Pet peeves of current day, online, life?

Online incivility, especially among politicians but also among faceless. nameless social media addicts.

People thinking that since they are faceless and hidden behind a moniker can say any evil thing they want.

people ending their posts with “lol” or “haha”, lol.

About Facebook: People taking photos of every meal, every drink, anything they eat, drink or serve. One of my FB friends yesterday did a photo of macaroni salad he made for a barbecue this weekend. Macaroni salad, if you’ve ever seen it, is not very picturesque. I can see once in a while, if there’s something exceptional, like a platter of lobsters, a huge burger or an unusual dessert, putting it on FB, but not every boring meal.

People putting photos of themselves (selfies) in all sorts of situations, many of them mundane. “This is me on a train,” “This is me in the car ready to go on vacation,” “This is me trying to look fabulous so you can all tell me how beautiful/hot/handsome I am.”

Very predictable tons of photos for every event (eclipse, sunset, full moon, first day of school, Christmas, Halloween, etc.).

Anywhere on the internet (FB, Fluther, etc.): People just being nasty to each other. Unnecessarily nasty and mean. I’m not talking about the occasional heated debate that occurs here and elsewhere, I’m talking about people coming out of left field and displaying bitterness, meanness, evilness. Some will chalk it up to or hide behind that they’ve been traumatized as children, had tough childhoods, their mom didn’t love them, they’ve been ostracized by societ, etc. but I see no need for it and I see no need to justify it. I saw it the other day on Fluther. Someone asked a question about a wedding and someone came out of nowhere with a nasty rant about the person. Out of the blue, totally uncalled for, totally unnecessary. I can’t imagine that people like that hold down regular jobs, yet I know they do (supposedly) so therefore they are able to control it, therefore they might try to control it on websites, too.

I agree with @jca I just recently opened a FB acct. again in May to follow my daughters European travels after dumping my old one in 2011. I have about 8–10 “friends” and am totally on board with @jca ‘s sharings. I’d add thousands of pictures of your kids/grandkids every day and the stupid games that people get into like Farmville. Ugh.

I also agree with the petty, cliquish, nastiness that goes on here. Those that are just bitchy for no reason other than to take out their own bad moods/baggage on others and to cement their childish need to be part of a clique. Gag.

The use of the present tense on public radio shows such as RadioLab describing stories that obviously were set in the past. What is wrong with the past tense for the past?? A small peeve but mine own.

People staring at their phones and instead of talking to those around them, including their own families,

That is one of my biggest pet peeves, @Call_Me_Jay .
People paying more attention to their damn smart phones than the people they are with.

@janbb I never noticed that! But I’m sure I won’t be able to not see it now!

@Soubresaut It drives me crazy. I yell at the radio, “The Titanic sank, it sank not “sinks!”

@janbb
Are you also upset that people in historical movies all talk in the present tense?

That’s something different and you know it, loli. Don’t tease me today or I’ll sic my fleas on you!

My pet peeve, (and it does involve pets) is people who take their dog a walk, collect its crap in a small plastic bag which they then tie up and leave by the side of the path or even hang from the branches of a tree. An abomination in the eyes of God and of Man.

@rebbel Ten years ago my semi-invalid mother-in-law lived with us for a while, and my wife bought a wheelchair online to help her get around.

During all of the years since then, my wife continues to get wheelchair-related sales pitches on her computer…..including yesterday….

@flutherother That’s a shitty thing to do!

@PullMyFinger I have only recently figured out that I should use my browser’s incognito/private mode when researching anything I don’t want advertised to me.

Selfies with totally unrelated captions. Things like several photos of you trying to look cute with a motivational statement like “God only chooses the hardest battle for his strongest warrior”. I notice that the people doing that both look for praise for their face and their “great” personality. Double the praise for ya!

Private talk in a not-so-private setting. On Facebook it comes in the form of “I can’t believe this happened to me” status., in real life it comes in the form of talk about things only certain people can understand. I especially hate it when people intentionally talk about exclusive topics when they know there are other people in the same place. Are you trying to isolate someone?

Negativity for the sake of it. You don’t look any smarter by thinking things will get worse no matter what, obsessing over flaws or sharing unconfirmed conspiracy theories.

