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NerdyKeith's avatar

When taking part in online social dating, what are some good alternative greetings I could use instead of the standard "hi"?

Asked by NerdyKeith (5489points) February 9th, 2018

In a lot of profiles I see on Tinder, Badoo, Ok Cupid etc guys like to use the line in their profile:
“Say more than hi”
“Hi is not memorable”
“If you message me with ‘hi’, I will block you”

So what would you recommend instead of saying hi or hey, hows it going? I’ve even tried “Hey Mr, hows you?”. But I think that may come off as a little too forward or familiar.

Its been suggested before that to open a conversation with some interest stated in their profile. But not all guys fill out their profiles. What do you do then? Should I just randomly start talking about some of my interests? I might be too nerdy for some guys though lol

Any advice?

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janbb's avatar

If you’re only going from a picture, how about something like, “Hey, Great smile!” Or “Nice eyes!” If there’s more of a profile to work with, I would pick out something they say that interests you and make a comment or ask a question about that.

RedDeerGuy1's avatar

~ Are you as pathetic as I am?

NerdyKeith's avatar

@RedDeerGuy1 Oh wow haha I have to say that would certainly be original

Adagio's avatar

@RedDeerGuy1 In all honesty, that would put me off.

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ARE_you_kidding_me's avatar

“I’m interested would you like to meet for a cup of coffee?”
“my name is”” here is what I like about your profile”

I mean regular conversation: being polite, honest and direct are time proven methods.
Gimmicks are just gimmicks, don’t bother.

johnpowell's avatar

Any computer troubles? I might be able to help you out.

@reddeerguy… Putting yourself out there is the opposite of pathetic.

zenvelo's avatar

“Let me be the brave one to start a conversation….”

Really, if a guy says somethinf like “say more than hi”, I’d want to start with something like, “what wonderful repartee do you use to open a conversation.”

Zaku's avatar

Pretend you both exchanged some generic greetings, and now it’s an opening for you to say something else.

dxs's avatar

Sounds like people I would avoid. Now being able to hold a conversation I can understand, but not being able to take a simple “hi”? They’re full of themselves or probably have too high standards.

CWOTUS's avatar

“We’ll always have Tinder.”

BellaB's avatar

Now that we’ve made it past hi .... something conversational

SergeantQueen's avatar

Honestly, if it’s a teenage white boy saying that, they probably want a “Hey big boy wanna trade?”

But, if it’s older guys maybe they want a funny pick up line or a joke or something

zenvelo's avatar

“Is that a banana in your pocket or are you just glad I swiped right?”

SergeantQueen's avatar

“I’m 6feet and 7inches…those are two measurements.”

NerdyKeith's avatar

Yeah I’ve just gone back to “Hey how are you?”. But if they have something interesting on their profile I’ll use that as a conversation starter

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