What is one advice that you would like to give to newly weds?

It’s all down hill, from here!~

Seriously, I would say one word, “work.” A serious/equal relationship requires hard work. “What have you done for your marriage today?” sums it up.

Don’t do it! But nobody listens to that so…

Sit down and work out a prenup that you both agree to. If you can’t sit down and do that with each other then I don’t have to tell you how the rest will work.

Don’t completely pool finances. Have your retirement accounts, working bank account for bills, one for emergencies and one for each of you. In those accounts for each of you agree that a set amount of money goes into them each month and this money can be used for anything you want. This keeps you from having to ask each other permission all the time, lessen money arguments and will help keep your budget on track.

Have separate spaces in your dwelling be it a spare bedroom, mancave in the garage etc where you both can be yourself and enjoy your hobbies without compromise.

It’s not the end of the world if you’re not always having sex or happy with each other all the time.

Plan activities with each other every week. May sound silly at the start of a relationship but as you age together it can be easy to get caught up in careers and your day to day grind. If you are not careful months can go by without really appreciating each other. Contrary to popular belief personality compatibility is more significant than activity compatibility so plan things you both enjoy and be prepared to compromise.

If you can delay marriage live together fo a couple years yes years. Better to know for sure, getting married is easy but getting a divorce is not.

Get to know your inlaws, you’re married to them as well….for better or worse. Don’t ignore this one, I mean it, good inlaws can make a good marriage great but bad ones will utterly destroy it.

Don’t put all your money in the wedding, put it in the honeymoon and your first home together. Some will argue against but if you can do it pick out and purchase/rent your dwelling together instead of moving into one or the others place. This will allow more streamlined compromise. Home is where the heart is so if you’re not home at heart you won’t be in your marriage either.

Oh, and if you have kids you can forget about all that. It’ll be work-kids and not much else.

Always remember you can love somebody and still not like them from time to time.

Your biggest fights will probably be about money or sex or lack of each,

If you are a guy, at some point she is going to bitch about you leaving the seat up. Yes, she is a big girl and should check before she sits and no, you don’t bitch at her for leaving the seat down but by far the most equitable solution is to always, always put both the seat and the lid down that way both (or neither) of you are happy.

Patience and a little understanding goes a long way.

Give yourselves time to get to know and enjoy each other before you have children.

Never go to bed mad and always kiss each other goodnight.

https://youtu.be/suAhGfVr_4U

Live together first! Screw tradition and morality. Even a dimwit would test drive a car. Go back up and read “are you kidding me”s advice. Print it up. Tape it on your refrigerator door and the mirror in front of which you shave or apply makeup. It would also make a nice bookmark for your bible.

DON’T HAVE KIDS!

Be nice to each other.

Set up a joint checking account, then put in only 80% of your paychecks. Use that for joint expenses, like food, car, and rent. Your 20% is for your own fun stuff – gadgets, clothes. That way you can buy whatever knickknacks you want without argument.

Find which of your high school friends became a lawyer and make sure you get close again. You will need that in the near future.

A long lasting relationship with your playstation will be more gratifying in the long run.

Remember the car of your dreams? The trip around the world you dreamed of? That timeless piece in your wardrobe that you always wanted but was so decadent and expensive that you just did not get it when you were too poor to afford it?

Well, you can kiss all that goodbye…

In the end, one day you will give a drunken confession… like this

Don’t take life too seriously. Things happen…get over it. Work as a team and enjoy life as a couple. Don’t let ANYONE come between you. When (if) you have kids, welcome them into your group, but they don’t come between you and your spouse…they expand the group. Be your spouse’s cheerleader…cheering their successes and drowning your sorrows with them when they have setbacks.

Laugh more.

Plan to go on family holidays once a year. It takes the boredom out of marriage. Alot of people end up having affairs because they do not break with the routine of married life.

At least once a month go out alone together as a couple.

Always communicate and be honest in your feelings. Do not bottle things up at all.

Plan exactly how many kids you want to have and whether it is financially feasible given the type of lifeststyle you want to have.

If you find yourself being strongly attracted to someone outside your marriage avoid them as much as possible if you can. Do not fool yourself into thinking you can just be friends.

Always be cautious with people of the opposite sex. There are actually people in this world that would love to break up your marriage or have an affair with you.

Some days you will hate your spouse and even think of divorce. If this happens go out for a walk or coffee or anything by yourself and think again about why you married each other. Sometimes you do need a break from each other.

If you can afford it consider working part time when you have a baby and when your kids are toddlers. Baby really does take a toll on your marriage.

Do not have kids because you think it will fix your relationship. Children are hard work.

Do not feel pressured into having kids because everyone else is. It is ok to be childless.

Fuck. I mean constantly. If you aren’t doing that, get divorced and find someone you’re fucking at least three times a day.

^lol..That’s the best advice to give I guess..)~