What does this part in this article mean?
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January 13th, 2018
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I read an artical called: Why women have uncommited sex. And this was one of the reasons- Consequently, women have uncommitted sex in the hope of successfully competing with other women for committed love. In addition to compelling women into uncommitted sex, the imbalanced marriage market disadvantages women in other ways. The imbalanced ratio of male-to female power leads women to more often strike “bad deals” at the margins of the marriage market. This increases the divorce rate, and likely informs the statistic that women file for divorce far more often than men. What does that mean???
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Doesn’t make a lot of sense to me. As for more women filing for divorce, it might be that because women are the ones who end up traditionally caring for the house and raising children, maybe they’re just fed up with guys who won’t pull their share, are abusive, etc. anyway that’s how it’s been with women I have known who have filed for divorce.
I think they are saying since there are more women than men looking to get married. (“imbalanced marriage market”), some women will have uncommitted sex to induce men to go with them rather than other women. ”“in the hope of successfully competing with other women for committed love.”. Women will have sex to so the men hang around and hopefully stay.
The second part is talks about another problem the imbalance causes. Being desperate to find committed love, some women will marry poor choices of men e.g. abusers, drug abusers, unemployables, guys with neck and face tattoos, barista at Starbucks, etc. (“bad deals” ) ”“at the margin of the marriage market” (He has no job but he does have a penis so I will marry him anyway – maybe even have a child!)
When the marriage does not work out, more often than not it is the woman who files for divorce. (My note: she will likely do after after she has a child.)
As an aside this sounds like a very old-fashioned or biased article. Many women have un committed sex because they want to have sex.
What is the source of that article if I may ask?
@jannb I was thinking exactly the same thing. Not every female action is related to men, we have NEEDS too….haha
@janbb @KNOWITALL i thought about that too.but when I go out to a nicer restaurant rarely do I see a man more put together and well dressed than the woman.
Quite often you will see the woman dressed so nicely and the guy is a slob. It seems disrespectful to her but she let’s him gets away with it.
@LuckyGuy What if that just has to do with more women tending to care & pay more attention to that type of personal appearance than men tend to? And that, from what I’ve read & heard, tends to have to do with women’s self-image and comparison to other women, than it does to attracting men.
I think some women choose to have sex in un-comitted relationships, but I don’t think those are the majority. Most women who are in un-comitted relationships are in them because they are desperate for a man to make a commitment to them, and are willing to go along with the lack of commitment in hopes that the man will eventually change his mind.
There are certainly cases where the man does eventually fall in love with the woman and wants to marry her, or be her boyfriend, but usually the man gets tired of the woman and moves on to someone else, but that also happens within relationships where both parties were committed and in love.
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