Have you ever did or said unkind things to your partner?

Oh, dear, @Eggie, I think you need to give more detail, as it sounds like you feel you are entitled to sex from someone because “you really want it”. I am hind I am not understanding your Q properly.

No, not regarding sex. That is pretty messed up if that is what you are doing. That’s a couple of steps away from rape. I think you have a serious problem. You should seek help.

I left a guy for being a poor sport about my low sex drive and he didn’t even stoop so low as to call me bad names or whatever it is you’re describing here. He was just really persistent about trying to convince me to change my mind.

This is really bad behavior and women won’t put up with it. Shape up.

Yeah, I’m not sure if that’s a mistake in wording, but getting pissed at your partner for not wanting sex is really rude. Honestly, if I were her, I would have just told you to fuck off and go jack off to porn, probably wouldn’t want to be with you either. I don’t put up with guys who can’t take no for an answer.. I’m stubborn as hell and I will argue.

“I know that it is really wrong and selfish and downright disgusting to do that…” to do what? Get pissed at your partner for not wanting sex or for her to deny you it in the first place. Clarify this, please. Nobody is entitled to sex.

What you’d want to do, is really learn and appreciate how messed up that is to do, and what it can be like for the other person, be really clear on all of that such that you’d never do it again, and then apologize, explain that you get how wrong it was, what the impact of it could be like, and that you’ll never do anything like that again.

No, never. I have been lucky. Almost 6 years together and not one argument. However if my partner denied me sex, I would just find another partner. I don’t know why people stay in relationships that are obviously not working. Not you specifically, just in general.

Of course. You apologize, let them know you were in the wrong and never do it again.

I mean its disgusting to call names or get angry.

I am ashamed to admit but I have been guilty of doing that and I apologised.

Yes, I have gotten mad and said things that weren’t nice also. I thought you were getting all pissy because your girlfriend wouldn’t have sex with you.