Corporate shills pretending to just be people chiming in, but really trolling or pretending to be experts or whatever, to manipulate public opinion.

@Call_Me_Jay Thank you, I just wrote that down as a reminder to investigate this setting for use in the future…..

People asking me to type amen.

People asking me to copy and paste and DON’T SHARE!!!!!!!
(If you posted or shared it, then expect it to get shared. If you are not interested in the subject, don’t post it)

People making their posts “public.” When they do, I get to see everyone’s kids (and so does every pedophile from here to Timbuktu, plus I don’t want to see your kids, or your boss’s kids, or your ex-sister in law’s cousin’s kids, nor do I want to see anyone’s relative’s death bed photos. When you make your stuff “public” friends of your friends’ friends see every single post or response, evwn if they don’t know you. And your actual friend’s posts are visible to everyone they know, even if it’s information that they don’t want shared to their own friends. No one at work needs to know that your “friends” and you go pole dancing, or like Air Supply, or rub bear urine on your hemorrhoids. None of your friends in real life need to know that your company is laying off 20% of its employees, or a hundred posts about the new widget yoir company is developing. When you, yourself, make your posts public, people with no need to know, read about everything, including stuff that they don’t care about, or is none of their business. The same thing happens when you click on, respond to, or “like” anything that anyone else makes “public” including the deathbed photos of your boss’s cousin’s wife’s sister, and your Uncle Melvin’s trophy hunting party with all the blood and illegal ivory they poached. Not all of your friends need to see everything. They don’t want to for a few reasons. They don’t know these other people. They are in the group that is being disparaged, and they are just sick of seeing every depraved thing that you are involved in.

There is a reason why you can (and shoud) make each one of your posts visible only to the people that they regard. And don’t respond to other people’s public posts for the same reason.

@Kardamom Amen.~
Thank you, all!
I read some peeves that I didn’t know I had :-)

Calling b.s. on me over and over . When I could really use the advice from a beliver .

Film Makers getting less and less subtle with their sexual innuendo in children’s films.
In Frozen it was just “shoe size does not matter”,
in Boss Baby, it was this dialogue:
-I want you to suck it.
-YOU suck it!
-No, it is for you to suck.
-Urgh, I’m not sucking that!
-Suck it!
-I don’t know where it’s been!
-It’s not where it’s been, It’s where it will take you.
* sucking noises *

…................Jesus Christ…........

You can watch it here:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wnP5fa_8hFE

Shit.

@jca @ragingloli That’s known as the “historical present”: the use of the present tense to make a story of the past seem more “alive”. Even the Ancient Romans used it :)

My pet peeve: the use of the term “fake news”. “Fake news” is one of the worst terms ever created. While the idea of wanting to weed out false news stories, especially those that are deliberate lies, is a noble one, the term was doomed from the start. “Fake news” now just means “news that I disagree with” or “news that, if true, thwarts my agenda”. It has little to do with what is actually true and what is not. It’s just another tool that one can use to spread propaganda and misinformation while making your opposition look like desperate liars even if they are actually the ones with the truth.

Larger rant ahead; possible fake news alert: When the internet was first created, it was seen as possibly ushering in a golden age of information, where the “collective” would easily determine what’s true and what’s not—instead it has had the opposite effect, where misinformation spreads so easily that one can spend their entire “online life” in a universe of the confirmation bias. People are now “experts” because they watched a couple YouTube videos, there are entire communities for flat earthers. The internet has helped feed extremism (just look as ISIS recruitment) and cause the political “sides” to be more polarized than ever. The internet has helped usher in, rather than a golden age, a “post-truth” age.

@DominicY: I don’t think you meant to tag me.

Sorry, I meant to tag @janbb; the short “j” usernames throw me off sometimes, yet you guys have had the same avatars forever, so I should know one from the other D:

^^^

Fake news !!!

People who complain about what they don’t like on facebook but do exactly what they are complaining about here at Fluther.

