What do you think are the consequences of siblings sharing a bedroom growing up?

Learning to appreciate things. I think this varies wildly by personality though. Some wouldn’t do as well as others. That being said, I think it would be more relevant to kids who were previously living separately and then forced into the situation. If they always shared a room, they should be used to it.

I would think that a parent’s diplomacy skills would also be important to how the arrangement is viewed by the children. Fairness, and compromise are essential to shared quarters.

^^So you see having your own room as a luxury, and that sharing maybe makes a kid feel less entitled or spoiled?

I think sharing is beneficial in some ways, but having a room alone has its benefits too.
Privacy is something I hold dear, and having your own space to be alone is important.
Sharing helps kids develop some social skills, like tolerance, and dispute resolution. Having one’s own room means being responsible for your own mess, having the choice to experiment with some individuality.
Sharing can be a disaster, when incapatability is a real issue.

@Patty_Melt Did you share a room as a child? I don’t think about privacy at all when it comes to my sister.

My brother and I are not especially close nowadays. I don’t recall our ever sharing a room but I don’t equate the latter with the former.

When I was four-years-old, my sister’s crib was moved from our parent’s room to my room. Sometimes I would climb into her crib and lay with her. Our family moved to California when I was seven and we lived in a small trailer. My sister and I slept in a couch that folded into a bed until I was eleven. We moved back to Chicago into an small apartment were our parents slept in the dining room and my sister and I shared the only bedroom, sleeping in a bunk bed until moving to a larger apartment with three bedrooms when I was fourteen. Perhaps because of the age difference, there was no animosity between us. To the contrary, we were then and continued to be best friends. Sadly she died at age 43.

We were three siblings, myself and two brothers.
I had my own room always. My brothers were seven years in age difference. They shared a room from the time the younger was a toddler, until the older entered his teens. At that time we moved, and my parents chose a home with enough bedrooms for each of us. This was a good thing, because the older boy was a Slob.
Mostly they roomed well together, but the younger was glad when he got a space where he could have everything in its place, and the older was glad he had a place he could spread his projects from wall to wall and corner to corner.

increased risk of incest.

Slept my whole childhood, until, I believe, in my early twenties, with two (later one) brother(s) in one room.
Can’t recommend it.
Humans need privacy.

I grew up sharing bedroom with my siblings as kids and from my own experience I can say that it made us more competitive in a lot of aspects. We ended up become somewhat territorial in a sense that you can’t cross the border of my side of the room or lay on my bed or turn on your favourite music, etc, we even fought about when the light can be turned off. So, no. Sharing a bedroom is a big no no for me. I wouldn’t even want to share a bedroom with my partner if given the choices.

My siblings and I don’t really get on, but I can’t blame sharing a room for that – we just have very different personalities.

Sharing a room was a fact of life that we had no say in, so there was little point in lamenting it.

@JLeslie. To an extent, yes.

I shared a room with my younger brother until I was 11 and we moved to a larger home where we all had our own rooms. I certainly am close with my brother now, so it’s possible that that made us closer. My brother and I have different interests and live apart now, but we still have a level of closeness that I don’t have with friends: feeling completely comfortable around each other in any situation, having many in-jokes and childhood references…I do feel like some of this wouldn’t be here if we had not shared a room for as long as we did.

This thread reinforces what has been my opinion on this topic. I think being able to share a room with a sibling when very young is a huge positive. I think once the teenage years set in it makes sense to have your own room and more privacy even more individuality choosing your decor, but I don’t think it’s a big deal if siblings always room together throughout their childhood if they are same gender. If they are different genders then I think by age ten in most cases I would prefer the kids are separated.

I have two friends who had two children each of the same gender, and they both had 4 bedroom houses. They still chose to put the siblings in the same room as young children. Eventually, as the kids became young teens they each took a bedroom for themselves.

@Bill1939 Awww, I love your answer. My dad shared a room with his sister, and his parents slept on the pullout sofa.

I think it does make them closer and also they grow up to be more comfortable around each other