Should I stay with her?

Don’t worry about it.

You lose your temper too easily. You need to roll with the tide, not get all pissed off. Tha’t a really bad sign.

She said she was sorry, accept it.

My interpretation:

She made a joke about your appearance. You took her seriously and overreacted. You both got into a pissing match, neither willing to admit you were wrong, feelings were hurt. She felt you were worth another try.

My advice:

Lighten up. Stop looking for and creating problems where they don’t exist.

She was probably joking about your appearance.
But the excessive drama might be a turn off.

She sounds immature and shallow. Why would you want to?

You wrote should you “stay with”, but you hadn’t been with her except text and selfies with filters?

I would take the “no physical contact” as (possibly a joke and) trying to reassure herself that you are safe to be in-person with. Women tend to have a (very reasonable and smart) high caution about meeting new men, and want to feel confident that they aren’t going to lose their option to get away, say no, not get killed, etc.

She sounds shallow. She is worried about your looks. I would pass on her. You are already fighting with someone you haven’t even met. Imagine how bad it will be when you actually do know her.

I agree with @rojo that it was probably a joke that would might have worked “in person” but runs the risk – as you proved – of being misunderstood or not taken well in text.

I myself would have joked back to her that I’d prefer to take the selfie after a shower… and then made it a selfie of me “stepping out of” the shower (wrapped, as I’m not a fan of too much, too soon) after taking one.

She sounded very rude and hurtful I’d dump her. Lesson learned avoid filters right from the get-go.

“Old and scruffy and forget meeting up?” Why is everyone playing these insults down? Plus, followed by an argument.
I’m sorry; talk about getting things off to a rotten start. I bet she’s verbally abusive on a regular basis. Man up; have some pride and dump her.

You can decide later whether or not you want to stay with her after you’ve met her in person, you can learn more about her that way. I live in Asia and the “no physical contact” rule between people who aren’t in exclusive relationship is a very acceptable idea. Both of you haven’t gotten far in the relationship, she’s not your girlfriend yet. It’s not like she doesn’t trust you, it’s just that some people need more time to feel comfortable and safe to have physical contact with other people.

No. Your question shows that you aren’t in a potentially successful relationship. My favorite “answer columnist” in the newspaper said “Ask yourself if you are better of with or without” That is your final answer.

If you are asking a bunch of strangers about your personal relationship, my answer is no, you should end it now.

She doesn’t sound very nice.

I wonder why you didn’t mention that you felt uncomfortable in sending it right away as you just back from the gym etc
Communication..lacking.
Tell her right from the start..the truth.
You could had told her that is not what you always look like.
She was unfair to ask that of you and you were not obliged to give one to her neither.
On most Dating websites people Post ONLY their good picts of course as first impressions important. Later when they meet up..it is different..reality sets in.