I’ll let Anthony Jeselnik describe my other pet peeve:
The people who see
something horrible happen in the world
and they run to the Internet.
And they run to their social media,
Facebook, Twitter, whatever they got.
And they all write down
the exact same thing:
“My thoughts and prayers…”
“My thoughts and prayers
with the people in Aurora.”
“My thoughts and prayers
with the families in Boston.”
Do you know what that’s worth?
Fucking nothing.
Fucking less than nothing.
Less than nothing.
You are not giving any of your time,
your money or even your compassion.
All you are doing, all you are doing,
is saying, “Don’t forget about me today.”
“Don’t forget about me.”
“Lots of crazy distractions in the news,
but don’t forget how sads I am.”
Those people are worthless
and they deserve to be made fun of.
They’re like a wedding photographer
who only takes selfies.

I’m with @jonsblond here.

That cliched response goes right along with people being interviewed in the paper after someone is murdered, who say “He didn’t deserve this”.

Really ?........ And most murder victims do ??

And the sole survivor of a plane crash, who says “Well…..I guess God was just looking out for me today….”

Implying that God looked down, saw the plane in trouble, and thought…..

“Yeah…..I really like that Harold guy, there…...those 157 others ??......nah…..not so much…..”

Anyway, if my turn comes tomorrow, I’d much rather have people say nothing at all than to offer-up some kind of lazy, worn-out cliche’ about how their “thoughts and prayers are with my family”.

@PullMyFinger I agree that the God sentiments are shallow but to say that expressing your condolences for a crisis or tragedy and not giving your time or money is worthless is way over the top.
A respectful and sincere acknowledgement of a situation is still a nice thing to do even if you cannot give your time or money.
I always like to say that “God” was sleep at the wheel when people want to attribute some, non-existent divine will in a tragedy.Pfft!

Thought of another one. Related to jonsblond’s example. When people say things like “how come this thing that happened in a 3rd world country doesn’t get as much attention as this thing that happened here?” You know the answer to that question. I’m not at all saying that the bad event that doesn’t get attention doesn’t deserve to get more attention, but it seems obvious to me why people pay more attention to that which is “closer to home”. It’s more shocking when an attack or something along those lines happens in a place we’re more familiar with, or a “peaceful” Western nation than when it happens in a place already plagued with violence and war. So we don’t need the guilt-tripping every time it happens. Go ahead and bring attention to the other event, sure, but don’t act like it’s so shocking that it receives less attention. It’s not. Even if it’s unfortunate.

@DominicY You mean only with (terrorist) attacks?
I can see what you mean if in Afghanistan or Iraq, which are war torn to begin with, a suicide bomber blows himself up, that it gets less attention (first from media outlets, second from public), because it is happening ‘all the time’ there.
Plus it is far away, some people will say.
But how about natural disasters?
Let’s say, a flood, or a typhoon, or a combination of the two, one in the Western World, and one in the Third World.
The “plagued already with war” analogy doesn’t hold here, I think.
Not attacking you (obviously), just wondering and curious.
I hold your opinion high, I always think you make wise observations.

@rebbel I was mainly thinking of terrorist attacks, yes. But even with natural disasters, the “close to home” factor applies. I’m essentially arguing that it’s human nature to feel more affected by something that happens in your country, or state, or hometown (with the effect being stronger the closer it happens to you). Not saying it’s an excuse not to donate to relief efforts for a disaster that happens in a far off country you’re unfamiliar with, but it may explain why one stays in your mind more and one doesn’t.

@DominicY Agreed. Case in point the monsoons that have killed over 1.200 in SE Asia last week but the focus was all on Harvey because it happened in Americas backyard not the global backyard.

As per @DominicY‘s post, a big peeve of mine is “grief shaming”. The competition factor brought into it is bizarre.

Then there is “sympathy shaming.”
Shaming people for their thoughts and prayers because they don’t have dozens of hours to give and a big fat check to prove their sympathy is genuine.

This is the department of redundancy department.

Not the argument clinic?

it’s the petty complaints window.

What about the dept. of funny walks? Am I in the wrong line again?

@Kardamom I’ll take funny walks over petty complaints any day of the week, shall we stroll?

Hmmm, i’m just going for my default response whenever I see the word “peeve”

Ahem…Belgians

When someone goes on and on and on, telling a story in vivid detail, then asks for advice, and then, when given advice based upon what they said, said person blows a gasket and screams angrily that we don’t know them or their situation.

@Kardamom Haha That’s a classic no doubt. Ask and ye shall receive….the wrath of the asker.

@Kardamom this sums up your answer perfectly