Am I overthinking too much about whether or not this girl still wants reconnect with me?

I’m not Doctor Phil, but my advice is just go talk to her in person, and be yourself. Tell her you dig her and you’d like to spend time with her, but give her some space. And stop stalking her man, that shit ain’t cool.

Stalking her will make you look needy. Nobody wants to date someone who is needy. She’s agreed to go on another date with you. That’s a big step. Stop fretting. Stop stalking her. Don’t make the same mistakes again. Just enjoy going out with her. You are overthinking this. At this point, you’re just going to have some fun and see where things go. Don’t create more pressure than that.

I would stop the stalking shit. Here is why. You will eventually say something that could only be known from the stalking. This is unavoidable. And it will send her running for Adam Hills.

Adam Hills is gorgeous and funny and intelligent. I’d run for him too.

See, you lost her already. For this Adam Hill feller.

Well stalking means you ARE a creep.

@Earthbound_Misfit :: I’m glad someone got the reference. And it gets even better since “running” and he only has one foot. Lots of layers to my bad joke.

And for those that have not seen The Last Leg .. enjoy.

I know! There is a clip from one of his shows about sign language. Very funny.

@Theasiandude, so read the signs and no stalking man!

Focus on your education and work , for now.
If you love someone then set them free.
Wait for her to come back, and move on at the same time.
You sound totally too young and not ready to date just yet.
You can feather a nest for when someone , not necessarily her , marries you.
Your increased pay and status from having a good job , will help you to start a family.
Or if you are just sewing your oats than any woman or man will do and you don’t need her.
You can decide if you want to marry her, and raise a family or else move on.

I dunno. Accessing information that a person has explicitly made available to you is a far cry from “stalking.” As far as I care, she gave you consent already, and anyone who has a problem with your behavior is being naive.

If she already dumped you because of something stupid you said once, it’s likely that she just wasn’t that into you. People tend to bend over backwards for partners they really like. A stupid remark might get you into a fight, but shouldn’t end a relationship that was going somewhere.

I’m not intimately familiar with all the platforms you mentioned, but do they actually tell users who has accessed the data? If not, it’s pretty unlikely she knows the extent of your inquiries, unless you’ve been going around talking about it, or upvoting everything she posts.

If she does figure it out, and drops you because of it, I just can’t see that this relationship had anything going for it. A weak relationship, like the one you fear you have, can get stronger over time, but it doesn’t sound like you two have great chemistry to start with.

Yes, you’re obsessing, which isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but it doesn’t mean this could or should work out for you two.

@Smashley in his own words he said he was stalking her.

It’s a term poorly, but not uncommonly, used to mean obsessively checking out a person’s online presence. I prefer “creeping.” I just wanted to point out that it was a poor choice of words since I don’t believe he’s physically stalking her.

Stalking doesn’t have to be physical.

Agreed with @Dutchess_III Let’s just call it an unhealthy obsession then. Either accept the brush off, or approach her in person, then run the flag up the pole and see who salutes. But bugging her friends on Facebook and lurking on her page, wont get him anywhere. Either the chemistry is there, or it isn’t, that’s the way the cookie crumbles.

@Dutchess_III I agree that stalking doesn’t have to be physical, but I really believe this person was just using careless language, and what he meant was simply accessing the social media information is out there.

He said “stalking her instagram, Facebook, and Snapchat ( I even stalked her friends to see if they pictures of her) .”

This sounds like exactly what I described, which is legal and not uncommon, and in and of itself is an entirely personal thing that causes no harm and has no victim, and, I reiterate, something this girl has explicitly consented to through her use of these sites and/or permissions granted.

Wish he’d get back so we can psychoanalyze him some more..