What do you make of this response?

If he had said quit bitching and fix yourself it or take it back, that would be rude.

If he had said find a girlfriend who’s handy with construction it might be inferred that he thought she was gay (not that there is anything wrong with that) and that would be presumptuous

We are starting to run out of options at that point.

He’s Mansplaining to you.

“you are useless because you are a woman, and your boyfriend is a useless beta cuck, get a real man, like me”

I took it as “exchange sex for the work.” I mean, if she wants to, fine. But for someone else to suggest it was way out in left field.

@Dutchess_III

What if she already has a boyfriend, the sex is great, but he sucks at construction.

Maybe the responder was in effect saying “Dump the old boyfriend and get a new one. Sex is not as important as construction”?

Come to think of it, both are important.

So maybe he is saying “Dump the old boyfriend and get a new one that is handy at both”

I took his comnent as a condescending quip.

He wasn’t kidding. He was a guy making a stereotypical guy comment.

I didn’t infer the ‘exchange sex for work’ but then, as a male, I don’t have female antennae that hear things that weren’t said.

He was an obtuse, non-enlightened male. Nothing more.

Probably just not a thought out statement. I could easily see a female giving the same advice. Whomever posted it, probably didn’t think the statement would be under such scrutiny. People get offended way too easy these days.

who can tell whether he’s joking or not ? there’s little point in judging him. The statement might be both sexist AND sound advice.

Sounds like he was just being crude, but direct. I’m not sure I would read much more into it than that. Many people are brash and think they are cute, but aren’t. Chalk it up to he’s one of those. I believe my response would have been…you have three options…fix it up, take it back for a refund, or sell it. $1600 for a camper seems extremely low so she should have expected problems.

I think you’re thinking about this way more than he did.

What he was saying was “You were dumb enough to buy it without checking first. Don’t expect them to take it back or give you a refund. That’s what ‘as is’ means.”

and honestly… who doesn’t check for leaks and rot before buying a living space?

I just see it as an off-the-cuff remark, wouldn’t read anything more into it, I thought it was quite funny actually.
Edit: the sort of comment I would say ha ha smarty-pants to.

I don’t see it as a sex-related thing at all. I just think he was being a bit sexist and implying she can’t do it herself. Maybe he knew her, or knew from other posts that she wasn’t good with construction? I don’t know who this guy is, but to me, that comes off as an off-handed, sarcastic comment so I wouldn’t look super deep into it

It’s just sound advice.

You can’t infer anything without more details or context. Maybe it was an inside joke, maybe it was sexist, I can’t see any connection to “work for sex” . I can infer a certain odd obsession with the OP by this posting however.

Just a garden variety smart ass. As my old Pappy would say, don’t sweat petty stuff and don’t pet sweaty stuff. Guys like that are a dime a dozen.

Typical for men to not see the obvious misogyny in that comment. Bunch of Weinstein enablers.

@ragingloli that was about as sexist a statement as I have seen. You just condemned half the population of the Earth. Good job. And here’s the real question: Yep, it has misogynistic overtones to it….do you think you are ever going to change that guy? I suggest the bigger deal you try to make out of it, the more importance and power you give to guys like that.

^^ Dude, ragingloli is not to be taken in anyway seriously. She/he/it is a troll we flutherites have taken in as a mascot.

It is a misogynistic statement. No joke. If you aren’t a misogynist there’s no need to be offended by loli’s post.

First, she’s married. She made a casual reference to it further down the post. So I assume the guy just stumbled on the thread, like I did, and doesn’t know her.

@elbanditoroso “I didn’t infer the ‘exchange sex for work’ but then, as a male, I don’t have female antennae that hear things that weren’t said.” I appreciate that disclaimer…but think again. She gets a “boyfriend” specifically for THAT. Picks him up where ever. He is now her boyfriend, but all she wants him to do is construction work. In exchange he can hang out with her and they can go to movies, go to dinner, he has the privilege of keeping her company, but no kissy kissy. OK. Kissy kissy is OK, but nothing more. Would any guy bust his butt like that, for a woman he doesn’t know, unless he thinks there is sex in the future?

@Aethelwine, I agree.

Nope. Ain’t no such animal.

Hey @NomoreY_A! Sorry I’ve been gone…

No prob..just been hanging in here posting inanities rather than moping over something I can’t control.