NSFW Does everyone essentially have one?

You are conflating “fetish” with “preference”.

A fetish becomes a necessary part of the person’s sexual fulfillment. Most people don’t have a fetish, they are able to achieve climax in a variety of ways, without a defined object or process.

Enjoying multiple positions is not a fetish, it’s called exploration and variety.

Yes. Everything is a fetish.

I think I see what OP is getting at. What if we used the work “kink” or term “a thing for”, does everyone have their something that pushes their buttons?

I’d generally define it as something that has an unusual amount of weight in your sexual preference. It’s not just a practical need, it’s something that’s amplified for that person.

Some people have a thing for tall partners or short partners, big parts or small parts, clothing or situations. I think everyone (who’s sexual) has something they can’t necessarily explain or consciously control that turns them on.

It’s usually called a fetish when it’s far enough out of the norm, but if someone says they like big boobs, or tall men, everyone just considers that normal.

To answer the question, yes, I think everyone has something. Most consider their “thing” normal though.

I would think that, if we are talking in purely sexual terms, there are people who are members of the Asexual community that can be said to have no kink or fetish. Although I suppose that if you consider their lack of interest a choice then that would or could be considered a preference.

Life is a fetish.

Believe it or not; I have two.

I find female navels more physically attractive than breasts, but I don’t even consider that a fetish. I agree with others saying that it’s more of a preference

I always enjoyed seeing women running around in skimpy shorts and showing their legs off to advantage. Fetish? I really never thought about it much.

I would categorically say no, not everyone. Fetish is a pretty loaded word. It is an ‘abnormal’ sexual investment in an item that is not usual. To define abnormal a little better: in psychology, the study of abnormal psychology is one of the main facets of the discipline. Aligning any behavior that is not regular to most people as abnormal, or veering from the norm.

This is not an insulting term, although some could argue it is! It is also linked to culture and times.

So, I would say many of us have kinks, special triggers etc., that turn us on, but not everyone has a fetish. Interestingly feet and foot worship is very common on the list of fetishes. I am not sure it is that common that it has become normal in terms of psychological terminology.

Great answers! I guess I’ve always thought of fetish as more of a preference out of the norm. Seems I was wrong and I agree I was. And I agree @LornaLove the norm isn’t what it used to be.

I’m pretty typical-straight-male in what I find attractive. I can’t think of a particular fetish off-hand. The most unusual thing that comes to mind is that the most attractive thing to me is rapport and mutual interest through eye contact.

At least one…

I think it would only be considered a fetish is if one person tried to force, or does force, another to do something they didn’t want to do so person A can have some sort of satisfaction.

Now THAT would be plain kinky…

Well, like a shoe fetish, or stealing women’s dirty underwear. S&M when the other person isn’t into that.

Yup that stuff is fetishistic fore shore. And I used to think that sitting under my sheet with a flashlight and dads Playboys playing pup tent was a fetish.

My dad had 1 (ONE) Playboy magazine. We kids discovered it rifling through the bottom drawer of their dresser for no reason. He had the same 1 Playboy for years!

Shame on you and your sisters doing that! I just stumbled upon my dads mags uh, entirely by accident. He asked me to put something up for him, and uh- the drawer fell out. You believe that don’t ya?

I do, @NomoreY_A Same thing happened to me!

Yeah shit happens, right? @rojo

Not our fault!

If allowing one’s butler to dab the damp patch with a sponge immediately after coitus, then yeah…maybe I “they” do.

@Dutchess_lll
Oh sure it wasn’t ya’lls fault. I guess you were putting something up and the drawer fell out, right? Who would make up a lame story like that? Oh, yeah. Cough.

@Dutchess_III you are mixing up coercion with fetish. Many people share a fetish with a partner and both (or more) join enthusiastically. What you are describing is coercive, and while that might be someone’s kink, it does not define fetish.

My aunt had a a cabinet full of fetishes.

Yes @zenvelo, if two people want to do the same thing, it is what it is. However, a fetish could cause someone to attempt to coerce someone else into doing something they aren’t comfortable with. If the other person allows themselves to be coerced, bad on them. Doesn’t make whatever less of a fetish.