed…

Peace n love.

@MrGrimm888 I know and respect your intention. But actually she should just have calmed down and thought things a bit more carefully before going all overboard like that, given that she is new and doesn’t know much about this site’s rules and culture. Al least she should just have been more polite.

I agree with you that she is more too thin-skinned than nasty at heart though…

@Roadtodebt You are welcome. And don’t worry, everyone’s a little dramatic sometimes.

@everyone else I understand that this situation has been varying degrees of confusing and/or frustrating for the people involved. Whatever one thinks of @Roadtodebt‘s responses, however, I hope we can have at least some compassion for the distress she is/was in. I would also like to remind everyone that not all of the details in this case are public. Just because we cannot identify @Roadtodebt from the details provided does not mean that other people are similarly unable. Since the question has been removed, I hope we can put this to rest.

I also agree with @jca‘s assessment, but the important thing is that you felt uncomfortable with it being out there @Roadtodebt, and you had every right to ask that it be deleted.
The problem was, this place isn’t run like a business with multiple, paid mods on every shift. They are strictly volunteers and not on call 24/7.
And I have to say, I went looking for the question too because of the brouhaha it was causing here I don’t think I would have even seen it otherwise.

I’m never dramatic @SavoirFaire!

@Dutchess_III is right about the mods not being able to be available 24/7, but how could @Roadtodebt know if she is a new member and has never used the site before?

That is why I ask everyone to calm down and politely sort things out, including @Roadtodebt. I’m against rage toward any member, newbies and oldies alike. One person gets angry and lashes out at another, the other feels offended and shouts back, and soon we have a war, everyone is hurt and nothing is solved. I understand that @Roadtodebt was in distress at that time, but she shouldn’t lash out at people trying to explain the situation for being “unhelpful”. We are aiming to solve a particular problem and we need to team up to do that.

Although I admit that I’m pretty stupid and dramatic sometimes :P

Mimi. Maybe she’ll learn some manors, and understanding as she goes along. We have to tell her first though, our customs.

I’m surprised that the Mods deleted the thread. She doesn’t realize what a big deal that was I think. I am fine with their decision, and I hope it brings some closure for the distressed jelly….

I think our mods are pretty damn awesome. As mentioned above, they are just volunteering their own time. They seem as impartial as they can be. I sense a genuine attempt “doin the right thing.”

Hopefully, she will toughen up a bit, so she can get the full experience here.

Sometimes, you absorb a few blows, but get some good debate too. I’ve learned a lot about myself, from discussions here….

You’re right MrGrimm. Maybe she was just too overwhelmed after all. I don’t tolerate bad behavior but that doesn’t mean I don’t believe in people changing for the better. Let’s all hope that she will turn out to be a great jelly in the end like you :)

Ha! It shouldn’t be hard for her to be better than me ;)

Well it’s no secret that there tneds to be two types riding the fluther range, the fragile and the flagrant. I’m in the flagrant camp myself. Yep, if you’re too thin skinned to ride and rope with the big cowboys go back to your rocking horse. LOL

I think of myself more as the fragrant type.

^ Mmmm…melted chocolate chips, fragrant indeed.

Hmm, I fire people as a hobby…just sayin ;-}