Am I in love?

At your age you don’t need to move too fast. You have your entire life to learn about love. All you can do is be brave and find out if this guy thinks the same about you. If he doesn’t then don’t worry, there are a lot of other fish in the sea. And just like fishing some days they are biting and some days they aren’t. So hang in there regardless. The one is out there for ya.

Sounds like you’re more interested in the idea of having a boyfriend than in this particular boy.

If it wasn’t this boy it’d be some other, and if you went to an all girls’ school it’d be some singer or other.

You’re 14. Ask him to sit with you at lunch. See what happens. If he says no, move on to his cute friends.

What exactly is love? In how many ways can it be defined? If you only think you might be in love, forget about trying to define what it is. Enjoy whatever you feel, whatever it is.
If at some point you have to “get over it,” it will only take time. Maybe 6 months. Maybe longer. But give it time.

This is not love. It is chemical attraction. You cannot love someone that you don’t know quite well, how he behaves in certain situations, does he have a sense of humor.

Why don’t you find out? Ask him to have coffee or a soda with you after school.

If you like him than it is just a crush. It you want to have his babies start a family together than it might be something.

You can’t love someone when you don’t know them. You can be infatuated though. Infatuation is a good feeling, it releases all sorts of chemicals in the brain that make you feel great. So you could ‘feel’ as though you are in love. Your friends have a point, you probably love the image you have of him. Someone special, someone to take away the loneliness and to make things better.

Having said that, you can feel a strong attraction to someone you’ve barely met. I personally think this happens as a projection of our own inner needs, whatever that is at the time.

Other’s might say it is a soul link connection. It depends on how you perceive it.

Life lesson: People often confuse the rush of feelings from the idea, possibility and fantasy of falling in love with actually falling in love. To put it bluntly you cannot fall in love with someone you don’t know extremely well but you can feel both attraction/lust and excitement of the possibilities. Comprehending that difference and using it in your relationship decisions will potentially save you from some of the biggest mistakes you can make in your life. Most importantly….a partner, boyfriend or whatever will not solve any problems you have and especially if it’s not based on what most adults would consider “love.” This is based on mutual respect, sharing life experiences, lifestyle compatibility, some measure of physical attraction but most importantly a quality time investment in each other. If you can stand the test of time with someone then you have struck gold. Please remember that. So to answer your question: No, you are not in love but that does not exclude the future possibility.