Did she use me? (NSFW)

You’re having sex and you finish too soon. Later on she texts you to say she is feeling guilty and that she needs time? Sounds like a brush off to me. I don’t know the whole relationship, that would have to be your decision. But first, if she felt guilty, there is no reason to feel guilty, especially if you are the one that got off too quickly. To say she needs time…for what? Not sure what she needs time for if it was really guilt over you getting off to quickly, which makes no sense. And to say it all in a text? Nope…sounds like she is politely saying she wants out of the relationship…trying to make the breakup easier, less contentious.
The only way any of her stuff makes any sense is if you throw in the idea of her breaking up with you. She feels guilty and like shit because she is breaking up with you because of one episode of unsatisfying sex. She needs time to try and come up with something else to break up with you about. She texts because she doesn’t want to actually have to talk about it.

Is this the same girl that you seem to only talk to through social media? Your last question said you snap chat and facebook her. Do you ever speak to her on the phone or really in person? I think you need to talk to her in person, not through texting or other social media and find out what is really going on with her.

You had sex with your girlfriends friend? Or was that a typo and you put friend twice? If you cheated on your girlfriend with her best friend then obviously she probably would feel bad?

She “feels guilty” and “like shit” because she had sex with you too early in the relationship with you. AS she said, she needs time.

She didn’t use you, and any disappointment in your performance was not connected to her feeling guilty.

As @chyna noted, you need to quit communicating via text and meet her face to face to get to know her.

Sexual compatibility is important. If she dumps you over this, it wouldn’t be the strangest thing ever.

I know lots of girls, who understand that a guy will finish pretty fast the first time with them. Maybe this girl doesn’t get that, or doesn’t care…

I was dumped once, because I wasn’t rough enough with a girl. She “finished,” most times we had sex. She just wanted something that I wasn’t comfortable doing. I like the girls I have sex with, and don’t like to be too rough. So much for that.

I would add, if you have an issue with finishing too soon, work on your foreplay game. That might keep a girl’s interest long enough for you to work on your stamina…

I wish you luck,but as described, it doesn’t sound good.
If she’s dumping you, just chalk this up to a notch in your belt, and some gained experience.

I second what @zenvelo said. She realized she isn’t ready. She realized she needs time. This isn’t about you or your performance, and she said as much. Try to internalize that. People can, and do, realize after trying something that it’s not actually something they’re ready to do yet.

Why the guilt?—

She might feel guilty for saying she was ready and now realizing she’s not ready after all. She might feel like since she said yes once, she’s supposed to say yes from now on, even as she realizes she doesn’t want to do that—and from the conflict between how she feels and what she thinks she’s supposed to do, she feels guilty, as if it’s a “take back” of something she promised. But it’s not. Saying yes once isn’t promising yes for the future. It’s entirely within her right to change her mind. It’s entirely within her right to not want to do something again even if she’s done it once before. However, she might not feel like it’s okay, which leads to the guilt. I should note that this is just a guess on my part of how she might be feeling. It doesn’t mean it’s necessarily right.

It might also feel a bit confusing and uncomfortable for both of you right now. Still, I’d suggest that you do what you can to ease her guilt. Maybe that’s giving her some space. Maybe that’s saying sex is off the table again and that’s just fine. Etc. Try not to make it about your performance, even if you’re feeling a bit unsure right now yourself. It might make her feel added pressure to do something she knows she’s not yet comfortable doing, and that’s not a place either of you want to be.

Only she knows why she feels guilty but you could ask of course. I have no idea why she is being like this only she does. Normally when two people meet up and do have sex, they communicate about it afterward between each other. I think that is what is wrong with the world in general people have lost the art of communication. They turn to the internet for answers and not the person concerned.
Sometimes people connect and it didn’t work out how they wanted. It might not be because you finished too early but a whole array of things that happened, of which we have no idea. Tell her you’ll give her space but why does she feel guilty and then take it from there.